Every New Year's party, hot mom can receive the envious eyes of many relatives and friends.
The reason is that there is no him, mainly Xiong Bao gave me a "long face". Everyone gathered together, adults chatted, tea drinking tea, but most of the children only held the mobile phone to play each other, basically do not interact, and Xiong Bao social skills full score, and every child has a laugh.
To tell the truth, this may be the boss problem in the hearts of parents in today's era, their own babies hold their mobile phones and do not let go, but they are not concerned about other things. I think that the more the era of mobile phones for the whole people, the more parents should avoid raising a problem child who will only be addicted to mobile phones.
The dangers of children addicted to mobile phones
The harm of children addicted to mobile phones, I believe parents know. The "2020 National Research Report on the Internet Use of Minors" released in July last year showed that the proportion of minors on the mainland has reached a staggering 183 million, and the Internet penetration rate is 94.9%. Even preschoolers have basically been exposed to mobile phones to access the Internet.
After all, if the Internet is used well, it is a tool that is very helpful for learning, but according to the survey, a large part of these 94.9% of children hold mobile phones not for learning, on the contrary, they play mobile phones and social software for a long time in the name of learning.
And this kind of long-term addiction is extremely harmful to the child's body and mind.
First of all, studies have shown that the child's cerebral cortex has a fairly strong memory function for stimulating pictures, and regular stimulation will make it difficult for children to calm down and learn, such as brushing short videos and playing games at the same time. Secondly, some improper online content, such as violent behavior, will have a negative impact on the child's personality.
On a health level, addicting to mobile phones can also affect children's vision, sleep, and even increase the probability of depression.
The scariest thing is that it can also hinder a child's brain development. Don't think that the hot mom is alarmist, saying that playing with a mobile phone will harm the brain. Scientific studies have shown that the development cycle of the human brain is much longer than we expect, and it generally takes about 25 years to fully develop. In this process, the brain needs to constantly receive different stimuli from the outside world.
Childhood, in particular, is crucial. In childhood, if the brain frequently only receives the same type of stimulation on the mobile phone, it will interfere with its normal development, resulting in a decline in memory, intelligence and other aspects.
So, since addicting to mobile phones has such a big harm, as parents, what should we do?
Under 2 years old
Try not to let your child play with their phones
Hot Mom reiterates my point of view: mobile phones are actually very useful, anti-addiction is not not to be used. However, children who are too young, don't say use it, try not to even give them the opportunity to touch the mobile phone.
The American Academy of Pediatrics also has relevant advice on this point: in addition to video chat, it is best to avoid allowing children under 18 to 24 months to use electronic products such as mobile phones; and children aged 3-6 should not be exposed to more than 1 hour per day.
Even Jobs forbade his children to play with iPads and mobile phones during his lifetime. "We limit the use of smart products by kids at home," he said. "As the father of Apple, it is still the case, and it is clear that he is very clear about the drawbacks of electronic products.
A survey by Seattle Children's Hospital in the United States also showed that children who watch electronic screens (such as television and mobile phones) for 3 hours a day at the age of 1 are 30% more likely to have attention problems at the age of 7 than the average child.
That is, if you let a child who is too young play with his phone too early, the higher the probability of developing attention-related disorder later.
3-6 years old
Help kids find things that are more fun than their phones
Children aged 3-6 are allowed to play with mobile phones appropriately. However, the daily contact with the mobile phone should not exceed 1 hour.
At this time, parents will say: mobile phones are so fun, and the self-control of children at this age is so poor, how to control it? Forcibly take away the mobile phone and be afraid of children making trouble.
In fact, many parents forbid their children to play mobile phones, that is, blindly forced to collect, which itself is not recommended for hot mothers. Facing a child, the way to prevent him from indulging in mobile phones should be to help him find something more interesting than a mobile phone. For example, the hot mother will accompany Xiong Bao to do parent-child reading, fight lego with him, and often accompany him out to go out with him.
All in all, it is much wiser to expose children to more interesting things and cultivate healthy hobbies than to explicitly prohibit or strictly guard against them.
Pay attention to the occasion
Just said, 3-6 children should not play with their mobile phones for more than an hour a day. In addition to time, there are occasions.
Some occasions are not suitable for children to play with mobile phones, such as eating. I think we all feel that the family eats together, or relatives and friends eat together with children, children play with their mobile phones all the time, and eat waiting for adults to feed, this scene is very ugly.
At the dinner table, it is the best time for a family to communicate easily, whether adults or children, should not be attracted by the attention of mobile phones. And not only when eating, sleeping, walking, etc., you should refuse the child's request to play mobile phones. No matter how he spills and sells cuteness, the principle that parents should adhere to must adhere to, and if they can't give, they can't give.
Under 6 years old
Agree with your child when and how to play your phone
Children over the age of 6 already have a certain degree of self-care ability, at this time it is unrealistic to completely prohibit him from playing with mobile phones, even if he does not play from you, he will try to play from others, may be relatives, may be classmates. In this case, it is better to give him a certain "mobile phone freedom".
The so-called blocking is not as good as neglecting, and the forbidden effect in psychology tells us that the prohibition of insufficient reasons will stimulate people's stronger desire to explore, which is of course the same for children. The more you blindly prohibit, the more the child will worry about the mobile phone.
Instead of worrying about children's addiction to mobile phones every day, it is better to talk to children, such as when you can use mobile phones, when you can't play, and how long you can only play in a day. And try to let the child participate in the process of achieving this agreement and absorb the child's opinion. Only in this way can the validity of the contract be maximized, and the child is more willing to abide by it.
Finally, share the small agreement between Hot Mom and Xiong Bao for your reference:
I bought the phone, the ownership belongs to me, and it's just lent to you. In the event of an accident or injury, you must use your pocket money to cover its repair or replacement. To prevent this from happening, you should be prepared in advance, and you can exchange doing housework for a certain amount of remuneration, or saving your pocket money.
The phone password must be known to me. It's not about snooping on your privacy, but I have to understand your internet presence and take responsibility for your growth.
Mobile phones cannot be brought to school. Communicate with classmates, be sure to face face to face, this is a life skill, you should learn how to make friends.
Don't always stare at your phone, it's just a tool for life, not all you're living. Not obsessed with mobile phones will make your life better.
Stay away from unhealthy online information, and if you have any doubts about online information, feel free to ask me or your dad.
Be polite and mute your phone in public so you don't disturb others.
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