Before the Internet brushed a video: ten-year-old girl, not only talk slowly and logically, but even eat, do things. It was already school time, and the little girl was still eating breakfast unhurriedly, showing no signs of hurry.
For her performance, many netizens are anxious in their hearts, let alone their mothers? Therefore, changing her personality has become the most important thing for her mother. He preached countless times and punished countless times, but the effect was still not ideal. So the mother had a sudden idea and began to be slower than the child.
Netizens said bluntly: taking her road leaves her with nowhere to go. Indeed, the mother began to play the role of the child, even slower than her chronic child, and finally attracted the attention of the child. Let her know what kind of torture and harm slow movements and psychological slowness will bring to others.
Why is a child's personality so slow?
First of all, it is due to its own reasons, most of the child's personality is acquired, but less than half is an innate factor. In fact, when the child is still in the mother's belly, they already have various perception abilities, which has a great impact on the later personality.
The second is the influence of parents, although the personality is their own, but the influence of the external environment accounts for the main factor. In other words, if the parents have a slow personality, the child is bound to become this personality, because the relatives will affect each other.
Finally, there is the reason for interest, what the child does not like, they will think of ways to reject, and slow execution is the most favorable evidence. Since you can't refuse, then take it slowly, which is completely the psychology of coping with errands.
Many times, even the child may not know that there will be problems with his personality. Therefore, parents should not urge, because the word "more and more slow" is not casual. Children rub it, that is, they are "forced" by their parents, but adults do not know it yet.
Try to swap roles with your child, and you'll be pleasantly surprised
If you want to wrestle with children with chronic children, parents should learn to outwit and make children aware of the seriousness of the situation through the way of "swapping roles".
Close to the parents' preaching, in fact, it is difficult for children to clearly realize their own problems, but it is better to give them a classic playback. The same slow motion, this time the child is a bystander, he can intuitively feel the problems said by his parents, but also feel a series of sequelae brought about by slow motion.
This process leaves more room for children to think and allows them to continue to study themselves. For parents, it does not cost a single soldier, not even to speak loudly, it is completely educational. Waiting is the most anxious thing, and I believe that children will also benefit a lot.
In addition to the educational methods of role exchange, it is also necessary to match other educational methods, so as to play the effect of "medicine to disease". To be precise, a child's slow motion is not only related to personality, but also has a lot to do with habits, and it should be corrected from the source.
These methods are practical for children with chronic children
1. Make a time plan
Even if the child is slow to do things, it is a matter of attitude to tailor the relevant time schedule for him. Of course, the formulation of the schedule should be combined with reality, which can be improved by a few minutes on the basis of the child's original. For example, if you don't get up until 7 o'clock, the schedule is marked until 6:50.
Doing a weekly plan will give your child a clearer idea of time and get better and better. Whether it is psychological or behavioral, children are more willing to accept, which is the meaning of education.
2, like the things mainly
People always have a passion for what they like, so start with what your child likes and slowly increase their speed. This process, to give children absolute space and freedom, let them play freely, parents will be impressed.
The younger the child, the easier it is to correct their personality and get their attention in a playful way. Take wearing socks, for example, compete with your kids to see who can finish better and faster. Of course, parents should properly "release water" so that their children have the possibility of winning.
3. Respect and encouragement coexist
If the child's true personality is due to the person who is born with a chronic child, parents should not be too anxious and respect their life and personality habits. In principle, it is difficult to change your personality, but you have to persevere. As long as parents are willing to spend more time, it is still possible to increase the speed of children.
Of course, this part of the road to change is somewhat difficult, and in addition to having enough patience, parents must also continue to encourage their children to feel the hope given by their families. The more encouraged children are, the more likely they are to become positive because they want more encouragement.
Written at the end: Everyone's personality is different, and it is normal for children to have gentleness and irritability. Sharpen your mind by giving your child the opportunity to choose and let them take on more things. It won't be long before it becomes "someone else's child."