This Winter Olympics has come to a successful end, the most surprising thing for us must be Gu Ailing, this is really a little girl who is loved by everyone, and in stark contrast, Zhu Yi, who was "attacked" by netizens because of mistakes on the field.
The specific words are not shown here, it is nothing more than some words of "the dish is the original sin", "rotten", and even some people turn to her father and say things, "Cry to your scientist father to see it.".
Behind Zhu Yi's failure, I saw the secret of how to cultivate children's resilience.
Be tolerant of the failures of others
Colleague Xiao Li always finds the shortcomings of her son like a magnifying glass, and if the son does not do the right thing, she will always hang on her mouth: "You see, just playing the game and not concentrating, is it losing to the classmates?"
In the game later, as long as the son makes a mistake, the colleague will put the matter out again.
When parents care so much about winning or losing, children naturally "can't afford to lose".
Speaking back to Zhu Yi's incident, when we cling to the mistakes of this flower girl, it actually means that we ourselves and the mistakes of others will be so exhaustive.
When we can really tolerate failure, the fault tolerance rate of failure becomes larger, and when we can tolerate failure, the resistance to frustration will also increase.
Children who "can't afford to lose" are sometimes not their own reasons, but the "desire to win or lose" that parents attach too much importance to.
When the child succeeds, the parents express their happiness, they are grumpy about the failure, and the words of encouragement spoken are also mixed with the hint that they will win back next time, and the child will not have a normal heart next time.
Maximum resilience
To be tolerant of others is to be tolerant of oneself.
Tolerance for others is also a way to heal our own failures in the past, when we give our children tolerance, we ourselves have also gained the power of tolerance, the original failures of ourselves, but also can be understood and understood.
In 2012, an official of the London Organising Committee of the Olympic Games once said that sports teach children how to win, and they can also teach children how to treat defeat with a normal heart.
In the same year, Bai Yansong also said in the report: "We have not really learned how to lose with dignity and dignity." ”
How can it be considered a decent loss? Is it possible not to cry after losing? Of course not, crying or not crying has never been the standard of resilience.
People who can really afford to lose are people who can congratulate success from the bottom of their hearts, and they will thank themselves for challenging and working hard for success.
Watching the Olympic Games with children, the meaning of which not only includes cultivating children's love for sports, but also cultivating children's patriotic feelings, but also letting children understand how to face failure.
The most powerful resistance to setbacks
When the child knows that the love of the parent is the child himself, not the honor of his success, he will understand that he is more important than everything else.
At this time, the child does not have to spend energy to "pander" and "fight", when a person only needs to pay attention to himself, only need to compare with himself, he also has the most powerful resistance.