Recently, Shenzhen caring people rescued a homeless old man, and the identity of the old man was exposed, which caused shock to the whole network.
The old man's name is Jiang Yuanchen, 75 years old, from Yantai, Shandong. In the early years, he ran into the rivers and lakes and created a great career.
He has companies in Hong Kong and Shenzhen, and at his peak he had tens of millions of assets and hundreds of people under management. When interviewed by the media that year, he said with a smile: My business has expanded to Inner Mongolia.
At this time, he was full of ambition and triumphant, and he had no idea that good luck would soon be far away from him.
In 2017, one of Jiang Yuanchen's companies was listed as untrustworthy, and two other companies had their business licenses revoked. In just a few years, the family property was lost and penniless.
It is reasonable to say that even if the entrepreneur is bankrupt and has accumulated in the first half of his life, he should be better than ordinary people.
But there is an old saying called: The present world reports, come quickly.
When Jiang Yuanchen was young, he disregarded his family, and after bankruptcy, he not only rebelled and separated, but also separated his wife.
The "chairman" of the hall was homeless and ended up begging for food on the street.
The multi-millionaire went bankrupt and went on the streets
In 2020, Jiang Yuanchen began to wander, and simply put some of the items he picked up, which became a shelter.
Many nearby residents had greeted him, but no one knew: this old man turned out to be the famous "Chairman of the Sacred Dragon Group".
When he was rescued by caring people, he was gaunt, thinly dressed, and his hair was messy, and he had been wandering for more than a year, and his appearance was like a poor and withered "beggar".
Deep inside, Jiang Yuanchen was full of unwillingness and shame.
Reluctantly, he once borrowed money from a bank in order to expand his business, but as a result, because of the arrears of suppliers, the broken capital chain, and the overdue loan led to bankruptcy.
The business empire that has been painstakingly built with a lifetime of hard work has also been burned. In order to collect debts, he had to whisper and ask for people everywhere, but he still couldn't get money.
From the rich man to the "negative man", the huge psychological gap broke his psychological defense line, and Jiang Yuanchen, who could not accept the reality, broke the can and fell in the street to pick up waste.
Some people may ask: Why didn't he go home?
Jiang Yuanchen was ashamed to face his family, because he had never taken care of his family and could not look up in front of his family.
In the 1990s, Jiang Yuanchen left his parents to work in Hong Kong and has since broken off contact with his relatives.
More than 20 years ago, he was addicted to sound and color dogs, horses, lights and greenery, leaving his wife and children to live happily, and his wife fell ill in order to support the family.
"He didn't have a home more than 20 years ago, and he's pathetic, aren't I pathetic?"
However, Jiang Yuanchen said that his wife had contacted him when he went bankrupt, and he did not want to go home at that time. The two are not divorced and are still a legal couple.
Perhaps it is the wife who is completely dead to her husband, who is over 70 years old and is bedridden, and now firmly disagrees with sending Jiang Yuanchen home.
Jiang Yuanchen's two sons and a daughter are also vague about this.
In their view, the father brought too much harm to the mother when he was young, and the past pain can not be mentioned, but there is no feeling for the father.
His wife and children are unwilling to take care of him, and caring people can only send Jiang Yuanchen back to his hometown in Shandong, and if no family is willing to accept him, they can only send him to a nursing home.
When he was young, he abandoned his family and did not return to his head; when he was old, he fell back to his roots and returned home with no one to rely on.
How ironic.
A comment in the comment area with 5,000 likes told the truth about Jiang Yuanchen's defeat: when he was young, he broke the heart of his family, and he could not live by himself.
Oh, yes! But whenever he bought a few clothes for his parents, shared the pressure of running the family for his wife several times, and cooked a few meals for his children...
None of them are so isolated.
When you are young, you have failed too many people, and when you are old, your husband and wife become passers-by, and the hurts you once have taken root in the relationship and can no longer be pulled out.
Rather than saying that "old and helpless" is the revenge of the wife, it is better to say that this is the fate of a negative man who blames himself.
Marriage is an "investment you love me"
One visitor saw the news and wrote me a letter:
Jiang Yuanchen's experience is exactly the same as my father's. The difference is that my mom is more determined.
My father's family was very poor, and sweet words chased my mother to hand, and soon after marriage, the original form was revealed: eating, drinking, gambling and gambling all day, and not seeing anyone all year round.
Go home, either to take the money and continue gambling, or get angry outside and beat me and my mom.
When I was a child, I was most afraid of the doorbell ringing in the middle of the night, because he never brought the key, and as soon as the doorbell rang, I had to get out of bed and open the door for him. If he is late, it is a beating.
Of course, even if the door is opened, if he is drunk, I will not be beaten.
So, growing up I didn't know what "fatherly love" was, and when I thought of my father, I had only one word in my head: fear.
Now I have a job and a family. After the birth of the child, my mother came to help me with the baby, and my wife knew that my mother suffered in marriage, and she was very sympathetic and very kind to my mother.
My mother often lamented to me: "The hardships I suffered before I was 50 years old have now become blessings." I am still blessed. ”
And my dad, the status quo is very miserable.
When my mom was in her 30s, my dad was in debt, and in order not to drag down the family, she gritted her teeth and divorced, while working several jobs to support me growing up.
Today, my father is over 50 years old, he is sick, except for a house that he wants to go to when he is divorced, he has no savings, and there is no pension insurance.
My mother told me: Don't give your father a penny, he is pitiful now, he is also difficult to move, and if he gives money, he will gamble.
So I broke off contact with my dad.
He couldn't find me, and he went to my unit to find a leader, asking the leader to give him my salary, saying that it was "the obligation of children."
The leader naturally refused. This incident made me very angry: Didn't you pit me? But if you have the slightest consideration for your family, you should not be so selfish!
Since then, my father and I have not had any love affair. In my mother's words: "When you didn't recite grace, don't blame me for breaking my righteousness now." ”
After reading this letter, I can't help but sigh: this mother is really too great, not only to stop the loss in time, but also to understand human nature, bravely jump out of the moral shackles, and give the child the best future.
Because of my work, I communicate with many women every day, most of whom are unhappy in marriage, and their husbands' betrayal, domestic violence, and gambling bring great pain.
But even so, they did not give up their family responsibilities and did their best to take care of the elderly and children.
There is an "investment effect" in marriage: whoever works more for the family gets more in return.
Happiness is like a scale, who pays more chips, the center of gravity is biased towards whom. We also often have such a scene around us: when the wife is young, she takes care of her children with hard work, and when the children grow up, she begins to enjoy happiness.
And the husband, when he was young, only cared about his own happiness, and his children did not recognize him when he was old.
People's blessings are limited, and if they are exhausted in advance and do not work hard to manage happiness, they will naturally be old and helpless and isolated.
So I always tell them: Don't give up hope, your good days are behind you. Wait and see, the person who failed you will not end well.
Life is fair, without sowing, how can it be harvested? After hard work, you can naturally sit back and enjoy glory.
Be a person who knows how to manage life
The psychology book "Intimacy" believes that there is a "theory of interdependence" in marriage, and everyone wants to get the maximum reward value of their partner at the lowest cost.
Therefore, we prefer to maintain a relationship with partners who can provide sufficient benefits, and only in the face of such a reasonable partner can we continue to give without complaint.
Once the partner gets more rewards than he gives; or if the partner only cares about himself and does not provide benefits to others, the intimate relationship will take a sharp turn.
Because everyone has a comparative value: the same level of giving, others have already had a good life, and I am still suffering, think it is really angry.
Bodhisattvas who have long held such thoughts will also complain, not to mention that with the development of the times, many women already know:
Blindly giving has no good end, it is easy to become a soft persimmon that everyone can bully; blindly taking will not have a good end, and no one can tolerate an extremely selfish partner.
Psychologist Roland Miller has come up with a consensus: result = reward - cost.
How much we get from our partner, minus how much we give for our partner, we get our conclusions about the marriage.
So, a marriage worth continuing to run is always rewarded with a little more reward than pay. Otherwise, the party who pays more will lose feelings and confidence in the marriage.
The balance of income and expenditure in marriage is balanced, and once one party no longer pays, the other party has nothing to gain.
Therefore, people who do not care about their families when they are young often have to pay for stupidity and selfishness in old age. The person who once loved him deeply was heartbroken by him, and as the party who gave withdrew and left, the intimate relationship collapsed, and naturally there was no advantage for him.
If you are still suffering in pain, remember a sentence: your efforts will be rewarded; your pain will be calmed. Negative hearts will eventually become the epitaph of negative hearts.
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