One child in one's own family, two children in other people's homes, give the children pressure money, but a reckoning may "lose money". Go out to visit the door, you and others have a child, but the money can not give the same amount, give less is not good, give more or "lose money". How can this be done?
Don't worry, after careful observation, you will find that some children no longer occupy the "quota" of the old money. In other words, the child is "overage", you can not give the child money.
Beyond this age, you can stop giving your child money, and your child may be happy
Sister Qian's family celebrated the Spring Festival, and a particularly interesting thing happened. Her family has three children, and when she Chinese New Year's Eve night to visit the New Year, all three children sent blessings to their parents, but their parents only gave the second and third red envelopes. The second received 200 yuan of pressure money, and the third child, who was two years old, received 300 yuan of red envelope money.
But when it was the boss's turn to pay homage to the New Year, the parents only accepted the child's blessing and also gave the boss a blessing, but did not give the boss a penny to press the old age money. The boss was a little unhappy, so he asked his parents in person: "Why didn't I press the old money?" ”
When the mother saw her son's grievances, she explained to her son: "Children, you have grown up, 10 years old have entered puberty, you are a big guy!" You are a parent like your parents, what else do you want to press the old money? ”
As soon as the eldest heard this, his angry mood calmed down, and the look in the eyes of the two younger brothers was much gentler. The two younger brothers were still quite interesting, and came to share the red envelope with the eldest brother. But the boss returned the red envelope with one hand and returned it to his brother. He also said very politely: "I am the eldest brother, I don't want your pressure money, you take it well, and next year I will also prepare the old age money for you, okay?" ”
This scene made Bao Mama feel that the boss was "overaged", and it was really a correct decision not to give the old age money this year. If the child is so old, it is necessary to prepare the child to press the old money, but it will harm the child.
So, how much money is not appropriate? The answer to this question is more open-ended:
At the highest limit, the child's age is 18 years old to be considered an adult, so it is most legal and compliant for children to not give pressure money after reaching the age of 18. But to the lower age limit, the child is 10 years old, probably about to enter puberty, girls are generally earlier, about 9-10 years old, boys are generally 10-11 years old or so.
This means that the child is growing up and is about to enter the peak of rebellion. Children at this stage are relatively more likely to spend money indiscriminately, so some parents suggest that there is no need to pressure the child to pay for the child around the age of 10.
In addition, there are also some parents who believe that children over 7 years old should no longer receive pressure money, and when children are older, it is not interesting to press the age money for children, and they have lost the meaning of giving pressure money.
Therefore, there is no specific standard for this answer, it all depends on everyone's regional customs, family customs and economic level, and there is no unified standard. However, it can be clear that children over the age of 18 are not suitable for giving money again, otherwise there may be too many drawbacks and no benefits.
If the child is over this age, don't give the pressure money! Otherwise, there will be three kinds of harm, which you may not think
Children over 18 years old, basically an adult, parents should not give children money. Otherwise, it is likely that he is not loving the child, but harming the child. The harm here is very large, for example, the hidden harm of these three aspects, you may not think.
The first harm: children may develop the psychology of giant babies
"Pressing the old age money" is the privilege of children, and parents press the old age money for the child, that is, to try to be auspicious and to ask for a celebration. But for children, there is another symbol of pressing the age of money, a label that has not yet grown up. When the child receives the pressure money and feels that he is still a child, he may form a psychological cue, which will produce a sense of dependence on behavior and immature behavior.
The second harm: children will be selfish, greedy for money and love money
When the child is older, the parents are still spoiled and used to give the child money to use. The child may think that this money comes lightly and is just a matter of spending. Children may also be greedy for money and love money, and in the future, they will always pester their parents for money, and develop a selfish habit that is not easy to change.
The third harm: children do not understand human feelings and are not good at communication
For children, "over-age" to receive old money, there is also a biggest harm is that children in the love of parents, may not understand the sophistication of human feelings. Children may take their parents' money for granted as a New Year's eve process. This can easily form an atmosphere that is not sociable and does not understand the rules of the outside world, delaying the social growth of children. For example, some children will ask other relatives for red envelopes.
In short, parents should still be cautious and rational when they press their children's old age money. When it's time to give, don't force it on the child. What adults stuff into children's hands seems to be money, but it can be harmful. After all, children should have a suitable age limit for receiving old age money, and we adults should not just try to be lively in the New Year, we should think about the future of our children, and do not delay the growth of our children!
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