When it comes to the way of educating children, the methods between modern young people and elders are completely different, people often say that the next generation of relatives, it is true, because parents love their children, so they love the house and Wu, the children's children they will also do their best to help raise, although the parents' starting point is good, but for children, accommodating everywhere is not necessarily a good thing.
When the older generation is young, the material living conditions are very scarce, and in addition, because they are busy with work or other things, the spiritual care for their children is relatively small, and when they are young, they feel that they are for life, and when they are old, they leave guilt and regrets, and these regrets will naturally make up for the next generation.
Recently, a woman in Maoming City, Guangdong Province, complained about such a thing on her social platform, the elders of the family doted on the child, let the child's bad habits develop, and was also rebuffed when she gave her opinions to the elders, and suddenly felt particularly disgusted in her heart.
It is reported that the elders are very fond of the children on weekdays, and their children do not love to eat, so the elders have thought of a way to let the children eat while watching cartoons, so that the children can eat more, and the more they eat, the body will naturally be good.
But the elders do not realize that this idea itself is not right, there are many ways to solve the child's dislike of eating, let her eat less snacks, only when it comes to the meal point can eat, the first meal does not matter, the next meal is hungry naturally eat. According to the reaction of these two elders, it seems that as long as the child can eat, no matter what kind of request is made, it will be agreed.
From the video, we can see that the child looks about 2.3 years old, and it is reasonable to say that he has no problem eating at such a big age, but the reality is that the child is sitting on a chair, chewing food in his mouth, while staring intently at the cartoon on the mobile phone, while the two elders are sitting on either side, one holding a rice bowl in his hand, obviously feeding the child, while the other is holding his hand to wait for the child to finish eating.
See here, many netizens are discussing not to be so accustomed to children, this is coddling, such a child once the formation of habits will be difficult to adjust, although this practice seems to love children, but in fact it is harming her.
The mother of the child on the side also put forward opinions to the elders after seeing this phenomenon, the child can not get used to her like this, otherwise she will be spoiled in the future, but the elders do not think so, in their view, you yourself as a mother do not feed the child, do not let us feed?
Lao Yu wanted to say
The reason why more and more young people are now unwilling to live with the elders, the reasons for this will also account for part of it, when there are no children, it is better, when there are children, young people and the elderly will inevitably have differences in their ideas, the elderly feel that young people do not understand anything, they have raised several children, experience is sufficient, young people should listen to themselves.
However, for young people, modern society is no longer like before, and now people are pursuing scientific feeding, advocating the abandonment of old concepts and old ideas, and using the new era of education methods to raise children, so that children can keep up with the pace of the times.
As for the situation that parents are stopped by the elders as soon as they discipline their children, it cannot be said that there is none, but it can only be said that they are everywhere, and they are by no means in the minority, so young talents are not willing to live with the elderly, and it is also because of the different educational concepts that there is no way to educate children well together.
Lao Yu believes that the child should start to cultivate his independence and independent thinking from an early age, and at the same time correctly guide the child's outlook on life, so that since the child has his own ideas, as long as the direction is correct, then our parents can unconditionally support and let the child boldly let the child go to his own piece of the sky, so at least he can let his child walk in front of many peers, do you think?