In the past two days, for the sake of Gu Ailing, there has been a lot of discussion in the circle of friends. Just saw a child post: the grades are not to be said, because if you try to add two more me, you will not be able to reach. Can be sincere

In the past two days, for the sake of Gu Ailing, there has been a lot of discussion in the circle of friends. Just saw a child post:

The grades aside, because if you try harder and add two more me, you won't be able to reach it. I really envy her smile like this! Free, cheerful, confident, determined, courageous, and carefree in the face of all challenges... In the soil around you, is there such a smile?

I waited and watched, and I finally waited for this post. Finally someone said the nature of the problem:

Free-range children and captive children are not one species at all.

Many group discussions will give you this kind of inspiration: how do you think about how to let your children develop freely? How to release a child? How to let children and talents have a more relaxed and inclusive growth space? All he thinks about is how to limit, how to control, how to restrict, how to manage? How to pick out the problems from her upbringing, and see where she is not compliant, illegal, or enjoys any privileges.

So despite seeing Gu Ailing stand out, everyone is envious and jealous. But I couldn't understand where the key difference lay. What's the point? People are free and free, and they let the children choose for themselves, self-motivate, and develop freely. The mother is a bunny mother. But what we superstitiously believe is that it is the roaring mother and the roaring father, the tiger mother and the wolf father. How we always control, restrict, coerce, suppress...

In the past two days, we were ecstatic to see that other people's children also went to the Chinese Olympic Mathematics and also went to the Haidian cram school. Seems to prove that everything we did right! Our high pressure, heavy burden, and chicken baby are all justified. We simply do not perceive that our "captive" children are not a species at all with the children "stocked" by others. These two kinds of children together are simply not comparable at all.