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Today is Women's Day, or Goddess Queen's Day... I want to say, what is the name, send flowers or not, send or not send red envelopes with numerical meanings are nonsense, the best gift that a man can give to his wife is to share family responsibilities.
Two days ago, a netizen suddenly got mad with her husband and wrote a complaint, mainly listing what the couple did every day from morning to night.
I probably looked at it, my friend got up early every day, made breakfast lunch for the junior high school students who were suspended at home during the epidemic, and then busied themselves with going to work. At seven o'clock in the evening, I came home from work and lined up for my children to do nucleic acid, and the two of them could eat at eight o'clock. Then there's housework + checking your child's homework, every day.
The husband goes to work normally every day and returns home at eight or nine o'clock in the evening. When you get home, you swipe your phone, make phone calls, and go to the toilet, and you don't share anything in the house.
The friend then asks a few questions, including:
Is the situation in Ukraine more important than the wife and children? Is the other person's work really too busy to share a little with the family? What kind of people can work and work together, 365 days a year?
To be honest, after reading it, I was very touched, my friend is a virtuous wife and mother type woman, who usually takes good care of her small family very well, especially likes to cook and cook well. Very good to the husband, more dedicated to the children, emotionally stable.
How to follow up, do not dare to ask, only from the words between the lines to judge, this is really to suppress people fiercely, there will be an outbreak.
On the occasion of Women's Day, I would like to ask my female friends - why should the responsibility of the family fall to women by default, or even all fall to women?
I often hear people say something like this:
Politics, commerce, literature, science, art... The top achievements in most of the world's fields are still mostly men.
So does this mean that women are not as smart as men, and less capable than men?
I don't think so, it's just that the vast majority of women will consciously or unconsciously take on family responsibilities, and then in the continuous rotation day after day, year after year, they consume their aura and talents and grind them into fish-eye beads.
How easy is it to juggle career and family?
Even if you don't have a chicken baby, there are countless trivial things waiting to be dealt with in the family. The old man is sick, the hospitals run to register, check, talk about plans; children go to school, the school wants this and that, all kinds of forms fill out all kinds of punch cards... Eating and drinking Lasa gas and electricity at home, what kind of people don't worry about?
Even if it is not a chicken baby, the baby's basic homework must always pay attention to the inspection, and the teacher, classmates, parents send a message complaint and someone must negotiate it. It was hard to finish all kinds of chores, and found that the bowl was not brushed, the dish was not bought, and the ground was not dragged... Whoever changes 365 days like this, who will also have to collapse.
Men's work is "extremely urgent", big things and small things, and women have to take leave to deal with it. Occasionally ask for leave, even if you ask for leave, the leader's face will not look good.
The end result? Recruiting units don't like to ask for girls, even if you are the first in the written test interview, you still want boys.
Fully understand, I came to recruit, I also do not want girls, before the birth of a top two can do it, three days after the birth of the baby there are things at both ends ... ... In such a social situation, women are...
If you say that you can't do a career, it doesn't matter, after all, not everyone has a career, such as me, born unmotivated, what do you love.
The greatest consequence of educated modern women taking on all the responsibilities of the family is the collapse of the mentality. That is, feeling unhappy every day, gritting your teeth every day. The strings are too tight and will break.
Work, housework, family affairs, and chicken babies must be shared by family members, otherwise it is all weighed on one person, which is both unfair and unstable.
Two people are at work, the child is biological, why the man throws his hand in charge - the child teacher does not know, the child does not know what to learn, the class group does not enter, the eyes and teeth do not lead to see, the homework is not tutored, regardless of whether it is received or sent, the online class equipment is not adjusted...
When I got home, I seemed to be tired, the sofa was crooked, I looked at the situation in Ukraine, after a while I called someone to discuss the situation in Ukraine, and after a while I quarreled to break off diplomatic relations... How old are you, huh? No wonder the wife is angry!
Of course, the situation in Ukraine is indeed very important, and I also get up early every morning to watch and debate with people, but su! I'm a housekeeper, cough, yes, I'm a mom and I'm not a dad.
Yes, families vary, some have competent elderly people, some have full-time wives, and some have nannies, but this also does not mean that people who go to work should justifiably do nothing.
A family must have a division of labor.
There are several people in the family to share, then some people buy vegetables to cook and do housework, some people sometimes walk the baby, and someone uses the hardware as a driver to pay the fee.
There are only two people in the family to share, so the couple will each do more, and there is no reason to throw one person on the shoulder.
What about families such as single parents? I tell you, it's really a single parent, the mentality is balanced, and it sticks to it anyway.
In the affairs of the world, there is no widowhood but unevenness.
If a man always actively or passively avoids family responsibilities, for a long time, he will also lack family responsibilities. He would feel that the current order was taken for granted.
There are junior high school students in the family, when the mother's heart is like soup, the father's is Ukrainian. Then, it is right to make a fuss appropriately, and silence cannot be exchanged for the other party's enlightenment. I'm in favor of making a fuss.
Of course, we can't generalize in terms of partiality, in fact, the status of urban women in China is still quite ok. How do I see that?
See it when you fight Warcraft.
I know a paladin who, in order to play games every day after dinner, contracted all the chores in the house and coaxed his wife to be happy before he could go online.
I know a hunter who gets off the line at 8:30 every day to pick up his wife who works the night shift, no matter how critical the fight, picking up his wife is also the first priority. So now I'm playing the first half, and he comes home at 9:30 and then I play the second half.
I know a mage who loves to play games to the death, but he has to coax his children, because his wife is busy and has to work overtime. We often hear him in YY yelling at crying children:
Please go to sleep! Your mom will be home in a minute, and if you haven't fallen asleep yet, we're both dead!
I know a regiment leader, pinch the time to start the group, did not expect to encounter rookies repeatedly extinguished, at four o'clock, several people in the team anxiously shouted:
Hurry up! I'm going to pick up the kids!
The leader of the group has a hard mouth and asks everyone to insist on it:
Don't argue! Have a good fight! I'm going to pick up the kids!" Although our family can come back by herself, if my daughter-in-law knows that I have not answered, she will have to kneel on the keyboard tonight!
There was an unmarried pastor who couldn't help but ask:
Why do men pick up children?
Look, cute men are still a lot! As long as you can share the family responsibilities and really use your heart to experience the grievances in the daughter-in-law's heart, then you can always get the harmony of the family, even if you play games.
Today is Women's Day, and I may be talking a little too much, a little extreme.
Both men and women should understand that as soon as you walk into the family, you have to take responsibility.
Even if the wife is full-time, you have to work, you have to make her feel happy; even if the wife is super capable and doesn't need you at all, you have to mean it, at least have an attitude; even if there is an old man in the family, you can't push it clean, if the old man complains, you can't stand it.
Only in this way can the family be stable, the atmosphere harmonious, the children grow up healthily, and your career can be better and more prosperous.
Here, Karihi Lian wishes all sisters a Happy March 8th!
You've worked hard! I wish you in the busy daily life of work + housework + chicken baby, some people share, have human understanding, and can have a sense of inner peace and joy! I wish you good health, chickens and babies, and new harvests every day!
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