Sometimes, it's not that the child is not excellent, but the parents are too backward! (Good article worth reading again)

Today, I will push you a classic short article, which is worth reading again and again for all parents and friends, and it makes us understand:

True love should not be conditional.

As psychologist Rogers put it, "Love is deep understanding and acceptance." ”

Children accept us unconditionally, why can't we accept children? Why do you have to demand that they be perfect?

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I was disappointed to see the barely passing test paper that my son had brought back.

The sons are 13 years old, and they are not at all sensible, not obedient at all, not at all contentious, and not as old as the age in all aspects.

Disappointed, I wrote a "Search Notice" to vent the anger in my heart, the full text is as follows:

Search notice

I had a good boy, but then I lost it. Now the Teden newspaper is looking.

He's 13 years old and smart, but not proud. He loves to learn, does his homework very seriously, and is in the top three of the class on every exam.

He was obedient and never had to worry about his parents. Not picky eaters, healthy and rarely gets sick. He loves to work and is active in housework. I don't play games and I rarely watch TV.

He was cheerful, lively and generous, and behaved politely in front of relatives and elders. He had many friends of good character and good grades.

When his parents are upset, he does not bother, but comforts his parents very sensibly.

He knew that it was not easy for his parents to earn money and never spent money indiscriminately. Everything he did was very decent and made his parents proud.

But who can tell me where he is?

After writing it, I read it again, and I couldn't help but sigh a lot, if I really had such a son, how happy it would be!

That night, I posted the "Search Notice" on the door of my son's room and went to sleep.

I thought my son should have seen it when he got up the next morning.

I really hope that he can be ashamed and courageous, and move forward towards the ideal son in my mind. Even if it's just a little closer, I'll be very pleased.

2

The next morning, I found that the "Search Notice" on my son's door was gone.

When I walked back to my room, I was surprised to find a search notice posted on the door. Peeling it off and taking a closer look, I was stunned.

The full text of the "Search Notice" written by the son is as follows:

I had a good mother, but then I disappeared. Now the Teden newspaper is looking.

Mom is very ordinary, she is not as radiant as a movie star, she does not have great power, and she is not as rich as the richest man in the world, but she loves me very much.

When I didn't know anything but to cry annoyingly, she never hated me. She lovingly accompanies me every day.

In the middle of the night, although she was very sleepy, even asleep, as soon as I made a cry, she would immediately hug me with concern, nervously check what was wrong with me, and then coax me to sleep.

She spent a lot of time teaching me this little idiot to talk and walk, and although I learned for a long time before I vaguely said the word "mom", my mother never said that I was stupid, on the contrary, she kissed me happily, praised me for being smart, and encouraged me greatly.

Later, I went to school, and although my academic performance was not very good, she still loved me very much.

She said that flowers that bloom early do not necessarily bear fruit early, and those that bear early fruit do not necessarily bear fruit.

Mom never laughed at me for my grades, and she knew that the worse the grades, the more they needed care and encouragement.

She also said that my health and happiness are more important than my grades.

Although I always made mistakes and always embarrassed my mother because of my bad grades, she still loved me because I was her child.

I love my mom too, not because she's a good worker, but because she's my mom.

3

After reading the notice written by my son, I burst into tears. Compared to my son, I feel too narrow.

We parents often complain about our children because they are not good enough, but children do not complain about us because we are not rich enough, not powerful enough, not beautiful enough.

Our love for our children is not as pure and pure as the love of children for us. At this point, we are ashamed of our children.

I am reminded of the famous quote of psychologist Rogers: "Love is deep understanding and acceptance." ”

The child accepts us unconditionally, so why can't we accept the child? Why do you have to demand that they be perfect?

I wiped away my tears, went to my son's door again, knocked on the door, and wanted to apologize to my son.

It's not that the child is not excellent, it's just that the parents are too backward!

A great short article to encourage with parents who are parents!