Now there are many young people who choose to have an "only child" after marriage, thinking that having a child, their own pressure will be much less, but in fact, young people with this kind of thinking, the vision is still relatively limited, especially limited to the present, and not considered for the future.
There was a street interview video earlier, the interviewee was a little girl in her early 20s, just graduated and worked, the girl is the only daughter of the family, unfortunately, both parents are hospitalized, for this little girl in her early 20s, life has changed dramatically.
After her parents were hospitalized, all the pressure fell on her alone, every day was the hospital, home, company three-end running, and her parents also lived on different floors of the hospital, every day on this floor to see the mother, to go to the other floor to see her father, and the family's economic conditions simply did not allow her to hire a nurse, every day in the company to work, she was worried about the situation of her parents in the hospital.
In the interview, the girl cried as she spoke, and finally said that if there were brothers and sisters, she might not be so hard, some people can support each other, and some people can tell each other their hearts, but now they are really helpless. Perhaps many young people do not feel empathy for this feeling, and only those who have actually experienced it know the suffering of only children.
The previous generation who blindly insisted on "only birth" is now lamentable and worth learning from young people
Earlier, one of my relatives had only one son, and the family conditions were not very good, plus his son also married an only child, and the conditions of both families were not good.
This also means that two young people will have to raise four old people in the future, if the grandparents of both sides are still there, then they will have to raise eight old people, and if they have children, the pressure will be even greater.
Later, relatives died early, according to our side of the custom, the loss of no share of money, coupled with all aspects of the operation, an old man died to spend about 100,000 yuan, these pressures are all on his son, you can imagine how much pressure behind this should be.
There are many such examples in life, many people only see the "ease" of parents raising only children, but do not see the suffering of only children. In fact, raising an only child is not as easy as imagined, because there is only one child, so parents will put all their hopes on the child, will also try their best to raise children, pour all resources on the only child, if it is a daughter, parents may face the situation of their daughters marrying far away in the future, and most parents cannot live with their daughter's family.
On the other hand, for the only child itself, the pressure is also very large, especially after the parents enter the old age stage, if the parents do not have a pension, then basically rely on the children to raise, and this part of the only child if they remarry to the only child family, then the small family combined by the two only children is also very much pressure.
Only only children, parents in the later years may not feel the liveliness of multi-child families, more often faced with loneliness and hardship, such old people in the old age is also more likely to have depression or Alzheimer's disease. If it is a multi-child family, it may also be able to take turns to visit the elderly, at least the elderly will not be so lonely.
Therefore, I still hope that young people can consider more factors, do not feel that the pressure of having children now is greater, it is better to have only one child, but in fact, the only child may be easy for only a short period of time, and the pressure faced for a long time in the future will only be greater.
There are also many only children because they are busy with work and their own small family for a long time, naturally there is no way to accompany the elderly, simply put the elderly in the nursing home, in fact, this is also very painful for the elderly, presumably this part of the elderly if they thought that there would be such a situation, perhaps they would not choose to have an only child.
Of course, whether to choose an only child, or need to look at all aspects of the young people's own factors, if they are really unwilling to have more children, then follow their own wishes. Therefore, before making a good decision, it is better to think fully about it, rather than waiting until you enter the old age stage to regret it, when it is too late. Don't wait until you are fifty or sixty years old to feel that it is better to have another child, and the pressure of that situation may be greater.
Finally, it also needs to be emphasized that the benefits of being an only child are not completely without benefits, but for different people, the benefits of being an only child are also different. The second and third children naturally have their own advantages and disadvantages, so in the end it still depends on the situation of young people themselves, and in any case, they cannot blindly follow the trend.
Conclusion: The only child, the second child, the third child, in fact, depends on the parents' education methods, only the child is well educated, the pressure will be much less in the future, otherwise even if there are more children, there is no use, but may cause a bunch of trouble.