Author: Creative Group Shinoda
Xunwa actually inserted a pencil into the back of the child's head when writing homework, almost endangering her life!
Recently, a family in Wuhan, Hubei Province, staged such a thrilling scene. It turned out that when the father was tutoring his 8-year-old son to write homework, he saw the child holding a pencil and grinding, so the fire of ignorance rose up and raised his hand to teach the baby. When the child saw this, he instinctively used his hand to block it, but he did not expect that the pencil he was holding in his hand was suddenly inserted into the back of his head, almost piercing the skull! After rescue, the little boy was finally out of danger. According to the doctor, if the pencil is inserted a little further, the consequences will be unimaginable.
It is said that impulse is the devil, and this is especially true when we are educating our children. Out-of-character behavior when angry will really make us regret it! The educator Rousseau once listed three of the most useless methods of education in the world, one of which was tantrums. Parents who are emotionally out of control are doomed to disaster for their children.
At the end of November last year, also in Wuhan, such a tragic case occurred. A 40-year-old mother tutored her 7-year-old son with homework until two o'clock in the morning, then broke down emotionally and took out a kitchen knife and slashed the child's neck and stomach twice. After the incident, the boy was taken to the hospital for treatment and was out of danger of life. Unfortunately, the mother chose to hang herself afterwards.
Under the fury, a thought. He left this world forever, the child lost his beloved mother forever, and the whole family never had laughter. In fact, there are many parents around us who are emotionally out of control. According to a survey in Taiwan, "78.4% of children have experienced emotional loss of control by their parents, and 33% of children have been beaten or humiliated by their parents' emotional loss of control." Look at the public opinion media, from time to time there will be a frightening news - a mother in Huludao, Liaoning Province, because her daughter is not good at online classes, so she drags her child into the sea like crazy, wanting to "die together" with her child;
A mother in Longgang, Shenzhen, because she suspected that her daughter had stolen 28 yuan, was in a hurry and beat her daughter many times with a plastic massage board, resulting in hemorrhagic shock of the child, and eventually died;
There was a mother in Anhui Who beat her child angrily because her son refused to write homework, and thus had a fierce quarrel with her disgruntled mother-in-law. Finally, the mother completely broke down, directly picked up the fruit knife on the table, and stabbed herself seven times in a row...
Whenever I see these reports, I can't stop feeling sorry and regret in my heart. It was the emotional outburst of the adults at that moment that eventually led to an irreparable human tragedy. How unworthy of all this!
The philosopher Piero Ferrucci once said: "Children can clearly and directly feel the deepest hidden emotions in our hearts, and can express them more deeply and directly than we do, because they have no defense mechanism." In fact, for children, the bad emotions of parents will not only become the "horror film" in life, but also bring indelible negative impacts to the development of life. I can't help but think of Wu Zhuolin. This girl, who has been known as the "Little Dragon Girl" since birth, has been in the negative news since she became an adult: rebellion, self-harm, coming out, eloping, wandering... He even got a marriage license with his same-sex girlfriend at the age of 19. Some time ago, she was also exposed by the media that she suspected of relying on scavenging for a living in Canada, and her life seemed to be very depressed.
The picture comes from the Internet, and the invasion and deletion traces back to her original family, and it can be found that she has an abnormal growth environment. Since childhood, father's love is missing, and her mother Wu Qili is emotionally changeable, often exposed to the scandal of alcoholism and corporal punishment of children, and even admitted to the media that she once abused her daughter at home and always beat her daughter to vent when she was in a bad mood. Wu Zhuolin, who has always lived in the shadow of his mother's violence and emotion, has gradually become sensitive and stubborn. Growing up, she finally fought in her own way. She chose to run away from home, broke with her mother completely, and resolutely put herself in thorny armor and went farther and farther down the road of rebellion. The mother's bad emotions eventually caused the girl's tortuous life. Studies have found that the bad emotional behavior of parents affects the brain development of their children. As a result, children will "become impulsive, have poor self-control, and are more prone to irritability; in addition, children will have more psychological and behavioral problems in their future adolescence, such as missociality, poor social skills, and unsatisfactory marital relationships in adulthood." It can be said that what the parents have is, what the children have is their fate. In order to educate a good child, we must first become an emotionally stable person.
Hu Shi, a master of traditional Chinese studies, once wrote affectionately in the article "My Mother": "If I learn the slightest good temper, if I learn a little kindness to others, if I can forgive people and be considerate, I have to thank my mother." Parents who are emotionally peaceful, stable and positive are the most secure rear of their children, and can provide a steady stream of positive energy for their growth. But I have to admit that in real life, in the face of parenting, it is really not easy to do this. Knowingly, some netizens have shared their own mental journey, which has aroused the deep resonance of many parents: "I also know that it is important to maintain emotional stability and peace, but I can't do it!" I used to be gentle and soft-spoken, but in the process of raising children, I have long become a Hedong lion roar. Always can't help but get angry for a little thing, lose a temper with the child, and always regret it afterwards, worried that it will be bad for the child's growth. Now, my children are more and more afraid of seeing me, my husband also has a great opinion of me, and the atmosphere at home has become particularly depressed and dull. What should I do? Do you know that whispering education is very important, but the child does not listen at all; I also know that I can't be too anxious, I want to let the child take it slowly, but as soon as I see the way the baby is grinding and rubbing, I can't help but want to get angry; I also hate my fierce and evil look, I want to raise a child calmly, but it is really difficult to practice; ... As everyone knows, the premise of education is first of all "self-cultivation" and "healing"; only a parent who is full of love and energy in his heart can help his children heal all the problems on the road to growth.
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