"Dink" means not to have children, for Chinese, filial piety has three queens is greater, if you do not want children after marriage, you will inevitably be accused and urged by the elders.
More and more people have joined the "Dink army", these people are either under financial pressure or really do not like children, so that the mainland has now opened up the three-child policy to encourage young couples to have children.
CCTV host Ning Xin, as the mainland's first female sports host, she is also a member of the Dink army, and in the more than two decades since she married her husband, she has been separated from her husband for 21 years in order not to have children.
But who would have thought that when she was young, she did not want children, and now at the age of 58, she regrets having no children, and no children has become a barrier in her heart!
As a sports anchorwoman, she has hosted many good programs that our people are familiar with, such as "Sports News", "Tennis World", etc., and is an excellent female host recognized and supported by the audience.
It's just that many people don't know that what we see is the scenery of Ningxin, ignoring the hardships behind her fame and her regrets of more than 20 years.
She didn't want children in the first place, what prompted her to change her mind? How did she convince her husband not to have children?
One
Ning Xin, the first female sports host on the mainland, was born in 1963 as a Beijing girl who grew up in Beijing's hutongs.
She was the second oldest in the family, and she had an older sister and a younger brother, her father was a veteran of revolutionary work, and her mother was a people's teacher who taught middle school Chinese.
Although the family is not very rich and noble, but since childhood living in a family with a good family style, Ning Xin's personality and living habits have been very well exercised.
Under the cultivation of his mother, Ning Xin also developed a strong interest in literature from an early age, and like many famous hosts, he liked to read some books and textbooks of literary masters when he was a child.
Unlike other hosts, Ning Xin did not have the idea of being a host when she was a child, let alone that the host was her dream, and she did not know at that time that she would go down the path of the host.
Until the end of middle school, she asked her mother what major she should apply for, and her mother saw that she liked to read some classical masterpieces, her literary literacy accumulated very well, and she had the potential to be a host, so she suggested that she apply for the broadcast hosting major.
In 1979, Ning Xin listened to his mother's advice and was successfully admitted to the broadcasting department of the Communication University of China.
After entering the university, she has been working hard to learn professional skills, and before graduation, she went everywhere to participate in the host competition, accumulating a wealth of hosting experience.
After graduating from university, Ning Xin, who had a good academic performance and no professional level to say, was recommended by the school to practice at Qingdao Television Station.
Ning Xin cherished this opportunity very much, and she risked altitude sickness to come to the Qinghai-Tibet Plateau at an altitude of more than 4,000 meters.
During the internship, Ning Xin used his excellent professional ability to complete the work tasks very well.
The three-month internship period ended quickly, and the colleagues who got along with her very well when they left were reluctant to separate from her and wanted to keep her.
But Ning Xin knew that her heart longed for a bigger stage.
Two
After returning to Beijing, Ning Xin entered the Ministry of Radio, Film and Television of China, because he was a newly graduated college student, his work ability and work experience were still somewhat lacking, and Ning Xin could only start from a new person step by step.
After two years, she was able to be transferred to CCTV as a reporter.
Ning Xin was an interview reporter of the CCTV Sports Department at that time, compared with ordinary reporters, sports reporters have a lot to know, such as the details of the competition, the biography of the athletes, and the progress of the event.
In order to do a good job as a sports journalist, Ning Xin would spend a lot of time every day looking for information at that time, in order to be confident, so as not to even know what to say during the interview.
In 1990, Ning Xin, who had been a reporter in the sports department of CCTV for 5 years, ushered in a turnaround in his career.
At that time, Beijing was hosting the 11th Asian Games, just as the so-called "men and women match, work is not tired", CCTV planned to choose a female host and Han Qiaosheng, Song Shixiong, Sun Zhengping three male hosts to host the broadcast.
At that time, we had never hosted a sports program in China, and after thinking about it, we finally decided to let Ning Xin take on this difficult task.
Ning Xin, who has been a sports journalist for 5 years, has been working hard for so many years, she has already honed her ability very well, and she feels very happy when she knows that she has such a good opportunity for development.
In fact, CCTV did not look at the wrong person, in the later Beijing Asian Games event broadcast program, Ning Xin's performance was very good, the event was particularly well explained.
This experience not only made Ning Xin the earliest female sports host in China, but also the only female sports host at that time, and she was even called "the female version of Han Qiaosheng" by many viewers who loved her because of her particularly good explanation!
After that, CCTV seemed to have suddenly discovered Ning Xin's pearl of the sea, and had always entrusted Ning Xin with heavy responsibilities.
Three
Ning Xin has hosted many sports programs that we are familiar with and like to watch, such as the aforementioned "Sports News", "Tennis World", and "Straight to Sydney" hosted with Bai Yansong.
In addition, she broadcast many large-scale sports events broadcast by CCTV, such as the 1992 Barcelona Olympic Games, the 1996 Atlanta Olympic Games and so on.
Ning Xin, who had developed vigorously in his career, became the "host sister" of CCTV sports programs at that time, which attracted the attention of the audience.
But many people don't know that compared to her achievements in sports hosting, Ning Xin herself is not good at sports, and even in college, her sports performance is often unqualified.
When she first entered CCTV and was assigned to the sports department, she also muttered: "My sports performance is so poor, how to host?" ”
It is said that after joining the sports department for more than a year, she has been struggling with this problem, until a long period of contact and understanding, she began to like her career.
Maybe it is precisely because she later liked sports to host this career, has always focused on the career of Ning Xin, career development is getting better and better, but her life's events have never landed, until she was 35 years old, she harvested love.
In 1998, Ning Xin, who was in full swing in her career, was sent by CCTV to study at Columbia University, and Ning Xin did not object to CCTV's arrangement, and she immediately rushed to Columbia University.
Unexpectedly, she met a man who made her heart move here, this person was named Zhang Kuan.
Like Ning Xin, Zhang Kuan is also a northerner, as a northeastern Man, Zhang Kuan's personality is cheerful and free, tall and handsome.
Unlike Ning Xin, who had a problem even renting a house when he first arrived in the United States, Zhang Kuan had been in the United States for many years, and since the end of his study abroad, he had stayed at Columbia University as a teacher.
After getting to know Ning Xin, Zhang Kuan learned that Ning Xin had not even found a house, so he took the initiative to help her find a house and help her tidy up her home.
When meeting compatriots in a foreign country, the other party is still so good to themselves, and the two are still very chatty, plus they are single, this comes and goes, the seeds of love in Ning Xin's heart begin to take root quietly.
Four
Later, the two of them often came and went, And Ning Xin, who made a good dish, would cook for Zhang Kuan, and the romantic Zhang Kuan often took Ning Xin to travel around to appreciate the customs and customs of the United States.
By the time Ning Xin finished her studies at Columbia University, she and Zhang Kuan were inseparable, and on the day Ning Xin returned to China, she and Zhang Kuan looked at each other and did not want to take their eyes away for a long time.
After Ning Xin returned to China, she and Zhang Kuan were in China and one in the United States, separated by the ocean on both sides of the strait, although they could not accompany each other, their love for each other did not fade, and they have been closely surrounding each other.
In March 2000, after nearly two years of love and long-distance love, Zhang Kuan returned to Beijing and registered for marriage with Ning Xin, who finally gained happiness at the age of 37.
After receiving the permit, Zhang Kuan said to Ning Xin: "You go with me to live in the United States, right?" ”
Zhang Kuan thought that Ning Xin would promise herself, but Ning Xin was unwilling to give up her career, she said: "I love my current job, I will stay in Beijing, if you love me, I will respect my choice." ”
Although Zhang Kuan hoped that Ning Xin could go to the United States with him, he could only give up seeing that Ning Xin was so determined.
After all, he knew that there were some things he couldn't force, just as Ning Xin couldn't force him to return to China to develop at that time.
Ning Xin not only did not follow Zhang Kuan to live in the United States, she and Zhang Kuan also put forward the idea that she did not want to have children after marriage, just like Kang Hui, who is also a CCTV host, Ning Xin wants to be a "Dink family"!
Zhang Kuan is not too entangled in this, he loves Ning Xin deeply, although he has regrets in his heart, he will not force Ning Xin to do things he does not like, to which he also said: "No matter what kind of decision you make, I will support you." ”
In this way, Zhang Kuan returned to the United States alone as a teacher, while Ning Xin stayed on CCTV as a sports host.
Five
In 2007, Ning Xin, who had been busy with work, was too tired at work, and directly fainted when he was broadcasting live together, and Zhang Kuan, who was far away at the other end of the ocean, learned about it, and immediately flew back on leave despite Zhang Kuan's persuasion.
Seeing that Ning Xin had lived so tired for work, Zhang Kuan's heart was particularly uncomfortable, and he was tired of himself, not Ning Xin.
After this, Zhang Kuan has been advising Ning Xin not to be so tired, to pay attention to rest, and to enjoy the fun of life, but Ning Xin did not listen at all, and it did not take long to put into work again.
Probably because she was getting older, Ning Xin, who did not intend to have children at first, saw that the children of colleagues and relatives and friends were cute, and she also began to yearn to have a child of her own.
Zhang Kuan was very happy after learning of her thoughts, and the two began to actively prepare for pregnancy, but unfortunately, at this time, Ning Xin was more than 40 years old, and the couple had worked hard for many years and had not been able to achieve their wishes.
The more she failed to do so, the more anxious Ning Xin became, so that now that she is 58 years old and still has no children, no children has become a hurdle in her heart that she has never been able to pass.
Six
In the 21 years since they married Zhang Kuan, the couple has been separated, and in order to spend more time with her husband, Ning Xin has saved all the holidays together every time, and then accompanied each other.
Zhang Kuan also understands her work, has been deeply in love with her for so many years, separated for 21 years, and now they are still as loving as ever.
The only thing that made Ning Xin regret was the decision she had made to become a "Dink family", otherwise she would not have been able to live without her own children now.
Just like Kang Hui, the CCTV host who also wanted to be a "Dink family" at that time, after his parents passed away with the regret of not being able to hold their grandchildren, Kang Hui also hoped to have a child, but he has not been able to do so.
Now 58 years old, due to the lack of children, almost all her thoughts are focused on her career, and she is still in full swing.
At her current age, her desire for children is unlikely to be fulfilled.
But she was also lucky, at least, her husband Zhang Kuan was always by her side, supporting her and taking care of her.
From the emotional point of view, she is still worthy of our envy.
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