In recent years, women forced to marry by their families have become a concern in the United Kingdom, but a subordinate department of the British government said that men also face such problems. United Kingdom

An English man forced into marriage

In recent years, women forced by their families to marry have become a concern in the UK, but a subordinate department of the UK government says that men also face such problems.

The Ministry of Foreign Affairs and the Home Office's Forced Marriage Unit (FMU), a joint venture between the Foreign Office and the Home Office, said they received more than 220 emails and calls for help last year, all involving cases of men being forcibly married, up 65 percent from 134 in 2008.

And some experts believe that this number may be just the tip of the iceberg, and there are still a large number of unreported cases.

Forced marriage groups say the reasons for forced marriage are different, but a significant proportion of men who are forced to marry are forced to marry because their families discover or suspect that they are gay.

Most forced marriages occur in immigrant families from South Asia, especially in countries such as Pakistan, India and Bangladesh.

Forced marriages occur mostly in the summer, and the staff of the forced marriage teams have thus become more vigilant. It is estimated that there are about 10,000 forced marriages in the UK each year, of which 20% are forced to marry men.

According to the Forced Marriage Group, men are forced to marry for a variety of reasons, including to obtain visas, to control men's behavior, or to preserve the reputation of a family.

Victims, mostly young people between the ages of 15 and 24, are often subjected to corporal punishment or even sexual violence if they refuse to marry in another country against their families' wishes.

In addition to the invisible marriage pressure from parents, the British also have to bear the fragments of those so-called "experts". Although they are not your family, many times they seem to worry and worry about you more than the real family. Of course, it will also make you a head, two big.

After graduating from graduate school, I applied for a work visa for a tech startup, samuel was my work partner, and at the age of 41, I was still single. In fact, in his case, it is quite normal in the Uk, because as early as 2015, the number of singles in England and Wales in england and Wales had exceeded the number of non-singles. Samuel's parents didn't think their son was single, but some didn't.

One day, Samuel cried and pointed to a news headline on the Internet: Singleness can easily lead to crime. A bit sensational. Looking further down, it turns out to be the view of a sociology professor at the University of Manchester. According to the expert's theory, single people do not need to earn money to support their families, so they have a poor sense of responsibility, a low ability to resist temptation, and are more likely to take a crooked road, thus becoming a factor of social instability.

Samuel was indignant: "How can it be a sin not to marry?" From birth to now, I have always obeyed the law and never hurt a dog, so why should I blame us bachelors for the increase in the crime rate? ”

I also felt a little too much, but I didn't know how to comfort him. Two days later, Samuel shared with me the findings of a Birmingham expert: singleness will cause damage to the national economy, and GDP will fall. Samuel sighed twice: "Everyone doesn't buy things, the spending power is declining, blame me?" This pot, I don't carry. ”

In fact, every once in a while in the UK, people will come forward to talk about being "single". The reason is very simple: in recent years, the British economic growth rate is weak, people feel more and more unhappy, tracing back to the source, more and more large singles on the negative list, after all, to find a scapegoat to calm the people's grievances. Many single people like Samuel are of course very unhappy about this, after all, no one can be happy to be blamed for such a big thing as pulling down the country's economy.

Compared to the more real Samuel, the client Nicole is more comfortable. However, she also has times when she can't sleep because these people always like to say something that can make her blood pressure rise instantly. The power of these words was obviously more anxious than "why aren't you married?"

Single Nicole is 39 years old, which is when she begins to be sensitive to health, but some experts prefer to poke her "death hole". Once, after talking about business, Nicole asked me eagerly: "Do you think I've been a little fat lately?" I looked her up and down for half a day and shook my head in denial. But she is still not assured: "You must not lie to me, I can not be fat, experts say that people who are not married are more likely to get fat, which is not good for health." ”

I laughed dumbly: "Don't listen to them, how do I think those who are married are more likely to be overweight!" Nicole bowed her head, I thought she was persuaded by me, but she threw out a question: "Experts also say that not getting married is more likely to suffer from Alzheimer's disease, and it is more likely to die early." 」 Do you think I should find someone to marry off? ”

Oh my God, this is really the rhythm of forcing people to get married quickly! Compared with these British experts, my mother's forced marriage tricks can only be regarded as pediatrics. Recall that a few days ago she asked me on the phone: "When you go to someone else's wedding, don't you have the idea of getting married?" At that time, I could also use "go to someone else's funeral, I don't want to die" to show off humor. But if she read these scary quotes from these experts to me, I guess I would be really nervous for half a day. After all, it has risen to the height of life,and there are not many people who can continue to remain calm.

68% of UK single dogs have experienced a variety of unfair treatment. It seems that the whole of British society is on the side of the married, and their motto to single people is: "Don't hold on any longer, or get married, marriage is a lot of benefits."

Summer is the season of high incidence of forced marriages, and young people who are forced to marry are usually taken to other countries to get married in the summer.

Judging from all the reporting emails and phone calls received this year,

British Foreign Office Undersecretary Jeremy Brown said, "Boys who are forced into marriage are less likely to seek help than girls, but we encourage men who are forced to marry to be brave enough to speak out and ask for help from the relevant organizations." ”

According to statistics, British singles will encounter invisible discrimination in many aspects of social welfare, they spend 5,000 pounds more than married people a year, roughly calculated, if a person chooses to be single for a lifetime, then he will spend 250,000 pounds more than married people. Think it's unfair isn't it? Then hurry up and find someone to marry.