After school, do you write your homework first or play first? Your attitude has a big impact

| Fish Daddy

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Many mothers ask me what to do when my children come home after school, always like to play, and do not like to write homework.

There are also mothers who say that their children will go out to play on weekends, but they are worried that their homework will not be done, can they go out?

Today, share an essay about playing and learning.

Last weekend, I woke up and opened the curtains to finally see the shadow of the sun.

Be aware that the cold has lasted for more than ten days.

I heard that little fish was already listening to online lessons, and on weekends before, we could play together almost all day outside.

And now his weekends have become very busy.

It's really evocative to think about the time before elementary school.

In the morning, I can take him out of the house slowly and eat a bowl of flour or ravioli.

Then go to the open-air wet market together to buy the day's fresh vegetables.

He was more than three years old, carrying a small bag, and followed me.

Then help me carry the dishes and go home to make lunch.

After lunch, sometimes at home, I tell him picture book stories, memorize ancient poems, and scribble.

Then go out to the park and pick up those branches and leaves, sometimes watching him catch bugs.

Every day is slow, but very happy.

It's hard to see now.

"After class, let's ride together!" I called out while he was resting.

"No way! There's also school homework to do, and weekly exercises to be written. Mom came out in time to step on the brakes.

She was always more sane than I was and would arrange.

"It's okay, I'll come back and write it later, go out and ride for an hour and come back." Not far away! ”

"Mom, I want to go." The son also looked at his mother with blank eyes.

alas! It's really not that your mother won't let you go, it's really that you have a lot of homework.

But it's all right, let's go back quickly.

(Follow our video number to share the sound moments and stories of growing up)

Then we inflated the bikes and went out.

Ride on the river embankment and feel the sweetness of earth in the air.

It's been a long time since it came out!

If you're not careful, it's a few weeks.

The only exercise each day is also the few laps after dinner to go downstairs.

I found that it wasn't just the little fish that did.

A girl from the same building as us used to see her playing downstairs with her brother.

Because she has a cheerful and generous personality, there is always a large group of children playing with her.

But several times, she only saw her brother following her grandmother below.

The children were playing that day, and when they asked, they knew that my sister was basically writing homework on the weekend.

"You don't know! I always couldn't finish writing, I didn't learn much before, many wouldn't, couldn't keep up with the progress, and I had to be criticized by her father. Her grandmother whispered to us.

I feel the same way!

When she first entered the first grade, she was simply "on the knife mountain and down to the sea of fire", and the parents who came over were good men.

Sometimes I talk to my friends.

They all say that they are too busy now, and it is rare to get together!

"Dad, I'm actually busy, getting busier." My son interjected several times about it.

Counting with his fingers, there was really not much time for him.

Because every day there is after-school tutoring in school, it is 5 o'clock to go home.

When he comes home, he will read his favorite extracurricular books (this is a must do every day, and it is also a kind of relaxation)

He said to me himself, "Dad, you'll let me see more and give me a break." ”

But I was worried about his eyes, staring at the book would not work.

He will be reminded to look out the window or play with some toys.

But sometimes he forgot the time and asked us to remind us to do our homework.

There are also piano lessons, Go lessons, and English online lessons every week.

However, when I inquired, I learned that his courses were still few.

Many students in the class have five or six courses.

This is the autumn of 2019 in the small river play in the hometown, how happy

So the little fish has two days on the weekend, and one day it will belong to him.

I call it "a child's day."

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There was no training class that day, and homework could be arranged less.

This may be a benefit that only exists in elementary schools.

But I still hope to keep it.

And many children do not have weekends, and it can even be said that weekends are more tiring than going to school.

So they'd rather go to school than look forward to the holidays.

Because in middle school, it's a different story.

The girl from the neighbor's house, going to middle school.

Almost all of the time is spent on learning.

Back home, there are a lot of test papers, and online classes.

You will find that there seems to be a large net invisibly, covering the children tightly.

The time that belongs to them is getting less and less time to play, to be in a daze, and to create.

So you'll often hear your parents calling, "Come on! Do your homework", "Let's go, it's time for class!" ”

It's rare to hear parents say, "Come, let's play together!" "Go, have fun." ”

Because what rings in the ears of parents is: "Let the children play now, and the children will not have to play in the future." ”

"You don't tutor your children, your grades don't go up, you can't go to high school." Do you dare to let him keep playing? ”

I was nervous to hear that!

So what I should learn, what I have to learn, I have not let the child fall behind.

I still hope to be in a stressful environment.

Try to create conditions and find opportunities for children to have relatively relaxed and independent time to experience different lifestyles.

A dragonfly caught by a small fish in his hometown

Life cannot only be learning, learning, and learning.

There must also be a time to have fun.

After all, play is a matter of course for children.

So, ride a bike, play chess with him, go to a square or a park...

These small gaps in time, you must not underestimate, let alone feel indifferent.

Childhood is made better because of this.

Not sure what you remember most about your childhood?

In my childhood memories, there are my own cries of being murdered and blamed by my grandmother.

More is the laughter of touching fish, releasing geese and playing ball with friends in the countryside.

So, after school, do you write your homework first or play first?

In fact, it is a test of parents' attitude and grasp of play and learning.

Please pluck up the courage to give your child a little more time to play, a little time of his own.

Don't push too hard, rush too fast.

When moving forward, remember to see if the child can run up, is it suitable?

Parents are to make far-reaching plans for their children's future.

But don't let his childhood be wrapped too tightly in that net!