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Some children have the problem of losing three or four, once they arrive at school, they often find that they forgot to bring things, either they forgot to take homework, or they forgot to bring stationery, or forgot to bring school uniforms, call parents, and send these things.
There are also children, their own alarm clock, ringing over and over again, parents urged again and again, is to rub not to get up, finally, found that the time to school is not enough, afraid of being late to be trained, they begged parents to lie and ask for leave, to escape the punishment of the teacher.
This kind of thing may have happened to many parents. In the face of such a situation, parents must be fierce, let the children bear their own faults, parents are only responsible for reminding, reminding, they make mistakes, they have to bear their own.
Rousseau believed that the punishment of a child was the natural result of his faults. Everyone is responsible for their own actions, and your faults cannot be borne by others.
Lu You of the Song Dynasty wrote in "Reading books on winter nights to show Zi Yu": "On paper, I finally feel shallow, and I absolutely know that this matter must be done." ”
Sometimes, let the child try it for himself, and if he feels that it is good to wear one less piece, let him be cold. What he himself feels and experiences are often more profound than those taught to him by his parents.
The process of children's growth is a long process of learning and trial and error.
Many parents think that they do not help their children,
How do they know what to do?
If you don't remind them,
What if they mess things up?
Wouldn't it be worse not to warn and not to supervise?
Truly effective family education is the education of the rules.
Children should be required to behave, and such rules should be delineated, which could in fact define the boundaries of their behaviour and give them greater physical and mental freedom under such rules.
Otherwise, a reckless child, they can easily do all sorts of things that cause them to endure more setbacks.
To tell a thousand truths is not as profound as to let children understand the truth of trial and error.
The growth of children needs to be realized by themselves, rather than the parents' arrangements, many truths, only after their own trial and error, enlightenment, will be profound, will be touched.
In the process of children's education, both parents should be highly consistent and unified. In the process of family education, there are often differences in the opinions of parents, and even differences with grandparents' education, which is very undesirable.
Although the child is small, but can keenly capture the parents' point of view, will be inclined to their own advantage, so educate the child, especially for the child's trial and error, let the child take responsibility for themselves.
If the child does not eat, pick a meal, grandparents may be distressed by the child, feeding, or buying snacks, this is not advisable, should not eat themselves, then they have to bear the result of hunger.
Listen to and respect your child's ideas and guide them to change sides.
Parental listening is crucial in the growth of children, and each child has his own ideas and expressions
Parents should learn to listen to their hearts.
When children make mistakes, parents may wish to put aside preconceived ideas and judgments, leave them with the opportunity to state and explain, listen carefully, and understand the ideas in their children's hearts.
After understanding the origin of the matter, parents then after objective analysis, criticize and educate their children's mistakes, help them understand their mistakes, and establish a correct view of right and wrong.
If the child argues that it is someone else's fault to shirk their own responsibility, parents can first appropriately appease the child, channel their negative emotions, and tell them that they should have the courage to take responsibility and learn to change their positions.
After that, parents need to guide their children to think more from the perspective of others and enhance their children's empathy. Finally, parents encourage their children to face their mistakes bravely and cultivate their ability to self-reflect.
The path of children's growth is never smooth, and they can often learn to grow gradually in the process of stumbling and making mistakes. Growth is a process of trial and error, and then continuous improvement.
It is not terrible for children to make mistakes, what is important is how to guide children to explore and dig out, dare to face and correct their mistakes.
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