After becoming a mother, I suddenly understood my mother

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After becoming a mother, I suddenly understood the moment of my mother

After becoming a mother, there will always be countless moments full of sour, sweet and bitter, in which moment do you suddenly understand your mother? Let's listen to the mothers' sharing and insights.

@咘噜· 9 pounds mom

I remember in the fifth grade of elementary school, my mother came back from outside and started being a full-time mom, managing us every day, supervising us, and not going to work. At that time, I looked down on my mother because she was a stay-at-home mom, and I felt that she didn't pay anything for the family, she just did housework. The money is earned by my dad alone, and she especially likes to report to my dad!

In 2020, I became a mother myself, and now I am a full-time mother, with a baby every day, the child's food, drink and sleep, and the chores of a family of three, and sometimes when the baby is crying, I will also hover on the verge of collapse.

It was at that moment that I truly understood my mom and how hard it was to be a stay-at-home mom. In fact, I also want to work now, not that I don't want to, but I can't walk away or leave. At that time, the mother's mentality was also like this, because it would be 30 years ago, the child had no one to bring, only to come by himself. She is also a mother of 3 children and does the chores for a family of 5.

Now think about it, no matter how disobedient the child is, no matter how broken, the next day life has to go on, or need to raise the child to grow up!

From Lilac Mama Planet "After Being a Mom, I Really Understood Mother 2"

@Lu Yao

In the case of adult children who cannot eat, there are several in the community.

Mido was one and a half years old, first by grandma, and then by grandma. Every time I saw her, I sat in a small cart, quiet. Say hello to her and don't overdo it. Grandma drank porridge every morning at noon, presumably to cater to the child's eating habits. In the afternoon, make dinner while the children are sleeping. Only this one was more sumptuous, because the daughter and son-in-law came home to eat.

Chenchen is more than two years old and has stopped sleeping in the morning. The little boy's lively nature made Grandma afraid to leave for a moment. So lunch was cancelled directly, and both of them drank milk. When Chenchen went to bed in the afternoon, Grandma made lunch for Chenchen and dinner for the adults.

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I can't imagine how these old people persisted in the heavy physical labor of taking the baby. They may not know how to take children to do early education games, do not know how to make nutritional and balanced complementary foods for children, and even limit the development of children's big sports, because when doing housework, carrying children or tied to the cart is the most reassuring, but they are really hard!

More and more people are concerned about postpartum depression, and I don't know if the elderly with babies will also be depressed.

After giving birth, I wondered whether to take the baby full-time, in fact, I also considered the elderly. I hope that they can have a free and relaxed old age, and do not live for their children all their lives. It was already not easy for them to raise us and had no obligation to help us with our children. Helping the belt is the love point, not the belt is the duty.

Let's do more for moms and mothers-in-law, they are also moms, all moms, are angels.

From Lilac Mother Planet", "Full-time Grandmas and Grandmothers in the Community"

@Little lemon hemp

If I hadn't had a baby, I probably wouldn't have known my mom was Superman in my life!

To experience various reactions during pregnancy, to experience the pain of childbirth, to experience the emotions generated after childbirth, to experience the sweet and sour taste of a baby, all of this is experienced by a woman upgraded to a mother.

Three months after giving birth, I have never been so tired in my life, tired to the point of collapse! The baby is hungry to feed, not much, the excess to be squeezed out, the milk rises for 3 hours to use the breast pump to suck out. I don't know how many times I have to get up in the middle of the night, every different moment in the early morning, I have witnessed, the baby is easy to wake up, wake up on the ground, sleep uninterrupted during the day, physical and mental exhaustion, serious lack of sleep, tired to their own illness ...

These are also what my mother has experienced, I love my baby so much, I also love my mother, the years please slow down, let my mother's wrinkles grow a little slower, let her grow old slower, let her be happier and happier, because, I love her very much!

From Lilac Mother Planet "Years Please Treat My Mother Kindly"

@TamitzY

When I was young, my mother especially liked to buy clothes and skin care products, and she was not much like other mothers, so I didn't understand it.

Now it's my turn to be a mother, I find myself as if under the influence of my mother, I want to be beautiful every day, accompanied by Tata at the same time, I will also set aside time for myself to be alone, now that I think about it, I suddenly understand my mother, although my mother does not understand a lot of big truths, but she insists on being that little self.

From Lilac Mother Planet " My own beautiful travel, but also suddenly remembered my mother"

@Dong's mother loves to bring a baby

At the beginning, I was young and vigorous, and I felt that it was no big deal to marry far away, even if it was thousands of kilometers apart, it was just a train for more than ten hours, a few hours on the plane, and I could go home if I wanted to go home, there was no obstacle. But at that time, I was overwhelmed by love, and subconsciously ignored that thousands of kilometers away were completely different regional and cultural differences. Differences in language, lifestyle, and climate are not something that can be brushed over in a matter of hours.

To a strange distant place, leaving the hometown where they have lived for more than twenty years, the relatives here, the familiar roads of girlfriends, have become a softness that they dare not touch in the middle of the night dream, eroded by thoughts, and uncontrollable tears flow when they are mentioned, and, far away in her hometown, you never know whether the parents in the phone video are really as healthy as they say.

A year later, there are no days off, each time spending a lot of time on the road, can spend time with parents is even more few, if you still have a baby? Carrying a large bag and a small bag, holding a baby in one hand, carrying something in the other hand to catch the car? Do you have the courage to take your baby home alone? Or wait for your husband to come home together for the holidays?

Accompanying parents was originally a filial piety that children should fulfill, but the various things caused by distance became the deepest wound in the heart of every girl who married far away. Even if you marry the right person, he respects you, cherishes you, treats your parents as his parents, and takes your parents to live in your place, what about your parents?

Because I myself am far away from marriage, and I know the bittersweet and bittersweet of it myself, I am also afraid that my daughter will marry far away like me.

From Lilac Mother Planet "When A Mother Is Most Afraid of Her Daughter Marrying"

In which instant

Did you suddenly understand your own mom?