Someone asked: First bitter and then sweet and first sweet and then bitter life, which one do you choose?
Seemingly idiotic questions, but triggered a lot of people's discussion. One of the answers is this: the first half of life has not worked hard, the second half of life can only struggle in pain, looking back, the first half of life's mediocrity is not sweet, but sour.
Child, the suffering you are suffering now is paving the way for the future. Time will eventually prove that all the sufferings suffered will not be in vain, and there will be no regrets. A good parent is the one who teaches him to fish, not the one who keeps protecting his child and keeps giving him fish, because one day there will be no fish to give.
Parents who love their children should also let go at the right time, make up their minds, and make sure to let their children eat these 6 kinds of suffering.
1. The bitterness of reading
Reading, although bitter, is the fastest shortcut to success.
There is a passage in "Dear Andre" that says: "Child, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare your grades with others, but because I hope that you will have the right to choose in the future."
Choose meaningful, time-consuming work instead of being forced to make a living. When your work has meaning in your heart, you have a sense of accomplishment. When your work gives you time and doesn't deprive you of your life, you have dignity.
A sense of accomplishment and dignity brings you joy. "
We have to go a long way in this life, it has never been as simple as eating and wearing warmth, and there are many thorns and bumps waiting for you.
But your parents can only accompany you for a ride, and if you can't accompany you for a lifetime, you still have to rely on yourself after all.
Your parents ask you to study hard, not to add to your childhood, but I don't want you to regret that one day in the future you didn't complain about yourself who didn't work hard!
2. The bitterness of labor
Labor education is inseparable from family education, and doing housework is one of the good labor education.
A harvard scholar once did a survey and came to the conclusion that:
Compared with children who love to do housework, the employment rate is 15:1 compared with children who do not love housework, while the crime rate is 1:10
Children who love to do housework have higher mental health indexes and family happiness indexes, and even in school, children who often do housework tend to perform better.
Mr. Yang Dai's father said:
"Educating children to be independent is better than being the first."
The taboo of independence is to overprotect your child! Children with strong independence,
The ability to solve problems is also relatively higher and the ability to obtain happiness is also stronger!
Willing to let children suffer from labor.
Not a manifestation of unlove, but an expression of deep love,
As the saying goes: The depth of parental love is far-reaching.
3. The bitterness of criticism
Children have to correct mistakes, so that children realize that their wrong behavior is to complete the process of self-reflection and self-examination, so that children can learn from mistakes.
But criticizing children is an art.
The purpose of criticism is not to admit mistakes, but to correct mistakes, not to suppress, but to grow!
We want to allow children the opportunity to explain, but never compromise on principle.
Criticize children, pay attention to these points:
Do not criticize the child while eating, so as not to affect the child's appetite;
Do not criticize the child before going to bed, so as not to affect the child's height development;
Don't criticize your child in public so as not to hurt your child's self-esteem.
After criticism, do not turn over the old accounts, know the mistakes and change them, still a good child.
4. The bitterness of separation
All the love in life is to gather the love of only parents, to separate.
Psychologist Sylvia said: "The really successful love of parents is to separate the child from your life as an independent individual as soon as possible." The sooner this separation, the more successful you will be. "
The growth of a child is a process of gathering, dispersing, and separating
From the time they start kindergarten life out of their mother's body and mother's breast, from their new classes to be separated from their best friends, from their loved ones...
All of this makes us feel reluctant and sad, but it just teaches us
We must know how to cherish, know how to be strong, and know how to be self-reliant
5. The bitterness of failure
We often say that failure is the mother of success.
A person's life is always full of twists and turns, and no one will succeed in a lifetime,
Failure is a normal thing,
Properly educating children with some setbacks is a compulsory course in children's lives.
If the child denies his or her efforts because he fails an exam,
If the child thinks he can't do it because he loses a game,
Well, the child's glass heart will make it difficult for him to really stand up forever.
Life is a marathon
We don't have to compete for the first person to run, after all, those who can win at the starting line are temporary.
And the real winner must be the one who laughs to the end.
Please tell your child:
When you feel tough, believe that this is the time when you are closest to success.
When you feel uncomfortable when you have failed, please believe that if you stand up faster, you will have the hope of winning.
6. Unruly suffering
Blind indulgence is not love, but harm!
Don't take "the child is small and doesn't understand things" and "he's still a child" as a reason
Turn a deaf ear to the uncultured behavior of your child
In the long run, children will become blind, selfish, and wanton for everything just to be happy for themselves.
It doesn't matter if others are dead or alive.
When the time comes, the due evil consequences will be retaliated against, and the parents will not be able to cry.
As the saying goes:
No rules, no squares.
Since the child has made a mistake, he should be punished accordingly.
Don't forget the rules that should be taught to your child.
For example: you can't make loud noises in public places and disturb others at will;
Visit other people's homes, do not mess with other people's things, and seek the consent of others in advance;
As parents, we need to remember that the process of educating our children is also the process of self-education.
Let us become better and better selves in the process of educating our children!