Today I read an article "The sky-high bride price is no longer stopped, the rural bare sticks are everywhere, and it is more difficult to marry a daughter-in-law than to ascend to the heavens", the author's general idea is that there are many single sticks in the countryside, mainly because of the high bride price.
There are many single sticks in the countryside, is it strange that the bride price is too high?
I think that even if you don't want a penny of dowry, there will still be many bare sticks who can't marry their daughters-in-law. Not being able to marry a daughter-in-law has little to do with the bride price, but has a lot to do with one's own ability.
There are many single sticks in the countryside who cannot marry their daughters-in-law, mainly caused by the imbalance between men and women, and it is those who preferred sons to daughters in the past, which has caused today's evil consequences. The bride price is just a back-and-forth man. On the other hand, the high bride price can suppress those who prefer sons to daughters, can make more girls born, in the long run, only more girls, can alleviate the imbalance between men and women, in order to solve the problem of marriage difficulties.
If the problem of imbalance between men and women is not solved, there are still more men and fewer women, and if there is no bride price, it is estimated that it is more difficult for singles to marry a daughter-in-law. At that time, no more than the bride price, it was better than your talent, your family conditions. If you are not excellent, the family conditions are not good, and no woman is willing to marry you. In the case of a bride price, the woman sees your financial conditions and may ignore your other deficiencies.
It feels like a lot of bare sticks haven't woken up yet. Without seeing their own situation clearly, they naively thought that if the bride price was less, or if there was no bride price, they would be able to marry a wife. In fact, it has long changed, with the development of society, the degree of education of women is getting higher and higher, many rural girls, as soon as they graduate, go to the city to work, their knowledge has increased, and their vision has also been high. If you are not excellent, how can you get into the eyes of girls?
An excellent man is not short of daughters-in-law, girls are looking for a partner, they must find the most capable, good family conditions. And now many girls have no bad family conditions, there are cars and houses, people are not short of money, you are still struggling with the bride price of tens of thousands of yuan, many women are already considering the question of whether to get married.
If you can't marry your daughter-in-law's bare stick, most of them are still not motivated, too lazy, have no skills, and the family conditions are not good. Such a single stick, which woman will look up to it? Moreover, there are few women, and it is often seen that in the countryside, a girl is on a blind date, and hundreds of men come. The woman in the village had just been divorced, and many matchmakers came to the door to say kisses, and many single sticks were competing to marry. In this case, you are not excellent, no woman can look up to you, no woman is willing to live a lifetime with a man who does not think about progress, there is no hope, even if you get married, it is finally divorced.
So the problem of bare sticks in the countryside and not being able to marry a daughter-in-law is really unsolvable?
I think it may be alleviated from the following aspects, but it will require state support.
First, encourage the single sticks in the countryside to go out, the way of labor export, to go to those countries where there are more women, to marry foreign women.
Encourage foreign women to come to China, marry Chinese men, and give various preferential treatment and subsidies.
Third, help rural singles to get rich and increase their competitiveness in the marriage market.
Fourth, local policies have been introduced to subsidize women who marry them.
These are all external factors, the most important thing is to rely on yourself, make yourself excellent, make yourself valuable, will make women look up to you, otherwise it is still difficult to marry a wife.
Solve the problem of more single sticks in the countryside, let more single sticks marry daughters-in-law, do you have any good tricks? Discussion is welcome.