The red dust world, the world's strife, and no quarrel with people is just wishful thinking, and most of them will be squeezed out by others, rather than a speculative corner of peace. There are small disputes and major disputes in the world, and there are few times of great disputes

The red dust world, the world's strife, and no quarrel with people is just wishful thinking, and most of them will be squeezed out by others, rather than a speculative corner of peace.

There is a distinction between small and big disputes in the world, and when there is a big dispute, there are few, and the small dispute is overlooked.

Most of the great disputes are related to the change of life, that is, the so-called chaotic world, so the means of struggle are often more extreme or unscrupulous, violence is its main feature, and the loser usually loses his life.

And small disputes are related to various trivial interests, from high-ranking officials and nobles to peddlers and pawns, outside colleagues and friends, inside the family and brothers, small disputes are everywhere. Small is not pleasing to the eye, large is the status of property, and small disputes are not disputed.

The means of the big dispute are rough and direct, the hero straw bale is clear, the victory and defeat of the battle are determined, so reading as a story is often wonderful, making people feel that the happiness and revenge are so vigorous, but the blood and tears and pain in it can only be deeply experienced by the people involved; while the small dispute is different, the means of struggle are often not rough and direct, but with twists and turns, all kinds of insinuations, fingering mulberry scolding, holding guns and sticks, and cursing people without spitting dirty words are some so-called masters' good tricks.

Perennial chain thinking education and absolute truthism education have made many people lose the ability to think divergently and dialectically, and think about problems instrumentally and intuitively to think about how to solve them, and are not accustomed to virtual and vicious snakes and ambiguities, which also causes people to feel difficult to get along with and be scolded for low emotional intelligence.

In fact, only by correctly understanding the difference between big and small disputes can we get out of confusion and accept all kinds of greasy and stubborn people's hearts. The big dispute is the struggle between the enemy and ourselves, the two sides do not have the necessary space for cooperation, only sharp real conflicts of interest, so they are all life-and-death struggles, and therefore always full of violent and extreme colors; and small disputes are different, small disputes are internal disputes, the two sides are not enemies between you and me, but there are many necessary cooperation spaces in other aspects, at best, it is a dispute between you and me, so the means of struggle cannot be extremeized, on the contrary, in order to maintain cooperation in other aspects, it is also necessary to maintain the state of "fighting without breaking". After all, "fighting tigers also requires brothers to avoid the escape of their companions as much as possible, and on the battlefield, fathers and sons are more likely to have lifelong friendships."