My husband is a train driver, 37 years old, I am a construction unit data clerk, 29 years old. We met our friend Gong Shao, and after receiving the license, we planned to have a wedding this year, but I didn't expect that I was pregnant.
When he knew he was pregnant, my father said to me, "I just got the certificate and got pregnant, so I quickly got the wedding." "My family is afraid of neighbors in the countryside, but my husband has no holidays, only to wait for this year."
Now I am 4 months pregnant, my husband did not mention the bride price in their family, a mention of the husband said that the bride price is still early, I said early to talk about the evening to talk, is it time to talk about it at the wedding?
He asked me how much I wanted, and I said we would have about 200,000 or so on our side. He said too much, and later I said the minimum 100,000 without adding three gold to me, which is my bottom line.
He said, our two years of feelings are white, let me think about the situation of their family, their family just bought a house with a down payment, and it has not been renovated. Saying that I want this 100,000 is better to take this money to decorate the house, saying that I am selfish and think more about their home.
I didn't know what to say at the time, I was thinking wasn't the house you prepared? What is the marriage without a house, what is the marriage without a house? I think the 100,000 dowry is for later consideration, and there are more places to use money in the future.
He said the money would be earned later. He now earns 8,000 yuan a month, and before he gets a license, his salary is handed over to his mother, leaving a few hundred yuan to spend on his own. But now we're licensed, and I'm pregnant, but the salary is still given to his mother. But now the situation is different, I quit my job to save the baby after I became pregnant, and I live in my own home.
Talk to his mother about the salary, say that the salary she helped his son save, and then use it to decorate the house, give me 1500 yuan per month, except for the obstetric examination, there is not much left. Tell him but say back to me: "You don't go to work, what money can you spend at home every day, and you don't want to pay for food." "According to his Luo Ji, do all my parents have to bear all my food and drink?" Although my parents wouldn't say anything, I didn't look comfortable. I feel so tired and hard now, sometimes I don't want this child anymore, I hope everyone will give me an opinion.
@ Orange Secret Language This friend, after reading the situation you said, I also feel that it is good to talk to your husband, and the future home is your husband's, not his mother's management. The two families sat down to discuss, after all, this kind of quarrel can not solve the problem, but also hurt feelings, both sides are doing what they can.
Moreover, you are pregnant now, these things should have been solved before receiving the license, no matter what kind of man should not be, because you are pregnant and have received the license and feel that it has lowered you, the stomach will become bigger and bigger, if not solved, it may end up with a hasty wedding, if your husband really loves you, then don't care about these. Don't let yourself be wronged, love yourself well, and the people who love you deserve to be loved by you.
Finally, I advise the sisters to come in order! (See parents - discuss marriage matters - do wedding - get a certificate - get pregnant), pregnancy must be put last! #See the world in the headlines ##彩礼 #
