Children who know how to be polite and have a scale can often earn more eyeballs in public places, and once they receive praise from people around them, their parents' emotions are also extremely high.
However, as the baby in the family, most children have grown up in the love of their parents and have not suffered the slightest grievance, even in public, parents are not too restrained in their children's behavior.
This neglect and connivance of parents is likely to make them bear children in the eyes of others in public, causing great distress to others.
A few days ago, a matter occurred in the Shanghai subway that made netizens watch, a child on the Shanghai subway, with his foot on the seat, the mother next to him did not stop, but watched the child walking around with relish.
Such a scene was seen by the Shanghai aunt in the eyes, because she was not accustomed to the child's behavior and discouraged the child.
Unexpectedly, this mother directly engaged in a verbal battle with her aunt.
The girl's parents said: "When you talk like this, don't you see that your child occupies a seat?"
In fact, it can be seen from the video: the aunt is not because the girl occupies a seat, but because of the act of standing on the seat.
In the video, Aunt Shanghai said: Your child, you don't care, I'll take care of it!
In the face of this situation, netizens have praised the aunt's behavior, presumably this situation most people can often see in public places.
Presumably, most parents can't stand the behavior of others accusing their children, if you want to avoid the emergence of this bad emotion, in the growth and education of children, parents should pay more attention to these issues.
[In order to avoid this behavior, parents should pay more attention to these]
1. Stabilize the establishment of the three views and moral concepts
Stable three views are the foundation of everyone's life.
Especially children like small saplings, their growth will fall into a state of deviation under the influence of various nutrients and behavioral habits.
In order to make children competitive in the future and avoid being blinded by others, the establishment of three views and moral concepts in the process of children's growth is also resolutely not to be ignored.
2. The establishment of rules and a sense of order
Although a free life is what everyone aspires to, if there are no certain rules and order constraints, it is likely that you will become a "criminal" in the eyes of others.
Children who are annoying when they are young are likely to break the law when they grow up.
This is also the reason why parents should pay more attention to rules and a sense of order when children are young.
Rules and order. It is just to allow children to face their future lives in a more free state, rather than restricting their behavior and thoughts in life.
3. Parents guide their children through behavior
In the process of children's growth, the words and deeds of parents are very critical and important, and will directly have a major impact on children.
It is an inescapable fact that parents are mirrors of children's growth.
Parents with good intentions and children who are cultivated must have a good heart.
Parents who like to take advantage of small things, children who are raised, must be the existence of petty theft.
It is precisely because of this that in the face of children's various desires and requirements, parents must guide and advise in time, and pay attention to their own behavior in front of their children, so as to avoid causing them errors and bad cognition.
4. Bear the responsibility for the consequences of the damage
In the process of growing up, blindly using preaching and exhortation will not have any effect.
Once the rules are made, parents must resolutely implement them, and after the child is destroyed, the parents should make the child bear its responsibility as much as possible.
For example, admit mistakes to others, apologize, make revision plans, etc., and have the courage to bear mistakes.
Just so that children can face their mistakes, have the opportunity to correct them, and have stronger responsibilities.
5. Empathy for others
In the process of children's growth, as a parent, we must maintain a strong sense of empathy as much as possible, although the child's mind is very difficult to guess, but if the angle is changed, parents must be able to understand the child's helplessness.
The cultivation of empathy is not very simple, often requires parents to maintain a more low-key posture, it is best to become friends with their children, in the process of their growth and learning, do not engage in any double standards, to respect the child's choice.
In the process of growing up, if you can get the respect of your parents, it is the luckiest thing in their lives.
Such parents are destined to cultivate better children, and the guidance of parents will surely enable them to grow in a better direction in life.
【Author's Message】
Rollo May has stated that the emergence of the will is not a denial of the wish, but a merger and elevation of the wish to a higher level of consciousness.
In order to prevent children from growing crooked like small trees, parents must prune them frequently during their growth.
Any bad behavior and awareness must be fundamentally eliminated, only in this way can we create a good growth environment for children.
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