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I thought of Mu Ji Si Chen. It means that the hen reports the dawn, and it is used in the old days to describe women who overstep their authority and usurp power and chaos.
Well-known ladies who have been associated with this word are: Empress Taizong of Tang's eldest grandson, Wu Zetian.
I didn't expect that britain also had such a proverb, and even expressed it more directly: "Women whistle, hens chirp, blaspheme God, and plague men." This means that it is not appropriate for women to participate in male-dominated fields.
The Whistling Woman, the finale of the Byert Women's Growth Quadrilogy, is inspired by this proverb.
A.S. Byert, a titan of world literature, has won many lifetime honors such as the Commander of the Order of the British Empire and a member of the Royal Literary Society, and has won 18 world literature awards, including the Booker Prize. In 2008, he was named one of britain's fifty greatest writers since 1945 by The Times.
Byrt said, I want to replace the male myth with a female myth. Male mythology is near-death and resurrection. Women are reborn and revived.
I think the topic is too big, and in fact the story of the book itself is the same. It was so spread out at first that nearly a fifth of what I read felt a little cloudy. So I spent a long time reading it.
I don't discuss the myth of women or women's freedom here, but I want to think about the relationship between women's self-realization and child growth from the perspective of a mother.
Single mom and son, two independent people
Frederica lives with her son, and she is not a loving mother in the traditional sense who is full of maternal radiance. She was thin and had a lover who couldn't give her children a warm home.
However, as two independent people, she knows her son very well and respects him very much. She never stopped her son from going to the country to meet his father. Subconsciously, she could give her life for her son.
She was troubled by the imminent departure of her lover; because of the teaching philosophy, she gave up her teaching position at school, but still wanted to learn and be good at thinking; her son cried a lot because he couldn't see tv, and she still didn't feel that television had to be necessary.
But by mistake, she entered the new world of new television media, where she gradually found herself and eventually grew into a sharp, knowledgeable "whistle-blower" person.
At the end of the story, she obeys her son, lets go of the awkwardness, and stands with the second baby in her belly, the son, and the lover. They laughed because the world was right in front of them.
Single moms are hard, but can still stand up and create their own new life.
Many mothers who have lost their marriages are often caught in self-hatred and self-pity. Pessimistic about the future, feel that there is no condition to talk about love again, feel that for the sake of children have to be bitter haha.
As everyone knows, only the mother who shines in herself is the greatest confidence and happiness of the child.
Mothers and children who are abused domestically
Lucy was often abused by her husband, Ganna. Finally, Lucy resists and eventually seriously injures Ganna. But three children were also injured in the battle of their parents, and the youngest was likely to be blind and miserable.
Lucy has been charged with bodily harm, and she has been silent.
And then what? We want Lucy to stand up and expose everything, we want the wicked to have bad retribution, we want the children to be pampered and grow up in a loving environment.
Domestic violence is a heavy topic. There are so many Lucy all around us! How unfortunate it is for a child to be hurt!
Children who grow up in this way, even if they are healthy, are mentally deficient. Many children will have a lingering psychological shadow for a lifetime when they reach adulthood.
The only one who can really stop the loss and save the children in time is the mother herself. It is far easier for mom to really stand up and actively end the bad situation than it is to work hard to maintain a superficially intact but actually devastated family.
And after that, there is the new life.
Sacrificed mothers and children
Lamb remembered everything, but couldn't get out of the memory, couldn't get out of the pain. He was sick.
Lamb, who was still a child, witnessed the bodies of his mother and sister lying uncomfortably in front of his eyes.
He believes that it was his father who sacrificed his wife and daughter like Abraham burnt Isaac, and even intended to sacrifice him.
He believed that demons controlled God, so God tempted Abraham to kill his own son.
In fact, God was the embodiment of goodness, and He made Abraham sacrifice himself with a son, but at the last moment the angel blocked Abraham, and Isaac did not die.
As the Chosen Son of God, he was a saint who should believe in his Father and believe in God.
But in reality, he would hate for the rest of his life.
The bodies of his mother and sister lay side by side in his heart forever.
What about a sacrificed mother and a saintly father? What about being the Chosen One?
Mother-child affection is the most solid warm harbor in the child's heart, no matter how old the child grows. A sacrificed mother, especially the tragedy that the child sees with his own eyes, will be a pain that the child will not want to get out of for the rest of his life.
So, from the moment the mother is absent, the child becomes ill.
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Women should not lose themselves at any time. Women who can realize their self-worth, especially those who become mothers, have an unimaginable effect on themselves, their children, and even their families to stabilize social harmony.
Yu Minhong said in a speech:
"The level of women in a country represents the level of the country. The high quality of women and the high quality of mothers can educate high-quality children.
Men are also guided by women's values. If women are willing to pursue an intellectual life, men will definitely become wiser. If women only have money in their eyes, men will desperately try to earn money and ignore the cultivation of the spirit. If women are strong, men are strong, and the country is strong. ”
Tells the truth that many people don't see or don't want to admit.
Byert's novel, from a certain point of view, profoundly reveals the truth of women's self-improvement. Women can also whistle.
#这才是家庭教育 #
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