The son's poor grades, the teachers have given up, but the mother can not give up, to find a way to let the child from the "scum" counterattack into the "school bully", in the end is there a way? The answer is yes. A single mother with a 12-year-old child is indeed not easy, if the child is obedient and sensible and good grades, the mother is also happy to be tired, once the child is not obedient, the academic performance is poor, it can be imagined that the mother's mood is very bad, the children of divorced families will be more or less affected, the child's personality may change, from lively and cute to taciturn, from diligence to laziness, and even some children will lose interest in learning.
Is such a child not saved? The answer is no. There is no fixed model to educate children, but the most important one is to communicate with children, enter the child's psychology, understand the child's true thoughts, and propose rational solutions to the problems currently encountered by the child. Verbal abuse and corporal punishment of children only alienate children more and more from their parents. Children are lazy, Chinese, mathematics and English are the last to last, from such descriptions, it can be seen that children have lost the confidence to learn.
The main reason may be that family changes lead to the lack of maternal and paternal love, and the child does not feel the warmth of the family and lacks a sense of security. Is there any way to get a child into learning quickly? Parents do not force their children to improve their grades quickly, which will be counterproductive, and education children must start from the "heart" to solve the child's psychological problems, and other problems will be solved. The most effective way to solve children's psychological problems is to accompany more, enhance the feelings of mother and child, and generate a sense of trust in the process of companionship, so that children will open their hearts and communicate with their parents, and parents will know their children's true thoughts.
A 12-year-old child may have symptoms of rebellion, and a child may not listen to the parents' earnest teachings, saying big truths, saying that he understands, and saying small truths he may refute. In this case, you need to borrow strength, find friends or relatives who have a good relationship with themselves to do ideological work for the child, first let the child understand the current situation of the family, not that the parents do not love the child, but the parents are busy with livelihood may ignore the real feelings of the child, or the parents do not know how to express love, use the warmth of the family to impress the child, let the child feel that they are happy.
In the process of communicating with children, pay attention to listening to the child's voice, it is best to repeat what the child says, answer the child's questions in a targeted manner, pay attention to the tone to be relaxed, use the examples around to educate the child more convincingly, and avoid using a commanding tone to stipulate what the child should do and what should not be done. As long as the child recognizes the problem from the heart and understands the good intentions of his parents, he will use his favorite way to complete the tasks assigned by his parents. As long as the child has changes in learning and life, parents must enlarge the advantages.
Let the child continue to keep moving towards a higher goal, stimulate the child's love of life, love the passion of learning, cultivate the enthusiasm of the child to actively learn, and help the child build self-confidence. In view of the child's shortcomings, parents can euphemistically propose, let the child recognize their own shortcomings, and let the child correct it in a suggested way, so that the effect may be better. For example, if your child's Chinese and math scores have improved, but English is still the first to last, you can say something like this: "Child, your Chinese and math scores have improved a lot, and your parents see it in their eyes and know that you are actively learning."
If your English score is improved, it will be better, in the process of learning English, what difficulties have you encountered, can you tell us about it? Mom and Dad will do whatever it takes to help you. "I believe that it is easier for children to receive the education of their parents in this way. The improvement of children's academic performance is not something that can be done overnight in the morning, but the result of long-term persistence. Parents educate their children is also a long-term process, when accompanying their children, teach children life skills and learning methods, so that children develop good learning habits.
Parents do these homework, the child's academic performance will naturally be rapidly improved, in order to improve the purpose of the education is not up to their expectations, only to change the child's learning habits and behavior habits, will let the child find fun in the learning process, as long as the child feels happy in learning, the child's academic performance will step up to a new level. You first have to change your mindset, why do you have to go to high school to have a career? Is there no way out of reading vocational high school? Obviously not, and what we lack now is skilled workers, and vocational high schools are a better way to train vocational and skilled workers.
Looking back, you have to clearly and accurately grasp the child's situation, what causes poor learning, is the intellectual factor, or non-intellectual factor, the teacher said that he is lazy, perhaps the teacher is more euphemistic, these must be clear, find the real problem, you can be the right medicine, in order to guide the child to gradually enter the learning track. Originally still in elementary school, not to say give up, poor grades, the focus is on developing the child's own learning motivation, can be observed, can communicate, especially into the child's inner world, stand in the child's point of view to think, to understand, and then induce.
Or, take the child to the poorest place to live for a while and let him perceive the consequences of not learning. Even, you can use a day to take him to pick up garbage, mineral water bottles to sell as living expenses, to see if you can meet the cost of a day, etc., and then let him truly feel that for the future life, you must do a good job of learning, is the way out. In addition, I did not see you say that the child's other shortcomings in addition to learning, at least the child's ideological character is still no problem, this point you should feel relieved and happy, no matter what is said, the child's quality is not bad, this is the most important, this is the most important cornerstone and premise of future development.
Remember, every child has a different flowering period, parents and teachers just need to soak the heart and wait for the flowers to bloom... Everyone has their own way, accompanying children, guiding children, allowing children to grow up physically and mentally, is what parents should do, even if the children can only read vocational high school, it is also your child, a great child in your heart, a best child who occupies your whole soul! Love can change everything, conform to the nature of the child, go with the flow, and work hard for the child! Things have happened, it is useless to blame yourself, it is better to face it calmly and think of a way to solve it.
Teachers give up their children, but parents can't give up. No child is born lazy and rebellious. Children are rebellious, do not like to read and do not like to use their brains, poor grades, I think it can be handled in this way, I hope it is useful. Communication between people is very important, find a suitable time to talk to the child, ask him the reason why he does not like to read, is it because the single-parent family has affected him, or the problem of the school teacher, or he himself does not love to learn, or the environment is caused...? After finding the cause, the right medicine is prescribed. If it is a problem for parents, then it is usually necessary to accompany more, and the love of parents has a great impact on children.
There are always holidays at work, and it is still okay to take half an hour a day. Parents are not highly educated, and they can accompany their children to study hard when they are at home, and they do not know how to ask the teacher for advice. If it is a teacher's problem, it can be suggested that the school give a shift, and not all teachers will teach according to their aptitude. If it's an environmental problem, find a way to transfer. Although this is more difficult. If the child itself does not like to read, then start from the child's interests and hobbies, make up for the weaknesses with the strengths, and line up the elements. During the holidays, take your children out for a walk and relax.
You can pretend that you have no intention, take your child to see how others work, let the child know that it is not easy to make money at work; let the child see more inspirational people and things, and let the child understand that all the good life is not easy to come by. Finally, I wish all children a healthy and happy growth.