These four behaviors hope that parents will not do again: they will destroy their children's self-confidence and humble themselves to dust

Parents occasionally find that their children have a tendency to introvert and inferiority in the process of educating their children.

Many parents do not know why their children experience these phenomena.

In fact, most of the children's personality is caused by the behavior and education of their parents.

The following four behaviors are likely to be the root cause of problems in children.

01

Don't save face for your children in public

There are many parents who criticize and educate their children regardless of the occasion and time, and are not aware of their own problems.

Criticizing children in front of relatives or outsiders will have an impact on children.

If you blame the child in front of a stranger and hurt the child's self-esteem, the parent's criticism will only make the child more disgusted.

Children often face this behavior, which is likely to cause him to dare not speak loudly in public and not be confident in the future.

02

Compare children to others

One of the words that children are most afraid to hear is "you look at other people's children.".

Because when compared, children will feel that they are not good enough, and parents like other people's children.

Even parents are very disappointed in themselves, and children themselves certainly have no confidence, and they will also have inferiority complex.

This is a kind of oppressive education, although parents want to encourage their children to study harder, but the way is not right.

03

Family discord

If children often see their parents arguing, children will think that their family atmosphere is not good, they feel inferior, and their lives are unhappy.

Some parents will even drop things in the process of quarreling, and sometimes they will beat people with their hands and make some violent moves.

If it is seen by children, the psychology will leave a shadow, and the unhappiness of childhood life will have to be made up for with a lifetime.

Children will not have confidence in the future married life, and even do not want to enter marriage, do not want their children to be like themselves in the future.

They will be afraid to face this kind of life, which has a great impact on the formation of their three views.

Parents who want to maintain family harmony need to communicate as calmly as possible and not always argue in front of their children.

04

Always shout to the children that there is no money

In real life, many parents will cry to their children without financial conditions, perhaps with the intention of hoping that their children can understand themselves.

If you often talk to your children about money problems, it will cause them to feel that they are poor and always think of themselves as a very poor person.

Poor people do not dare to buy new clothes easily for a long time, do not dare to spend more money, will only make them feel very inferior, encounter a thing, the first thing that comes to mind is economic problems, and then feel that they are not worthy of many things.

How can parents properly cultivate their children's self-confidence?

Confidence is made

When children are young, they have a vague concept of right and wrong, they will not evaluate themselves correctly, and they can only understand their own situation through the evaluation of adults, especially the evaluation of parents, family members and teachers.

Therefore, we must be good at discovering children's shining points and advantages, and give praise and affirmation in time, so that children know their own strengths and believe in their own strengths, so as to stimulate children's sense of honor and strengthen their sense of success.

Self-confidence is exercised

Parents should provide their children with the opportunity to express their strengths and achieve success, and enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence.

Encouraging children to participate in group activities and show their strengths and strengths in front of everyone can satisfy their desire for performance, improve their abilities, and increase their self-confidence.

Self-confidence comes out of success after success

It is often said that "failure is the mother of success", and for children, "success is the mother of success", children who have had successful experiences have the ability to have confidence.

Successful daily practice activities can make children gain self-confidence, failed practical activities may give children the lesson of failure, children are more afraid to perform in front of the group, in this sense, parents should pay attention to the child's first performance.

Whoever has the confidence is half the success.

Self-confidence is the spiritual core of children's growth process, and it is the driving force for children to work hard to achieve their aspirations and ideals with confidence.

Finally, it is the family that needs to be emphasized.

Home should be a haven of love.

Children can grow up happier and healthier in a place full of love.

If the parental relationship is not coordinated, the child's observation is very keen, and they can feel the temperature of the family.

If the parents of the friends around them are very loving, they will not only have low self-esteem, but also become timid and afraid, and they are afraid to express their wishes.

I am also afraid that the separation of parents will be ridiculed by many people as children of single-parent families and look down on them.

They are afraid of being looked down upon and are unwilling to make true friends easily.

Children live in a very suffocating and oppressive environment for a long time, afraid of the tension of the relationship between parents, and afraid of becoming the outlet of their parents.

They live carefully, and no one can give them a sense of security.

For a long time, a lot of emotions are pressed in the heart and no one is likely to cause depression in children.

Children who are extreme may choose to leave home and go far away, or even engage in some self-harm.

Children cannot understand why their parents are always arguing, and they do not know what their parents have experienced.

However, for the parents experienced some bad things, back home can still quarrel with each other, at least part of the emotions vented.

However, children face their parents and the environment, they do not know how to deal with their emotions, slowly self-struggle contradictions, if the parents do not perceive the child's abnormality, the child may live in this shadow for the rest of his life.

Family harmony is an important factor in the growth of children.

Parents should try not to have serious quarrels between them, and if they cannot be avoided, they must avoid their children.

Don't let your child find out that you are arguing, it will scare the child.

Parents' behavior has a deep impact on children, parents do not open their mouths with dirty words, children will learn after listening to them several times.

Since parents have decided to have children, they must plan for the child's life and need to constantly improve themselves to become a qualified parent.

Source: Homeschooling

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