Recently, xiaoming in the second grade often comes home with headaches, sometimes nightmares in dreams, and always pushes before going to school.
Xiaoming's mother felt very strange, so she asked Xiaoming at dinner one night: Xiaoming, how are you doing in school? Bob answered very well.
But in fact, Xiaoming has always been bullied by a few classmates in the class recently, because Xiaoming is very short, thin and small, so they laugh at Xiaoming as a girl, and laugh at Xiaoming for being a girl.
After watching Xiaoming's things, I believe that many parents will feel very angry, the child is bullied at school, go back to the parents to ask him, but he does not say anything, sometimes it is really speechless.
What are the reasons why children are being bullied?
The reason why the child is being bullied
1. The age is still young
These children are relatively young, and the three views have not yet been shaped, so there will be a certain immaturity in dealing with people.
And most of the children now are only children, lacking the company of their peers, so if they are slightly dissatisfied or contradictory, they do not know how to deal with it, and they have to retaliate in a more primitive way, and even eventually evolve into violence.
2. Family reasons
Many parents are relatively young now, and there are not a few people who get married and have children in their 20s, but they are still children themselves, and where can they really teach their children to protect themselves?
And of course there are school and social reasons. In short, the child's living environment determines the child's behavior to a certain extent.
3. Cowardly personality
Children who grow up in a strong environment, whether girls or boys, always lack a kind of courage, masculinity, which can easily make children suffer bullying.
And when being bullied, you don't know how to protect yourself, and even feel that you are being bullied, it must be your own problem, not the fault of the abuser, a bit of Stockholm syndrome feeling, long-term easy to cause children's psychological distortion, personality is not sound.
How can parents properly ask questions to get the information they want?
For example, if parents want to know how their children are doing at school, they can ask: Tomorrow something is right at school, what are the things you are happy about? This question can be used to understand whether the child is happy at school or wants to understand the child's communication.
Ask him: Who would you like to sit next to in the classroom today, and why? This also allows parents to understand the person who their child likes to interact with the most, so as to understand the child's school situation.
In addition to correctly asking about the child's situation at school, when talking to the child, the family must also master the skills of conversation.
1. Control emotions
It's really important to control your emotions as a parent, for example, sometimes when you hear a child say that he has been bullied by an adult, your heart must be angry.
But we still need to control our emotions and not erupt in front of the children, because it is easy to scare the children. If the child is frightened, and the child encounters a similar situation afterwards, he may not say it.
2. Create a suitable communication atmosphere
When communicating with your child, be sure to communicate sexually. To do something with your child, ask about your child's recent situation while doing it.
If your child has been having a bad time recently or has been bullied, then you should tell your child that it is your responsibility to protect him, and if your child encounters a difficult problem that cannot be solved, you can encourage your child to solve it.
If you really can't solve it, you should also tell the child that you can help him, instead of finding that the child has wounds on the body, or after the child takes the initiative to tell him to be bullied, he will directly scold and not distinguish between right and wrong.
It is not terrible for children to be bullied in school, but it is terrible that parents do not ask anything, or use the wrong way to cause children to deliberately conceal it.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to communication and discipline of children in time, which is the best way to avoid children being bullied.