After a winter break, babies will have a short period of separation anxiety. When I returned to the kindergarten, many kindergartens cried a lot, and some parents just left, and the children began to cry and cry, shouting "I want my mother", "I want to go home"...
Dear parents and friends, the baby returns to kindergarten after the winter vacation, please help him through the separation anxiety period.
1. What is separation anxiety when entering the kindergarten?
The so-called separation anxiety of entering the kindergarten refers to an emotion and behavior such as anxiety and uneasiness that children show when they enter the kindergarten and the separation between the kindergarten and the caregiver. Almost every child will face a separation anxiety at the time of entering the kindergarten.
Within one month of entering kindergarten, the child transitioned from family life to collective life, temporarily separated from his family, and changed his living environment, activity methods, and rules of behavior.
These sudden changes make children feel insecure, followed by psychological fear, easy mood swings, crying, illness, absence and other phenomena, some children need a long time to get rid of this state of mind.
We should face up to the positive role of anxiety in the process of children's development, as well as the negative impact that may be produced, and positively guide and control them to lay the foundation for the future healthy development of children.
Second, the manifestations of separation anxiety
In general, when a child enters kindergarten and is anxious to separate, there are 10 common manifestations:
01. Cry big type
When I was sent to the kindergarten, I cried and shouted in the corridor, and when I walked to the gate of the kindergarten, I could hear the sound of tearing my heart and lungs.
02. Special hobby type
He often carried the small quilt and blanket he had brought from home, and his mother's clothes; he had just changed his habit of eating hands and returned.
03. Stubborn and stubborn type
After the parents left, take the opportunity to run outside the class, grab the mother's thigh is not to let go, if the mother leaves the kindergarten, will kick the classroom door or the kindergarten door hard.
04. Crying aggressive type
Not only is there a lot of crying, but no one can get close, and if they get close, they will even attack children and teachers.
05. Self-soothing type
Always chasing after the teacher and asking, did my mother come to pick me up in a moment? I kept asking the teacher, why didn't my mother come to pick me up?
06. Wait-and-see type
Lying on the window sill, or sitting closest to the door, always looking out, whoever passes by the door must see if his mother has come to pick him up.
07. Depressed type
This kind of child looks particularly distressing, does not say anything, does not like to eat, does not drink water, does not leave the seat, just silently shed tears, and the teacher does not communicate with him.
08. Timid attachment type
After identifying a teacher in kindergarten, he always followed, and wherever the teacher went, he followed him everywhere until his mother came to pick him up.
09. Unreasonable noisy type
Shouting, deliberately throwing toys all over the floor, and pouring rice on the table.
10. Comprehensive type
Of course, some children are comprehensive, both such and that kind of performance.
Babies can also experience emotional instability when they return home:
Some babies will often lose their temper, cry at every turn, and wake up when they sleep; there will be behavioral regression, such as not wetting the bed, and it is possible to start wetting the bed at this time.
What used to be a way to eat, dress, organize toys, etc., is now completely absent; in severe cases, some babies will get sick during this period or have other discomforts.
How to deal with separation anxiety?
01. A little farewell ceremony
Even if you're in a hurry to get out, kiss your baby or wave to him before you go.
The time to say goodbye should not be too long, otherwise it may also cause anxiety in the baby, try to say goodbye to the baby at the same time, in the same place, in the same way. Insist on saying goodbye to your baby before each departure.
02. Be firm when saying goodbye
The mother can't bear to refuse the child's request with tears and crying, repeatedly saying goodbye, and repeatedly coming back to comfort the child, which will make the situation more difficult to deal with. When saying goodbye to your baby, say goodbye happily and firmly, and give your baby a loving hug and kiss.
The baby is very sensitive to the emotions of adults, he will feel our sadness and sadness keenly, if the parents' emotions are not calm, we can not expect the baby to remain calm.
03. Don't sneak away
This practice must be avoided! Many mothers can't bear to face the baby's crying, and will take advantage of the child's inattention to sneak away, or deceive the child that "it will come back in a moment!" This may seem "effective", but it is highly undesirable!
Many psychologists and educators also oppose parents to take a similar approach: although we have temporarily escaped the torture of the baby crying, when the child reacts that the mother is not around, he will feel very panicked, he will be more afraid of your departure, resulting in more and more sticky to you, separation anxiety will become more and more serious.
04. Keep your promises
Returning to your baby within the time you have promised will build your baby's trust and geography. Your baby can't understand 3 or 5 o'clock yet, you can say it's after school, or before dinner.
05. Cultivate an independent character
When the baby is seriously playing with toys or just in a daze, we may wish to accompany him silently on the side, let the baby play with himself for a while, and stay with himself for a while.
This will not only make the baby find that "it can be so fun to play by yourself!" More importantly, it can exercise the child's ability to think independently and solve problems, and also cultivate the baby's independent personality.
Fourth, kindergarten words
Separation anxiety is an inevitable situation in the process of children's growth, parents should not worry too much, I believe that children's adaptability to separation anxiety is very fast, perhaps the initial stage is not smooth, but after adaptation, they will be as happy as at home in the new environment!
In order to smoothly integrate their children into kindergarten life after returning to kindergarten during winter vacation, please work with us!
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