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"Stealing" is a derogatory term, a negative label, a bad behavior, and a crime, especially parents who are parents are particularly sensitive to this word and are afraid that their children will get into such vices.
The child did not pay to take the supermarket snacks, and the father took the baby to the door to apologize
An ordinary father in Zhangjiajie, Hunan Province, when he came home from a supermarket, found that his daughter did not know what a snack was, no matter what the child's original intention was, but in the eyes of the father, this kind of behavior was "stealing".
The father quickly told his daughter that he could not take home what he had not paid for, encouraged the child to say the location of the supermarket, and finally guided the child to return the unpaid goods.
Perhaps because her father's attitude was too harsh, the girl walked into the supermarket and immediately returned the goods, wiping her tears and saying, "Never take anything again."
In the comments of the video, many netizens think that the father is too strict, so the small child may not understand what stealing is, and it is not a good thing to directly define the child.
The starting point of netizens is good, but if the small evil is not corrected in time, it may be too late to develop into a major evil. But indiscriminately defining a child's behavior, or even hurting a child's self-esteem, is not a good idea.
A 4-year-old boy in a foreign country took the chocolate without paying for it, and when the father asked the child if he had paid, the child said "no payment" disapprovingly and said that it was just a joke.
The father thought the joke was not fun, and asked the child to send the chocolate back.
The little boy obediently turned around and put the chocolate back on the shelf, but the father did not seem to intend to "let go" of his son, asking the child to admit that he had just acted as "stealing" and apologizing to the supermarket.
When the child is confronted with a pair of eyes and monitoring, he bows his head in shame. Perhaps the father thinks that his education is successful, but he ignores that "too much force" in education will hurt the child's self-esteem and cause the child to become inferior and sensitive.
This is also a reminder to parents that it is good to have the consciousness of "stealing needles when you are young and stealing gold when you grow up", but you cannot judge your child's behavior solely by subjective consciousness.
Parents should avoid the harm of wrong education to their children
"Stealing" is not a trivial matter, let alone put on the child, that is, wronged an adult will also have a heart breakdown, so this word really can not be casually said, let alone casually installed on the child's body.
As long as they are in a state of "doubt", parents should not define their children, let alone criticize their children with insulting words. First find out whether it is the act of "stealing".
Because many children do not understand the meaning of "stealing", thinking that like their own family, what they want to eat can be taken directly, parents are not educated in time, children will inevitably have misunderstandings.
Even if a mistake is made and there is a real theft, the focus should be on correcting the mistake, rather than being an adult and standing on the moral high ground to criticize and humiliate the child.
Don't try to wake up your child by letting them write a letter of guarantee and record an apology video, these "records" will only make the child more ashamed, feel humiliated, and will not focus on correcting mistakes.
If you find that your child is "stealing" something, how to deal with it more appropriately?
To parents, I am dealing with the theft of things from my children.
The second brother took two lollipops in the small supermarket, the hostess saw it but did not say anything because of the good relationship, and when I got home, I found that I did not directly criticize the child, but showed him a video clip of a thief who stole something and was taken away by the police without paying.
The kid turned around and told me he was going to be taken away by the police because he had taken a lollipop from the supermarket.
I knew that the child was already starting to get scared, so I quickly comforted the child and told him that he would not be arrested by the police, and then asked him to say what he thought.
It turned out that the child did not understand what it meant to steal things, he thought that he could take it, and at this time it was the responsibility of the parents, just taking advantage of that opportunity to strengthen the baby's awareness of property rights, trading and other knowledge. The baby hasn't "stolen" since.
If the child is a little older, there is indeed a theft behavior, parents should not be in a hurry to criticize the child, first of all, to clarify the reason for stealing, do not rush to punish the child, find the cause of the problem to help the child solve.
For children who do not change their teaching, parents can choose appropriate punishments, but they should pay more attention to their children's mental health problems.
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