How terrible is a foolish man? As long as it is my parents' words, I will listen to everything.
Dad said not to work outside, he stayed in his hometown. My mother said, your daughter-in-law is not good to me, and he will desperately bully his daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law died early with a body of pain. Leave 2 young children behind.
The life of a foolish filial piety man can be described as a mess. Not only was his life stumbling, but the marriage of his 2 sons was even more unsuccessful.
[Mom and Dad's thinking is very old-fashioned]
My name is Yang Xinmei (pseudonym), and I am 50 years old. At our age, we have long looked down on life.
It is said that the fate of people is their own choice, and this sentence is not false at all.
My parents had 6 children in total, and the only ones who survived were me and 2 brothers. I was the only girl in the family.
Dad barely went far. His activities ranged only from the village to the county seat. The scope of my mother's activities is even smaller, almost inseparable from the mother's village and the in-laws' village. The farthest place Mom went was the town next door.
Trapped by the limitations of that era, my parents' thinking was particularly old-fashioned. They are deeply attached to the land and want their children to be by their side. Especially the son, always feel that the son is his root.
【The eldest brother and sister-in-law left】
After the eldest brother and the second brother got married, the house at home seemed particularly crowded. Mom is a very controlling mother-in-law, always wanting her children to live according to her wishes.
The eldest sister-in-law is also a very powerful person. She and my mom had a fight every three to five minutes. The eldest brother is more just and often reconciles their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But no matter how they do it and what they do, the relationship between them is incompatible.
The eldest sister-in-law forced the eldest brother to make a decision, either to live outside or to divorce. At that time, divorce was a terrible thing.
The eldest brother left his hometown helplessly for the sake of his small family.
[The second brother is a foolish filial piety]
The eldest brother and his family left, and the second brother became the "chip" that my mother held tightly in her hand. It also became the capital of the father in the village to laugh at the fact that other people's families did not have sons.
I'm a girl, and my mother can't tie me up all my life. All the focus of her life was on my second brother.
The second brother is a particularly foolish and filial person. But whatever his mother said, he carried out 100% of it. Mom didn't like the 2 daughters-in-law at that time. The eldest daughter-in-law was so powerful that she ran away with her son. For the honest little daughter-in-law, her mother bullied her even more. Afraid of a relaxation, the daughter-in-law developed a rebellious mentality and left her hometown with her son.
Mother's domineering, the second brother's foolish filial piety. All these things added together, and the second sister-in-law's life was miserable. But even if she is not treated well by her in-laws, the second sister-in-law is still a very kind person. Mom's three meals a day are all handled by her.
[Dad died, Mom is more domineering]
After Dad died, Mom became even more domineering. The second brother is a man who stays at home and is the face of his mother in the village.
The second sister-in-law's life was even more difficult. Her mother either beat her or scolded her. Even if the second sister-in-law has given birth to 2 boys, she still can't escape the fate of being tortured.
Compared with the hot sister-in-law, the second sister-in-law is completely soft persimmon. She lived carefully at home, afraid that her mother-in-law would not be happy and would be cleaned up by her husband.
After I got married, I also experienced the difficulty of my daughter-in-law. Several times when the second brother and my mother joined forces to bully the second sister-in-law, I would also stand on the side of the second sister-in-law. It's just that I have less time at my mother's house and it hasn't played much of a role.
【The second sister-in-law left at a young age】
The second sister-in-law has been bullied by her mother-in-law and her husband for a long time, and her health may have long been out of shape. She went to work in the back mountain and accidentally fell from the mountain. Shortly after carrying it home, he left.
As soon as the second sister-in-law left, the 2 children who stayed behind became children without mothers. There used to be my mother's blessing, but now I don't even have my mother.
My mother was not half saddened by the death of her second sister-in-law. She even felt that the second sister-in-law's departure a few days before the New Year had brought obscurity to the family.
The second brother also felt that the second sister-in-law was an unblessed person. In front of the 2 sons, he did not say a single good word about the deceased. The relationship between their father and son has been particularly stiff since childhood.
【It is difficult for a foolish person to remarry】
The second brother played singles for several years. But anyone who is familiar with the situation in my family knows that my mother is a very strong mother-in-law.
In the past, the second sister-in-law often carried injuries on her body. On her face and arms were traces of my mom and brother beating her.
Unless the family really can't open the pot, no one wants to marry the girl to my second brother.
And the main point is that the second brother already has 2 sons. At that time, the conditions at home were not very good, who dared to be a stepmother.
It's hard to have someone who wants to be with my brother. The other party was married for several years without children, and was driven back to her mother's house by her in-laws.
But she and her second brother were not long together, but they were separated.
The second brother's filial piety cannot be changed. They partnered to bully their new daughter-in-law to death. The new daughter-in-law would rather return to her mother's house again than stay with them.
[After my mother died, my eldest brother never sent money back]
Now the two children of the second brother's family have grown up. Their marriage was a big problem.
The second brother listened to his mother's words over the years and never left the village one step at a time. Guarding the thin field of the family, life can not be lived up and down.
Compared with the comfortable days when the eldest brother settled in the city, the life of the second brother's family was simply much inferior.
There is no harm without contrast. The eldest brother and his son have been working hard in the city for many years and have long realized their wealth freedom. They had only one son, and they had prepared a marriage room for him early.
Over the years, the eldest brother always quietly sent money home. Although not much, it is enough for the family to spend on food.
After the death of his mother, the eldest brother never returned to his hometown. Never send money home again.
Without the support of the eldest brother, the life of the second brother's family suddenly became very difficult.
【2 brothers have a very different life】
After half a hundred years, the lives of the 2 brothers are completely different.
The eldest brother is comfortable in the city for the elderly. They are now holding their fat, white grandson.
The second brother was still working in the field. Over the years, the second brother missed many opportunities to go out and develop. In the early days, Dad wouldn't let him out. Later, his mother did not allow him to leave.
The eldest brother asked him to work outside more than once. But every time the second brother said that the old mother in the family could not do without people, dead or alive was unwilling to leave.
After the father left, the mother was more afraid of the young son leaving her. Rolling around in the yard, I was eager to take a rope and tie my second brother to my own hands.
Nowadays, the second brother has no social security and no savings. And 2 unmarried sons. I don't know if my parents will regret their original decision. Their stubbornness left the second brother with a bleak life.
[The children of the second brother's family, it is too difficult to get married]
The children of the eldest brother's family have a house, a car and a job. The eldest brother has deposits and shops.
The children of the second brother's family have almost nothing. There are only a few old houses in the house. Now the condition for marrying a daughter-in-law in the countryside is to go to the county town to buy a house.
But for my second brother, it was even more difficult than ascending to the heavens. Moreover, neither of the two children went to college and left the campus after graduating from junior high school.
Since the two children have no mother, they are basically left unattended. The second brother only cares about his mother and rarely cares about his sons.
My eldest brother and I occasionally go back, and the two children have a very weak affection for us. We also thought about taking them out to work, but every time they didn't want to go along.
Now the 2 children have reached the age of marriage, but there is no capital to get married.
【Feeling the impermanence of life】
When we were young, our brothers and sisters grew up together, but now our lives are completely different.
Big brother had a good time. I also have a job and a pension in the future. But the second brother's life after that will be very difficult.
The second brother is a big filial piety. He has fulfilled his parents in this life and has always been by their side.
Mom and Dad comfortably walked through their lives. But who has considered the second brother? Who has thought about his 2 children?
There is no restart key in life, and everything is too late. The departure of the second sister-in-law may also be a relief. I hope that she can be happy and complete in the next life.
【Life Insight】
Filial piety is said to be a virtue. But filial piety is not.
The second brother did not treat his daughter-in-law kindly, and naturally he did not live a good life in the future.
A family without blessings cannot keep a kind daughter-in-law.
What to do in the future life, the second brother can only carry it himself. He also has 2 children, and he doesn't know if he can marry his daughter-in-law.