In our previous impression, "strict father and mother" has become our traditional impression, the fear of the father is always the greatest, sometimes want to get close to the father, will be timid, but we also know that the father love is like a mountain, they are not good at words, always appear in a serious image, but with a kind of fatherly love that we do not understand to protect us, yes, one two three future Xiaobian is living in such a traditional family.
But now, strict fathers and loving mothers are not only the only choice, but also the education method of "tiger mother and cat father", that is, an education method opposite to strict fathers and loving mothers. The mother plays the strict side, criticizing the child and demanding the child strictly, while the father is responsible for loving, comforting and persuading the child. Some parents believe that discipline of children requires the cooperation of both husband and wife in all aspects, one is responsible for "strictness" and the other is responsible for "love", so as to achieve the ideal effect of educating children.
Children are very smart when they are young, academic ability is also very strong, it is easy for children to have the habit of "seeking benefits and avoiding harms", "seeking benefits and avoiding harms" is human nature, we always like to be beneficial to us, in the long run, children are easy to get close to the loving side, and there is a sense of distance to the strict side.
Tiger mother's education method is not only in learning, but also in life, mothers will set a lot of requirements for their children, such as not eating junk food, not drinking carbonated drinks, not staying up late, and so on. In fact, in the eyes of the child, the mother has become the most "unlovable" person in the world; and the father's side, once the child is more spoiled, will lead the child to take the idea of the parents being better or worse, so that the child cannot distinguish between right and wrong, only knows who is "good" to me, who is right.
In fact, there is no right or wrong in education, different families will have different ways of education for different children, an education method cannot be adapted to all families, and even some education methods will only succeed in specific groups, just like we all know the success of Guo Degang's education of Guo Qilin, but all know that this success cannot be copied.
Tiger mother and cat father education is not wrong, to some extent, there is a certain guiding value, but to grasp a degree, strict and loving is indispensable. In addition to meeting the child's material requirements, but also pay attention to the child's psychological needs, let the child feel that he is respected, recognized, trusted, most of the Traditional Chinese education is criticism education, let the child grow up in the pressure, the child often has a rebellious psychology; today's children live in better conditions at the same time, the psychology will be more sensitive, fragile, blind criticism is not advisable, more encourage education.
In fact, in the final analysis, the first two three future editor believes that this transformation of education methods is a reflection of social relations, the emergence of more independent women, they are more pursuit of equality between men and women, more pursuit of economic independence.