In the eyes of parents and teachers, she used to be studious, but now she is not as focused on class, reading books, and homework as before, and her mind is not on studying, but on some "little things": I can't help but look at the tip of my nose during the day, and when I come back to my senses, time has passed; At night, I always hear the electric fan humming, it is difficult to sleep, and I often lose sleep.
People are emaciated day by day, dizzy all day long, poor concentration, poor memory, plummeting academic performance, frequent exams, and interest in talking to people. What the hell happened to her?
Professional analysis of teacher Li Jianxue, a psychological expert.
Konishi
A young girl who stands tall and beautiful is a junior student at a major university. But for a long time recently, she who should have been vigorous has become dark, confused, and depressed.
She found that she could no longer concentrate on class, reading, and writing homework as before, and I don't know when she started, every time she studied, she would uncontrollably keep looking at the tip of her nose, and the more she couldn't see it, the more she wanted to look, and she could only "completely ignore" the content of the class and the knowledge of books.
Looking back, time had passed, and telling herself that she couldn't do this again backfired. The confrontation between behavior and will left her in repeated self-blame, anxiety, and depression.
In addition, every night before going to bed is also her most painful moment. Lying on the bed in the bedroom, the other roommates fell asleep quietly, but she heard the sound of the electric fan humming, this sound was so clear, provoking every nerve in her, making her headache unbearable and insomnia; On days when she doesn't need to turn on the fan, she can clearly hear the noises around her, the breathing of her roommates, and the sounds of insects in the grass outside.
The more she tried to make herself inaudible, even covering or blocking her ears with her earplugs, the clearer the sound came into her ears.
Regular sleep deprivation caused Konishi to become emaciated day by day, poor energy during the day, difficulty concentrating on studies and exams, coupled with the trouble caused by her nose, which aggravated her anxiety and pressure about her studies, and at the same time affected her sleep. Such a vicious circle made her very distressed and unable to extricate herself. Her memory deteriorated, her face was emaciated, and she lost weight.
The excellent daughter encountered a learning disability, and the mother was anxious
Konishi's mother saw this in her eyes and hurt her heart.
Since she was a child, her smart and well-behaved daughter has been promoted to higher education institutions with hard work, and her grades have been good in several years in college, and she has participated in many clubs and extramural activities, and has always been an excellent student leader. Everything portends her daughter's great future.
But now, his academic performance has plummeted, exams are frequently missed, and Konishi is dizzy all day long, and he has no interest in talking to people, let alone participating in social activities.
Mom has tried many methods: communicate with her daughter and eliminate stress; Ask relatives and friends at home to encourage her; Take her out on a trip to relax; Buy her brain health care products and cook all kinds of brain-nourishing ingredients; Even go to the hospital to prescribe medicine.
However, seeing that the senior year is coming, Xiaoxi's condition has not improved, and her mother is like an ant on a hot pot, and she is very anxious. In the process of asking for help, under the introduction of colleagues, Xiaoxi and her mother came to the Guangzhou Hearing Bar Psychological Counseling Center.
When I first saw Konishi, she was very thin and dry, her long hair seemed to wrap her body, and she kept her head slightly bowed. The moment she raised her eyes, her eyes were bloodshot and her dark circles were serious, and she greeted me politely.
In communication with Konishi, I learned that these symptoms have been bothering her for nearly a year. I asked her if anything had happened before these symptoms.
She said that nothing happened, thought about it for a while and said that at that time the school organized a speech competition, she was one of the contestants, in the promotion competition, very nervous, accidentally saw the tip of her nose, the line of sight could not help but fall on the tip of the nose, affecting the reading of the speech, and finally played abnormally and withdrew from the competition.
It seems that from then on, her reading and learning will be affected by the tip of her nose. After pondering for a while, Konishi added that in fact, a week before the college entrance examination, there was also a situation where the tip of the nose affected reading and study, when her mother took her home to rest for a few days, and she didn't bother herself after the college entrance examination.
Looking at the psychological symptoms from a different angle, Konishi was relieved
Konishi once checked on the Internet that her situation was obsessive-compulsive disorder, so she repeatedly asked me to verify whether she suffered from obsessive-compulsive disorder and whether there was still salvation?......
In my adolescent counseling cases, I generally do not advocate easily labeling clients and directly pointing out what disease TA is suffering from, which does not help improve symptoms, and may aggravate the anxiety of some clients due to the effect of psychological suggestion.
So I responded to Konishi: "I understand the pain these symptoms have caused you in the past year, so you especially want to eliminate these symptoms as soon as possible." In fact, it doesn't matter if it's OCD, it's important that we face it together and have the strength to stay away from the anxiety and troubles these symptoms bring us, don't you say?" I saw her breathe a sigh of relief, smile shyly, and nodded vigorously.
In order to understand Konishi's situation more fully, I also interviewed my mother. My mother told me that Xiaoxi is their only daughter, has always been their pride, since childhood well-behaved and sensible, study hard, good grades, but some pursue perfection, sometimes do things a little timid, hesitant, but never let her parents worry about her.
"I don't know why this time, we asked her not to look at the tip of her nose and ignore those voices, but she has always been obedient and just won't listen to us."
Mom is a little "sad and angry".
I asked my mom, when we have a cold and a runny nose, can we keep ourselves from runny? If the cold is good, will the snot naturally not run? Mom said, through the metaphor you just made, I seem to understand a little, I shouldn't blame her anymore, it's not that she doesn't want to, but she's sick now, she can't do it, and when she gets better, she won't be affected by these things.
Develop targeted solutions,
Comprehensive use of a variety of psychological techniques
In the following counseling, according to Konishi's current situation, a counseling plan was made for three months, according to the frequency of twice a week in the first month, once a week in the second month, and once every two weeks in the third month, and decided to use behavioral therapy, cognitive therapy, hypnotherapy, and combined with Morita therapy to help her overcome and correct bad lifestyle, behavioral habits, learning difficulties, emotional disorders, and finally solve the troubles caused by these compulsive behaviors.
The first few consultations, the first is to adjust cognition, relieve her nervousness, fear, anxiety about her obsessive-compulsive symptoms, learn and accept to adopt an attitude of ignorance, fear, and non-confrontation of her symptoms, everything goes naturally, do not try to eliminate symptoms immediately, let go of the pursuit of perfection, high expectations of herself.
Then, change your behavior and run for an hour in the playground in the morning and evening, and do self-hypnosis exercises every night before bed. She loves music, and can often arrange time to sing, listen to music and watch movies with classmates, etc., and try to participate in as many valuable, meaningful and constructive activities as possible.
In the process of counseling, through hypnotic cues, she felt that the sound of electric fans and the sound of insects were like lullabies to hypnotize, and when these sounds became clearer, the more comfortable she was, the more she wanted to sleep, and let her listen to these sounds every night and enjoy the feeling of relaxation and comfort that these sounds brought to herself.
After several consultations, she reported that the sound of electric fans and bugs should still be there, but she sometimes heard and sometimes did not hear, and she did not seem to pay as much attention to and hate these sounds as before. Because you do not reject these sounds, you do not need to eliminate them, your heart is calm, and you can sleep steadily.
As the consultation progressed, I asked her to relax her body through deep breathing in hypnosis, imagining herself sitting on the beach under the blue sky and white clouds, the boundless sea in front of her, breathing the fresh air with the breath of the sea, the sound of waves crashing on the shore in her ears, and reading the book in her hand easily...
In the hypnotic mood, Konishi enjoys the pleasure of easy study, completely forgetting to look at the tip of the nose. Because of the hypnotic effect, back to reality, I handed her a book and asked her to read the contents inside, and she could read it fluently. The successful experience made her understand that the tip of her nose is still there, as long as she ignores it, it can't hinder her at all, and she can fully enjoy the fun of reading and learning.
The end of pain is bright,
Konishi broke through the darkness and saw the sun
The time of three months soon arrived, it was Konishi's last consultation, she smiled like a flower, full of girlish clarity, and she was the same as she had been dry before.
When saying goodbye, she said: "Teacher Li, I really didn't expect that I am too able to sleep now, as if I want to make up for my previous sleep, most of the previous subjects have passed, and in the last year, I will redouble my efforts to do a good job in my studies." I really appreciate you!"
Every life has its own power. The pain that Konishi experienced was most deeply felt by herself. She's a great girl, and it's all because of her efforts. I believe that in the future, in the face of difficulties, she will have more confidence and strength, and her life will be full of more sunshine.
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