Interpersonal communication, how to create high-end networks, win the help of nobles? These three kinds of mental tricks, you have to have!
"Mental plan" one: find your own "shining point" and find a way to amplify it.
Connections and ordinary interpersonal relationships are not the same, ordinary interpersonal relationships, can simply rely on feelings to make friends, and the essence of networking, is the exchange of interests and values. Especially when you want to create high-end networks, the first thing that comes to mind is not how to get anything from each other, but what benefits you can provide to each other, or what value you can provide to each other, so that you can let the other party use, that is, find your own "shining point", this is where your chips lie, with this chip, there is a hope of building a high-end network.
Next, it is to find a way to enlarge your shining point, specific practices, you can enhance your core values through in-depth learning, so that your advantages become more obvious and more prominent, so that you can effectively attract high-end contacts and win the help of nobles.
"Mental strategy" two: to meet the psychological needs of the other party to be a good teacher.
For high-end connections, what he needs most is not necessarily material benefits, and it is difficult for you to provide material benefits that make him move, just like a rich second generation said, "I never look at money when I make friends, anyway, he does not have me money", so you rely on gifts and provide material benefits, the effect is not necessarily good. On the contrary, if you can meet some of the urgent psychological needs of the other party, it will be easier to make friends, for example, to meet the psychological needs of the other party to be a good teacher. In fact, no matter who he is, no matter how high his status and status, and no matter how rich he is, he has the psychological need to be a good teacher. For example, why those rich people always emphasize altruism and are always willing to help people is not necessarily for the other party, but precisely to meet their own psychological needs of being a good teacher.
Therefore, when making high-end contacts and seeking help from nobles, there is a very important plan, that is, to take the initiative to ask the other party for advice, and to give him feedback on what he has learned from the other party in time, for example, to say what positive changes he has made through him, what useful things he has learned, and thank him for his teachings... Something like this is not necessarily the truth, but it is very pleasing to the other person. Let the psychology of the other party be a good teacher be well satisfied, and you will easily have a deep link with the other party.
"Mental strategy" three: after receiving help from noble people, we must know how to be grateful and give back.
Interpersonal communication, creating high-end networks, winning the help of nobles, is a long-term process, at the beginning, even if you spend a lot of effort, may not have much effect, can only get the other party a word or two words of affirmation and guidance, or just help you solve a small problem.
At this time, don't be discouraged, don't give up, because this stage is likely to be the stage where the other party tests you, and the other party wants to see what kind of person you really are. What you should do is that no matter how little the other party helps you, you must be grateful and know how to give back, give gifts when you should give gifts, send red envelopes when you should send red packets, give benefits to give benefits, and the other party may not care at all, or will refuse. However, you have to show that you know how to be grateful and reciprocal, let the other party see that you are not a white-eyed wolf, let him see that you are a reliable person, at this time, he may give you greater help, and you have the possibility to truly establish a relationship with high-end networks.
Good connections are out of place, to create high-end connections, to win the help of nobles, is no exception, the premise is that you have to master some interpersonal communication "scheming", such as the above three. But these three are certainly not all, if you want to learn and master more of the "heart plan" to build high-end networks, the following will share a copy of "Play is the Heart Plan" for you.
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