The netizen letter said:
Since the birth of the child, my wife's complaints about me have gradually increased, and the main reason is that my wife thinks that I make less money. In fact, I also have a salary of more than 6,000 yuan per month, which is in the upper middle level in our local area. Perhaps, the wife will feel that she should be worthy of a man who earns more than ten thousand yuan a month or even more, in fact, her monthly income is less than three thousand yuan, and I have never been picky about her because my wife makes less money, and feels that our lives are more than enough than the bottom.
What bothers me more is that my work often faces business trips, sometimes up to half a month, when the child is the most worrying thing for me. Some time ago, I went on a business trip again, this time the business trip plan is ten days, but the partner belongs to the more cheerful one, less than a week, I finished the work of things, in this case, I gave an early return. When I got home, my wife was at work and my buddies were watching TV in our living room (my buddies are businessmen and his work is relatively flexible). In the face of my questioning, the buddies could only tell the truth: during my business trip, my wife called my buddies so much that my brothers moved into our house. And asked: When did your relationship begin? Dude: It's been four months.
After a reprimand to the buddy, let him get out of our house. Presumably my buddy told my wife about him and my wife, because my wife called me about half an hour after my buddy left our house. I didn't want to argue with her on the phone, I could only tell her that you'll come back from work.
Later, my wife came back, and I had already thought about the direction of our marriage, so I did not argue with my wife about it, but calmly proposed divorce to her. My wife did not want to divorce me, but my wife's dislike for me in her daily life and her cheating on me made me unwilling to live with her anymore. So, I was firm in my divorce options. As a result, there will be some heartache and some regrets, but I must follow my own heart.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
Something I especially can't understand: there are always some women who have a particularly average ability to make money, but they are disgusted that men who earn nearly twice as much as him have no ability. In this era of relative equality between men and women, there may be some discrepancies in the income of men and women in the workplace, but the gap is not obvious, and even some women earn more than men every month. Therefore, when women feel that the family income cannot satisfy themselves, they should find reasons from themselves.
Can I understand your wife's dislike of you in this way: in the married life can not find you too much fault, can only use your income to find stubble, and form a purpose to taunt you. In this case, you can be discouraged and find a plausible reason for your extramarital affair. It means that the reason your wife is really cheating is that she likes the new and is tired of the old, but she also knows that she and her lover (your buddy) can't be exchanged for the result of restructuring the marriage, so when it comes to the real topic of divorce, she is not willing to divorce. The point is, what good things have been taken advantage of by her, and you can only be at the mercy of her in your married life?
In fact, your wife's dislike of you in her daily life has made you very angry, but I just think that it is not easy to form a family, and you are a good man who cares about the family and loves children, so you will digest the grievances given to you by your wife in order to take care of the integrity of the whole family. However, after she got involved in an affair and was exposed by you, you don't want to be more generous, at this time you will feel that divorce is the best way to deal with it, and you will pay practical action on the divorce.
All people who are truly disappointed will feel wronged, and at this time they will think that no matter how hard they work in their married life, they will not love people's hearts. If this is the case, then return the lover to the human sea and let the other party fend for himself. At this moment, perhaps when you reminisce about everything between you and your wife, you will feel depressed, aggrieved, heartache, and even disgusted, and even think that your sincere efforts over the years are particularly unworthy.
Inevitably, your brother also has his own family, and after you divorce your wife, he will naturally not divorce your wife; you will also turn against your buddies because of this matter, then, in this intricate relationship, the person who will eventually cool down must be your wife. Here, I remind you: in the face of those who hurt you, do not be merciful in the event of divorce, but strive to maximize the property interests of you and your children. After all, for those who hurt us, if we give accommodation, we will seem a little stupid.
In today's marriage market, there are too many people with a fascinated and confident mentality, and the key is that they also need to have a reasonable positioning for themselves. At some point, the lover gives you accommodation, it needs to be based on your marital fidelity, if you act betrayal in the marriage, then the lover will give the decision to divorce in order to defend his dignity and follow his heart. At this time, don't think that you have eaten your lover. After all, after the lover has saved enough disappointment, you are not so valuable in the lover's heart, at this time, the lover will feel that you are extremely disgusting, and naturally will exchange for the result of divorce.
It needs to be admitted that when divorced, there will indeed be too many entanglements, including the feelings of parents, the fate of the children, and even losses at the level of money, but people live a lifetime, all efforts are in the struggle to maximize their own happiness, if a relationship is left with only humiliation, then withdrawing from the relationship is the best decision. Of course, after the collapse of this relationship, there will definitely be some unhappiness in my heart, but the trouble of getting out of the shadow of divorce will be left to time to be indifferent. We should not let ourselves live in the pain of "loss" in this life, after all, the future days are still very long, and we must strive for the possibility of regaining happiness through our own efforts.
Editor's Note:
Everyone is reluctant to be a licker in the emotional realm; everyone wants to be valued in the emotional realm. However, there is a distinction between love and less love. At this time, for the party who loves less, don't feel that you are superior, and don't feel that you can do whatever you want in the married life, once your inappropriate behavior makes the other party save enough disappointment, then, when the other party mentions divorce, even if you are not willing to withdraw from the relationship, it is difficult to keep the other party by your side.
In the adult world, it is best not to have paranoia, because the person who loves you is also flesh and blood, and he will perceive all your attitudes toward him. In a relationship, you can make yourself appear bland, but please be less sarcastic, strong, selfish, double-standard factors, and do not show disloyalty to the marriage, because when the other party is too depressed in the relationship, the other party can only go to the best strategy.
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