Nowadays, people are certainly not so unfamiliar with the word nibbling on the old, because many people in life are choosing to nibble on the old. But this practice is definitely an incorrect thing, but many people think that the old people have only recently appeared, in fact, such things have appeared in a long time. For example, the first batch of nibblers were in the 70s, and these people gradually entered their old age. And now they are also being eaten by their own children, what is their old age like?
Lao Zhang is more than 50 years old this year, when he was a child, he was a nibbling old family, even after having children, he will always nibble on the old. Therefore, from then on, he did not make a good example for the child, so that the child became an old man at a young age. You must know that Lao Zhang's salary is very small, more than 2,000 yuan a month, but his children have to exploit him every month, and they have to ask him for 1,000 yuan each time, which also makes his life worse. It can be said that although Lao Zhang does not make much money, most of the money is spent on children.
Now that his abilities were no longer as good as before, and the child had spent most of his savings, he simply could not support the rest of his life. Friends around him saw that he was too pitiful, so they helped him apply for a minimum guarantee, but he did not expect that he who had been in the limelight now can only rely on the low insurance to live, this situation is really emotional. Although many people will feel that Lao Zhang is very pitiful, everyone has never sympathized with him, because this is the result of his own creation, and he cannot blame others.
In fact, in real life, there are many old people, and they are accustomed to the life of clothes to stretch out their hands and eat to open their mouths. It's impossible for them to want to make their lives better, after all, they have never been responsible for their own lives. Of course, children are old and inseparable from their parents. If parents are smart, they tend to do it.
How can we keep our children from getting old?
If you want your child to achieve this, then you should cultivate a sense of responsibility for your child at an early age, and you should make your child responsible for everything he does. We allow our children to fail, but we also can't let them escape, we should let our children get into a new life through their own way, so that they can face everything strongly.
If there is no way to do this, then the child will certainly become a cowering person, they will only let their parents reach out a helping hand, and then help themselves, which will make them incompetent, become a very lazy person.
In addition, we need to make children accept every problem, so that they can stand up to scrutiny, and children must have the right to fail at an early age. In the process of educating children, do not make decisions for them in everything, but let them have good independent ability. The easiest benefit of this approach is that children don't feel that life is stressful, and they will explore the world in their own way and find their own direction in life.
In this process, we don't need to take too much care of the child, we just need to assist the child. If we always like to control our children's lives, then the children will become an old man over time, which will not help their future development.
There are many parents who want to set a very ambitious goal for their children, although this way can make the child more motivated, but it will also make the child more stressed. When they find that they are unable to achieve the goals their parents expect, they become scared and then do not know what to do.
Over time, they will solve problems by escaping, and they will become old. After all, they feel that they can only make themselves better through the help of their parents, so from this moment on, they have gone astray.
Of course, in life, we also need to let children reduce their dependence on us, which is also an inevitable help for children. We can let children take the initiative to do things and bear the consequences of each thing. Don't always worry about your children, because doing so will only make them too dependent on us.
When children do the right thing, we should praise them, and when children fail, we also tell them not to be discouraged, but to keep working hard, so as to ensure that they become a person who knows how to take responsibility for their own lives.
So no matter how we do it, we shouldn't let our children become an old man, because it will not do them any good for their future, and it will make us more and more passive. Only a good way of education can make them an independent person, which is of great benefit to their future.