Always envious of the self-discipline of other people's children, but do not know the heartache of their experience behind them. In this world, people who have never been born self-disciplined are stepping out step by step with their own efforts.
Another point, parents need to know: the growth of children, parents have an unshirkable responsibility. To put it simply, the reason why children are self-disciplined and orderly is because their parents have set an example and let them deeply feel what self-discipline is.
People always say that whether a person is good or not depends on his degree of self-discipline. It can be seen that everyone is well aware of the importance of self-discipline, especially for children. Because of self-discipline, they can do a lot of things consciously without supervision, without reminders.
This process, not only the parents worry about it, but also the child will grow rapidly. Whether it is life, study, or other aspects, children can make arrangements and plans in advance. And this superpower is the result of the hard work of parents, not innate.
On the road to education, parents should not be lazy
Until now, there are still many parents who want to be hand-throwing treasurers, thinking that their children can grow up on their own.
Perhaps the original intention is to make children become independent, so that they no longer rely on adults and take on their own responsibilities. It is good that parents have such ideas, but the practice is not agreeable, because children do not understand anything, how can they grow on their own?
Therefore, parents must not have lazy thoughts. Even for a moment, it can make children fall behind and hinder their growth and progress.
You know, Rome was never built in a day. The good behavior habits of children are formed by accumulating over time. Always believe that the vision and attitude of parents in education have a fatal effect on their children's future.
Envy is never useful, but it is better to guide and encourage, let the children discover more of their own advantages, and persevere in their efforts. Only in this way can we finally become what parents expect.
Initially, children's cognition of the world comes from the education of their parents. They do not distinguish between good and evil, and they need their parents to teach them what to do and what to correct. In the beginning, children may make repeated mistakes, which are normal experiences.
The child's self-discipline is often the result of the parents' "fierce heart"
1, "fierce heart" to let the child be independent
Under the banner of love, doing all kinds of things for children, I would like to ask, whose life is this? The more spoiled and arranged the children are, the more they learn to be independent. Even the small things in life may depend on their parents and never grow up.
The basis of self-discipline is "independence." Only truly independent children have the ability to self-discipline, they can arrange many things on their own, and successfully complete.
2, "fierce heart" let the child be frustrated
If you want to see a rainbow, you have to go through a storm; if you want to see plum blossoms, you have to go through a cold bone. All successes are built on failures and setbacks, and so is self-discipline. Before developing the habit of self-discipline, the child must have suffered a lot before he understands the meaning of hard work and persistence.
Smart parents should let their children accept setbacks more to exercise their hearts. The word "more frustrated and courageous" has always been a positive word, that is, to tell people that after experiencing more setbacks, they will become more courageous and fearless.
3, "fierce heart" let children learn
If you don't let your children suffer from learning today, you will suffer the hardships of life in society in the next day. In contrast, parents still prefer to let their children suffer more from learning, and urge them to study seriously and hard from an early age. After all, the knowledge learned in the brain is their own wealth, and no one can take it away.
Many parents are distressed, feeling that their children do not like to learn, and their grades are particularly poor. This is because I did not develop good habits from an early age, and a large part of the reason is due to my parents. From now on, let them suffer in learning and establish the belief of studying well.
Parenting Tips for Parents:
Self-discipline is often easier said than done. Especially active children, they need a long time, parents must be patient, and then be patient.
Guide your child to make more plans, starting with things they are interested in. Only if you really like something, the child is willing to spend his mind and time. Of course, this process parents can not be pressed, otherwise it will be counterproductive, the child's rebellious psychology is very heavy.
More importantly, let the child know the time and learn the correct management. At the end of the day, self-discipline is about doing the right thing at the right time. When the child arranges the time in advance, there will be no procrastination, friction and waste.
Written at the end: In fact, the real prosperity is to teach children all kinds of progressive skills. Self-discipline, the most indispensable ability, will make the child's life "open and hanging" as smooth.