Zhengzhou Traditional Chinese Medical Hall: Children's education is like flying kites, often tied too tightly, parents are easy to ignore their own problems, it is likely to cause great harm to the growth of children, that is, too much interference.
Children who are interfered with too much often lack self-confidence, are stressed, are daunted at doing things, and demand perfection; it is difficult to establish friendly and trusting relationships with others, are experienced, indulge in fantasy, and escape from reality. On the one hand, if parents are satisfied with all the arrangements and interventions of their children's learning and communication, on the other hand, they do not realize or simply ignore the real psychological needs of children, and blindly require children to implement their parents' wishes, which can easily lead to children being passive everywhere. Some of these parents are highly educated and cannot see their children lagging behind. Some are due to the gross interference of ignorance in children. But without exception, they pay close attention to their children's academic performance, so much so that they lose the emotion and awareness of their parents on the issue of scores: even if the children are not number one, they are your dearest and best children, and they need your understanding and tolerance the most.
Parents all over the world want their children to be "good", but is the so-called "good" the kind of person who can listen to their parents, carry out their parents' instructions, and be the kind of people that their parents ask? Parents work tirelessly for this, set high standards and strict requirements for children, do not consider children's emotions and self-esteem, refuse to treat children according to their own characteristics, guide children, interfere with children in a paranoid manner according to their own standards, and control children everywhere, such results will bring psychological trauma to children that are difficult to heal for a lifetime.
At the end of the day, education is a gradual process of letting go. Interfering too much with the child is undoubtedly limiting his growth. If you exercise your will everywhere instead of your child, it means that you are living for him, and he is living for you, and adults and children are tired. Don't forget, children are their own first, and then someone else's children. He lost subjectivity. Where did his achievements and good character come from? In real life, the more excellent and capable parents, the more they try to use their own aura to illuminate their children's future and cover their children's lives with their own abilities.
Parents all over the world don't want their children to suffer too much. But if you blindly arrange for your children, your own growth will be limited, and your self-confidence will be destroyed again and again. As a result, it not only backfires, but also invisibly and ruthlessly obliterates their ordinary and simple happiness.
That is to say, instead of going up as soon as you see the road, you should embark on a new road without a road. In fact, no matter how competent parents are, they may not always know the only right way to do it and be able to mentor their children. All parents know is the way to achieve satisfactory results through their own experiences. The child's path needs to be walked out by himself, and he is the creator of his own destiny.