It is important to live without resentment
In the past few days, I have brushed up on several Korean history TV dramas, telling about several women with twists and turns in fate, Song'er of ancient Korea (mother of Yan Shanjun), Zhang Xi Concubine, and the mother of King Yingzu, Choi Tong-yi, who are all women from humble origins and climb to high places, but because of different personalities, the ending is different.
Song'er and Zhang Xi concubines are a kind of people, and finally they did not defeat themselves, in the early days they were pitiful, because they were concubines who gave birth to children, and inexplicably were inferior and discriminated against by others as soon as they were born.
Then they are angry and try to change their destiny, and fate gives them the opportunity to sit in the highest position in the world, but their behavior does not deserve this position.
If virtue is not worthy, there will be disasters!
Perhaps because they had too much hatred in their hearts and too much lack of self-confidence, they showed themselves too much, and the revenge was very thorough, so they quickly lost their hearts, the wall fell down, and everyone pushed them, fell off the altar again, and returned to their original position.
Finally, he was given poisoned wine and ended his life. Brought endless pain to his son and died early.
Another woman, Cui Tongyi, on the other hand, interprets that a bad birth can also be successful.
First of all, Tongyi's birth is a pariah, not a concubine, and the same status in society is low, but the growth environment is different.
Although she is a pariah, but the family relationship is normal, although poor, but the family is happy and harmonious, so there is no perversion in Tongyi's heart, there is no unfairness in society, and she is smart, she does not resist, does not give up, just finds a way to get what she wants.
But the growth environment of concubines and children is very complicated, they grow up in rich families, but these rich people do not belong to them, can not recognize their fathers, the lady of the main room is not beaten or scolded, the concubines are high and bullying people, which has buried resentment and inferiority in their hearts.
Later, when they reached a high position, in the face of great pressure, the original psychology and pattern laid the foundation for them.
Song Er and Zhang Xi Concubine are crazy, jealous, disregarding the system of madness, mutilating the next person, so as to make the enemy happy, let the teammates retreat, in short, they are walking on the road of death.
Perhaps when people are inferior, they can scare off the enemy, but the most important thing for people is to get more help and lack of help, and blindly fierce and vicious, who do you scare? It's easy to get upset.
Tongyi is a woman who knows the big picture and knows the way forward and backward, she has not always paid attention to how she has been hurt and what kind of grievances she has, but focuses on how to share the worries of the king, how to make the royal family calm, she never said that she hated which person to retaliate against which person, but only stopped and exposed the evil people.
She did not sit on the throne of the queen, not like Zhang Xi Concubine asked too much, can not reach the qualification to demand that is self-insulting, you have to understand that she has a few pounds in society, she gave in, but won the hearts of the people, let her son get the throne.
People who only focus on their own successes and failures are sad people, and they should zoom in a little, and then enlarge a little!
Her son lived to be more than eighty years old, and he was one of the happier and happier kings of Korea.
In ancient times, women's lives were not good, especially women in the court, who suffered so much, the resentment in their hearts always had to be vented, but the imbalance of venting dragged themselves down, so they understood the reasons for unfairness and accepted it calmly, perhaps in a way of treating themselves well.
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Figure 2 Shows Three Concubines
Figure four teenager Cui Tongyi
Figure 5 Adult Choi Tong-yi
Queen Liu Renxian
