People who suffer from depression are not lazy in the true sense of the word, but do not have the "ability" to do it. The "ability" here is not the lack of skills, but the mental state, which is what we often say: there is no spirit. Worse still, depression doesn't get pleasure in being lazy, it's just that there's no better choice and having to choose to look lazy.
For example, Xiao Wang (a high school student) who came to consult, was suspended from school for half a year due to depression, and at first he did not realize that his mood was wrong, and his family only thought that the school was stressed. Later, Xiao Wang became more and more uncomfortable, couldn't do anything happy, always wanted to cry, couldn't eat, still had bloating, and couldn't sleep well, until the child didn't want to go to school and resisted learning, which attracted the attention of his family.
Xiao Wang's mother's feedback caught my attention, she said: I want him to do something, it is very difficult, every day with the game kiss, with the mobile phone pro. If people with depression really have a decrease in mobility due to lack of adrenaline and dopamine, how can they not be lazy when they get to games and mobile phones?
The book "You Are Your Own Psychiatrist" emphasizes that the laziness of depression is to know what to do, but to have a bad emotional reaction to what to do - disgust, disgust. Even if you don't do anything, you will be tired. So why is it that when you brush small videos and play games, you are full of energy? In the process of doing this, the vast majority of depressed people have nothing to enjoy pleasure and happiness to speak of, and the laughter you can see is just a conditioned reflex in that situation, more accurately, they use these things as tools to paralyze themselves.
Depression is really not lazy, depression is not lazy, depression is not really lazy, they just lack the ability to take good care of themselves. Through the brain scans of depression and non-depression, it can be clearly understood that the brain activity of depressed people is low, especially the brain areas that feel happy are not active, and they do not feel happy and uninteresting. Depression is sick, not pretentious, and not lazy.
Neurons follow the principle of use and waste, the more people can not feel happiness, the more they will close themselves, the tighter the closure, the more the pleasant nerve antennae will atrophy more severely. When the depressive state appears, as long as you actively intervene, adjust your physical and mental state through some suitable ways, take good care of yourself, and always pay attention to the heart, the neurons in the happy brain area will respond spontaneously.
What are some ways for people with depression to help themselves?
Depressed friends please rest assured! Even if the happy brain area is temporarily dormant, we can also wake it up through some ways to take good care of ourselves, because happiness is our innate ability, the lack of human chemicals is also automatically secreted, the key is to maintain a peaceful and healthy state of mind, develop a good ability to take care of themselves.
First, reasonable law, quantitative movement
Exercise, not to mention people in psychological distress, physically fit people exercise is equally important. Depending on your situation, choose an aerobic exercise and stick to it, such as the simplest 6,000 steps a day. As long as you like, suitable for your current situation, it is best to not need too much extra time and willpower to persevere, so that you can take the initiative to continue, such as on the way to and from work. One thing to be warned about: this is not an additional task for yourself, and it does not need to be treated as a KPI, it just allows you to take good care of yourself and love yourself.
Second, read the right medicine
Reading books on philosophy and psychology can help change cognitive thinking and can bring inspiration and help to people with depression. Here are two books recommended, "You Are Your Own Psychiatrist" and "Overcoming Depression". The former is to point out the mode of operation of negative emotions, so that we have the opportunity to see them clearly, while understanding ourselves in the process; the latter emphasizes depression and anxiety, compulsion, etc. related to sensitive and suspicious, perfectionism and other ways of thinking, and guides depressed friends in detail how to practice removing inner habits one by one in accordance with the observation method, cultivating an equal heart that is not entangled and entangled, and a calm and peaceful psychology.