A friend asked me, Teacher Wang, my work is dragged from Monday to Saturday, from day to night, I only drag it until that moment I do it, you tell me, am I procrastination? that

A friend asked me, Teacher Wang, my work is dragged from Monday to Saturday, from day to night, I only drag it until that moment I do it, you tell me, am I procrastination?

So in fact, to judge whether a person is procrastination? Teacher Wang doesn't like to use such language, procrastination and other language to label you.

If I want to ask, is there a possibility that you have a benefit in the process of procrastination, that you can only gather your own strength when you procrastinate to the last moment, that you feel that you are your own, that you can complete all your homework on that quiet night. So, in fact, behind the procrastination, you are activating your own power, you only complete the moment, and in that moment, you complete the best, you complete the most successful, but also your own most satisfied. So procrastination brings you a benefit, that is, you will desire to do perfectly every time, every time you will desire to do well, so you will procrastinate every time, which is in line with this reward of behaviorism and this reward and reinforcement of emergency.

So sometimes why do you procrastinate, and this procrastination is also a kind of avoidance, because we have a very high understanding of ourselves. Because people's evaluation of themselves is often self-feeling good, in order not to let their own self-feeling good evaluation is reduced, we will choose some simple work to do. When we are faced with some difficult work, we continue to procrastinate and resist, because this resistance will allow us to avoid damage to our self-esteem. We can also feel that our egos are good, and we just have reason to say that I just love procrastination, I just don't want to do it.

So what about the last? In fact, procrastination is sometimes a confrontation of relationships, especially we and parents, with authority at work, life, ah, you remember when you were in adolescence, your parents are telling you to get up, but you are not up, in fact, you also know that it is time to get up, but many times you are actually going to fight against your parents, you have reached adolescence, you have begun to rebel, is not it? And a lot of times we treat our leaders like this, we procrastinate again and again, it's actually a relationship confrontation, because you don't want to be controlled by him, you want to have stimulation, more autonomy, so procrastination becomes a form of confrontation.

So, what I want to tell you is that in fact, procrastination is not terrible, the terrible thing is that we can't find the real reason for procrastination, we don't know ourselves.

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