Why do children suffer from mental illness?

Excerpt from the article by the Doctor of Psychiatry.

"When living things, including people, can adapt to the environment and survive, they are called healthy.

When maladaptation or difficulty surviving, it can be called a "disease".

Psychology is the information interface formed by the interaction and mutual adaptation of individuals and the environment.

Psychological disorders are a certain degree of discomfort that an individual shows in some aspects of adapting to the environment, including inappropriate external behavior or inner pain.

All psychological problems or mental disorders will be self-awareness disorders, and at the same time, interpersonal problems, and some kind of discomfort of the individual to the interpersonal environment.

Good interpersonal relationships are the outward manifestations of healthy self-awareness and an important external condition for the maintenance of mental health.

In childhood, a good mother-child relationship lays the foundation for the development of children's mental health.

We often say that children's psychological problems are often not the children's own problems, but their parents are the ones who really have problems (diseases).

In fact, this statement is still not accurate enough. The most accurate statement is that children's psychological problems are often not the children's own problems, nor the problems of their parents, but the communication and interpersonal interaction between parents and children.

However, in this case, parents rely on their "parental privileges" to forcibly designate that the child has a "disease", take the child to the hospital to see a doctor, let the child take medicine, but do not admit that they have problems, let alone take the initiative to take medicine.

On the surface, we are arguing whether the child is sick or the parent is sick, but in fact, behind the "disease" is the power struggle between the child and the parents, which is a problem of unequal and unequal power, a problem of power oppression, and a problem of children rebelling against the privileges of their parents.

This power struggle is ultimately expressed in the form of "disease".

In Beijing, it is called: Talk about "disease".

Specifically in certain diseases, each patient's symptoms have certain psychological significance. ”

This article concludes that it is because parents, based on the blessing and maintenance of parental authority, put aside fairness, patience, tolerance, and use moral kidnapping and strong authority to force children to compromise and obey. So it causes the child to get sick.

If parents abandon the advantages of age and physical strength from the beginning, abandon the superiority of the family economic resource holder, eliminate the threat of children's survival, and establish a good communication method of equal dialogue, reasoning and convincing people. Let the child be convinced, comfortable and sincere to make a variety of choices consistent with the heart, not against the heart, not submissive, not disguised, not acting, not entangled, not observing the color, not bending the heart, not pleased, then the children have a better chance to grow up healthily.

Power struggles are real in parent-child relationships, sometimes consciously, sometimes subconsciously controlled.

When there is a power struggle, it is getting farther and farther away from unconditional love.

When I saw these words, I recalled the face of my daughter when she was a child, full of tears, resentment, grievances, and unwillingness, but helpless.

Because of the existential threat from your parents, "Get out if you don't obey, starve you, and kill you cold." Those bad kids will bully you. ”

Children who are not allowed to be themselves and truly express themselves for a long time will surely slowly accumulate more and more negative emotions and energy, and one day they will show an unstoppable flood force.

Once upon a time, no matter how simple and rude it was to deal with a child, what a tragic adolescence would be harvested.

This is nothing more than the embodiment of the law of conservation of energy.