Liang Qichao: It is better to reason with children than to "make rules" for children

Public number: Insight into life

Author: Confucian everyone

The ancients said, "There are no rules, no squares." ”

There are no children in the world who are not well taught, only parents who neglect to discipline.

Visionary parents will make rules for their children.

Families with rules can benefit children for life.

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I know I have to do this

The three most useless methods of education in the world are:

Reasoning, tantrums, self-touching.

It's not the truth that changes your life, it's the rules.

In the Lengyan Sutra, it is said: "Reason can be enlightened, and things must be gradually cultivated." ”

Instead of listening to more reason, it is still difficult to live this life;

It is better to make rules in a down-to-earth manner and use good habits to achieve a bright future for children.

To judge whether a child understands things and whether the tutoring is good or bad, it is not necessary to see how much he understands, but to see whether he can abide by the rules.

Children who do not obey the rules at home will easily lack reverence in the future to go to society.

When children are young, they are not given rules;

When the child grows up, he will be tempered by society to "understand the rules".

Then it is too late to be a parent.

The truth is abstract, and the impression left in the child's mind is just a fluttering sentence.

The rules are there, telling the child what can and can't.

As the saying goes: "On paper, I finally realized that I had to do something about it." ”

Only by translating the truth into rules and carving them into the daily behavior of children can children benefit for life.

When the child grows up and understands things, he will naturally be able to understand the pain of his parents.

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Life is a hundred years, standing in early childhood

Liang Qichao emphasized in "On Early Childhood":

"A hundred years of life, standing in early childhood."

When your children are young, be sure to make good rules for them.

This stemmed from a personal experience of his own.

When Liang Qichao was six years old, he once lied to his mother about a small matter.

After dinner that day, his mother called him to the bedroom and criticized him harshly.

Liang Qichao's mother is gentle and well known to her neighbors.

Because of a child's lie, Liang Qichao saw his mother's angry appearance for the first time.

The young Liang Qichao hurriedly covered up, which made his mother even more angry.

His mother pressed him to his knees and beat him dozens of times.

Since then, his mother has set a rule for him that "no lies" is allowed.

When Liang Qichao grew up a little, his mother solemnly said to him:

"People lie, or do things they shouldn't do, but lie that they haven't done them;

Or there is something that should be done and is not done well, but lies that it has been done.

The above two are not only knowingly committed crimes, but also deceive themselves.

All evil in the world begins here, and Ru should abstain from it! ”

His mother's words left an extremely deep impression on Liang Qichao.

He also understood that when he was six years old, it was difficult for him to grasp the deep meaning of his mother's words.

And it was that beating that set the rules in his young heart.

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Teach by example and put it into practice

The ancients said: "The love of parents and sons is far-reaching." ”

Liang Qichao understands that his success is due to strict tutoring.

Therefore, he also attaches great importance to "making rules" for his children.

On weekdays, in addition to urging his children to study, Liang Qichao also requires them to behave in a respectful manner.

If you want your child to follow the rules, parents must first teach by example and practice what they preach.

Liang Qichao's words and deeds had a great impact on his children.

He said: "I myself have often felt that I must be a model of personality for young people, and at least worthy of being a model for your sisters and brothers;

I also believe that my children will all be subjected to my inheritance and lessons, and will not fall because of the hardships or comfort of the environment. ”

And he did what he said, and effectively became a good example for the children.

Liang Qichao's nine children have all become the pillars of the country when they grow up.

Good rules are a good ethos that this family has passed down from generation to generation.