Hello everyone, I'm a big brother! On the weekend, there are parents and big brothers to talk, really hope to have the opportunity to re-educate their children, and now I have the experience to know which parenting traps need to be avoided.
Today, the big brother will talk to you, hoping that new parents can avoid the pit of these educational concepts.
Really "just be happy" and you lose
Many experts and scholars advocate that "children should be happy in childhood", if you are serious, you will lose. Before the age of three, happy to play, kindergarten also does not teach, continue to play happily, but after going to primary school, the teacher defaults that the child has a foundation, pinyin and English foundations have been learned, the teacher directly skipped; the addition and subtraction within 10 She has just come into contact, the teacher has accelerated the progress and started arithmetic teaching within 100... When the test results came out, at that time, the children looked at their own results sadly, and the parents were upset, and they regretted it endlessly, how they did not use the work in advance.
At this time, parents may be able to repent and relax their learning to make children happy, but the school will not, and the society will not.
True happiness is to let children discover the joy of learning, when the child's hard work in exchange for the happiness of grades, this is the true meaning of happiness.
Good habits are formed slowly
It is natural for children to play greedily, and if parents do not supervise and help correct, it is impossible to develop good habits.
What parents have to do is to supervise the child to develop habits when he does not have the ability to think independently. This process may be more painful, very painful for the child, and uncomfortable for parents, but once the child's personality is fixed, it will benefit him a lot in his future life path. No child is born with a love of reading and school, and only when parents help him develop the habit of self-discipline can he form good habits.
Be tolerant of your children
Tolerance for children, many parents understand that they can not be too strict with their children, but what is the result of this? After learning dance, after a few days, I felt too bitter, too painful, too tired, and refused to continue learning. I signed up for a calligraphy class, fished for three days and dried nets for two days, but I didn't get it done. After skating on the roller skate and falling several times, he said that he would not go again. Because of the tolerance of parents, children have avoided the difficulties in front of them, and they have also left irreparable regrets for growth.
If parents do not correctly understand tolerance and indulge in everything, then the child does not know what persistence can be successful.
Finally, the big brother would like to say that the education of parents runs through the life of the child, and they absorb the influence of the family living environment, the words and deeds of the parents, and so on. Children's excellence is by no means a natural result, it requires parents to work hard and pay, the child's growth is only once, I hope that parents will pay enough attention to it and leave no regrets.