In the Book of Commandments, there is a cloud: "The journey of a husband and a gentleman is to cultivate oneself quietly, and to cultivate virtue through frugality." Non-indifference is not clear-sighted, non-tranquility is not far-reaching. ”
No matter what time, quiet women will always exude a different charm.
Although liveliness will leave a good impression of getting along, compared with quiet, it always lacks the delicate temperament of women, which is indifferent and quiet, is not insulted, is to stay unintentional, is to go with nature.
Quietness does not easily allow others to figure out their own minds, and it adds to the mystery. Psychological research shows that how quiet a woman is, how beautiful she is.
Quiet women often don't make a sound, a blockbuster
Confucius said, "Why is it unfavorable for a gentleman to hide his instruments and wait for the times to move?" ”。
Traditional Chinese virtues have always followed the "softness of Confucianism", "Confucianism" has "need", "need" is the meaning of waiting, good at waiting, good at patience.
In the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan", DuanFei was caused by the emperor to let Huafei drink a bowl of slippery tire medicine under the guise of her hand, so that Huafei has always held a grudge against her.
As long as Concubine Hua was in a bad mood, she would go to Duanfei's room, scold her, and not allow the doctor to treat Duanfei, so Duanfei's body has not been good, and she is sick.
Duanfei's maid asked her, Duanfei's strength is also there, you can also compete with Concubine Hua, why not fight with her?
Princess Duan said that if she could not knock down the enemy at once, then she could only endure with all her might.
Later, she joined forces with Zhen Huan to bring down Concubine Hua.
If at the beginning she was like Xia Dongchun, opening her teeth and dancing her claws, showing her hatred for a person, or her plan, then Huafei's fate might be her end.
Quiet as a virgin, every move is a style.
Because it is quiet, only you know what you want to do or what you don't want to do;
Because it is quiet, nothing will be said to be accomplished, and there will be no illusion that it has been completed;
Because of the quietness, in those years of silence, many important things can often be accomplished.
Therefore, quiet women often do not sound, a blockbuster.
Quiet women are moody
When a person's own emotions are written on the face, it means that she is more likely to be touched by others, and it is easier to be pinched by others.
Just think, how can a grumpy person have the patience to do a good job?
How can a person who sighs all day be motivated for his work?
How can a person with a hippie smile all day make people think that he or she is reliable?
On the contrary, in the workplace, it has always been those who are expressionless and often more deterrent.
Because they will not hang emotions on their faces, others will naturally not be able to figure out their own thoughts from their own faces, because they cannot figure it out, so they will carefully weigh things when doing things, and will not make random mistakes.
Moreover, we can see that the quiet women, never angry or cloudy, their faces are always cloudy and breezy, and it seems that it is difficult to have anything that can make their emotions out of control.
Are they emotionless?
No, it's because they know that problems can bring emotions, but emotions can't solve them, so instead of wasting time to get angry, it's better to delve into solutions to problems.
It is said in Capital of a Lifetime: "At no time should one be a slave to one's own emotions, but should control one's emotions in turn." No matter how bad the situation is, you should try to dominate your environment and save yourself from the darkness. ”
If a person can control her emotions, then she can control her life.
Quiet women will only be their own ferrymen
Guan Guan in the TV series "Ode to Joy" is a well-behaved woman, and her personality in the workplace is also very weak, always embarrassed to reject others.
The colleague gave her work to Guan Guan, but the part of her own side business was wrong, and the part responsible for the follow-up Guan Guan was correct, but because the signature was Guan Guan, the boss criticized her with a split face.
Of course, Guan Guan is very wronged, she feels that she has been wronged, the boss is also indiscriminate when criticizing people, she wants to seek Andy's comfort, but Andy told Guan Guan such a sentence -
"The world doesn't care about the process, the leaders in the workplace only care about the results, no one will pay for your tears, after all, everyone comes out for the sake of profit." 」
Admittedly, no one cares how hard it is to go all the way, and no one cares about how hard you have worked to do this.
They only care about the result, and if they are good, they are jealous, and if they are bad, they are ridiculed.
But so what? We just have to work hard, don't expect others to give us feedback because of our own hard work, after all, it has nothing to do with others, and others have no obligation.
We just have to do our own thing step by step, be our own ferryman.