Text/Little Snow Mom
Now many elderly people are generations apart, there is a child in the family, every time the child comes to the house, the old man is happy like a child, like the child at the same time easy to spoil the child.
My parents' we naturally give all the love to the child, but we can't "spoil" the child, become selfish and do not know how to respect and love the parents and elders, in the child's character, the parents should also guide the education, to cultivate the child into an excellent person who knows filial piety, respects the old and loves the young.
"Little fellow, isn't it a shame to come to my house every day to rub rice?"
There is a daughter in the home of the neighbor Uncle Zhang, and the son-in-law is only recruited locally, after all, this child does not want the daughter to be too far away from him. The daughter and son-in-law bought a house in the city, and the work is usually quite busy, because the kindergarten makes the township public side, so Uncle Zhang and his wife take on the task of going to and from school every day.
Because the two families are not far away, Uncle Zhang's daughter often brings her grandson to the house, and the old man also likes to tease the child, and once saw the grandson, he joked: "Little guy, is it not harmful to come to my house every day to rub rice?" ”
Uncle Zhang just finished speaking, the boss laughed and scolded improperly, how can this kind of words be said to the child, but did not expect that the grandson was not only not shy, but said indifferently: "My father has said, in the future, both of you things are mine."
Although the child's sentence was also said when the old two were joking, but the child was so directly "said out", the heart was very uncomfortable, I felt that the old two were not old, this was remembered, really a little bit of a "little white-eyed wolf" feeling, there is a knot in the heart.
This sentence was also heard by the daughter and reprimanded the child fiercely, but Uncle Zhang felt that there was still a problem with the child's education, and no adult would not say such a thing without an adult teaching the child.
In fact, there are not many such examples in life, children are accustomed to the old man's efforts, and they deserve to enjoy the help given by the old man, and even their own children have become disrespectful to the elderly.
I remember very clearly that there was a child in the relative's family, in front of his parents, calling his grandmother an "old thing", and the parents only verbally reprimanded a few words but there was no fluctuation in their hearts, and this disrespect for the elders was bound to make the children have no moral standard of respect for the old and love for the young in their hearts.
Nowadays, children scold the elderly, but in the future, children may scold you, from the child's childhood, parents can not stop the ideological education of children, especially respect, understanding, gratitude, sympathy These ideas must not be left behind.
While pampering children, we must also teach children to love!
First, don't teach your child to be too selfish
As parents or the elders of our children, we naturally love our children for no reason, but we can't spoil our children too much and make them feel that all this is what you should do.
If it really comes to this point, the child will not only not appreciate your efforts in his growth, but will endlessly take it, naturally get the beneficial parts from you, and do not know how to be grateful or filial piety.
Second, while loving children, we must also teach children to love others
It's like sharing, every time you only want others to share with yourself, but you never share it with others, that's selfish behavior. Selfish people are unwelcome, selfish people are narrow-minded and don't think about things in the long run.
In other words, while we love the child, we must also teach the child to express love, simple such as kissing, hugging, verbal praise, the child through these to express their inner love, then he can become a person who understands gratitude and filial piety in the future.
Third, character learning is also part of a child's development
The learning of cultural knowledge is very important for children in the future, but it is also important to learn about character and personality. No matter how high a person's level of knowledge is, the things he does may not be convinced by others, and a person may only have a limited level of education, but his character can reassure the people around him.
If these two kinds of people make you choose to be friends, everyone must choose good character, so teaching children basic courtesy, parenting, and tutoring is also an indispensable part of parental education.
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