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A small fart child really can't do anything, but he can make his parents scratch their hearts and scratch their livers and can't do anything.
After the child is 1 year old, his own ideas are more and more, especially the age of 2 years old, "dogs are disgusted", "crying", "unreasonable trouble", "splashing and rolling", "willfulness" are synonymous with children.
Regardless of whether their demands are reasonable or not, as long as they do not go well and their parents do not meet them in time, then what follows is a big drama full of rolling on the ground.
What about the child who should be rolling and sprinkling?
A mother in Xuzhou posted a video of her daughter rolling around on the Internet, only to see her daughter lying alone in the park open space, lying for a while to find that her parents did not pay attention to herself, and her heart was a little weak.
However, just as she was about to get up, she saw her father come over and immediately recline down, his fingers still leisurely tapping the ground, so that he could live comfortably.
Worried about the cold on the ground, Dad picked up the child twice, both of which ended in failure.
Helpless, the father can only stand next to the child to guard, the mother shouted: angry heart, liver, spleen, stomach and lung pain!
In this battle that does not see the smoke of gunfire, we can obviously see that the child is confident, but in order to cultivate his personality, the child's temper cannot be habitual or ignored!
Don't be pinched by the "little farts"
In fact, we often meet such children around us, mainly because after the age of 1, the mental development of children makes them understand that there is a close relationship between their behavior and external reactions.
Once they know that such behavior is beneficial to them, then they will repeat it the next time.
The most obvious manifestation is to pinch the weakness of "parents are afraid of losing face, afraid of their injury" to achieve their goals, and over time they will develop bad habits that are difficult to correct.
There is also a situation where children lie on the ground and cry, indicating that they are beginning to have emotions to tell, happy or unhappy, but because they are still young and do not know how to express their emotions, they can only use body language to express, such as sprinkling and rolling. So what should parents do when faced with children crying for no reason or unreasonable demands? It can be taken in three steps.
Three steps to get the rolling child
First, teach your child to express their emotions correctly
In the face of children crying and willful, parents should first learn to control their emotions, parents' emotions are extremely important in the process of dealing with children's crying, if children cry and do not listen to advice, but will make the emotions accumulate more.
At this time, it is better to give children a certain amount of time and space to vent their emotions, and parents can also sort out their emotions. Of course, the premise is that the place where the rolling is safe, if it is not safe, it is necessary to immediately hug into a safe environment.
Similar to the "don't cry" these words, in fact, is to refuse the child to express their emotions, the child has emotions are not wrong, we must acknowledge the existence of emotions, guide the child to use straightforward language "I am angry" "I am sad" and other expressions.
If you don't want to get a bear child, then don't give up your bottom line and principles so that the child doesn't cry, the child needs a certain range of freedom, not to let go of the self.
Therefore, for their unreasonable demands to be resolutely rejected, it is normal to have emotions, and it is reasonable to vent emotions, but this cannot be used as a means of threat and weight.
Second, divert your child's attention
If the child makes unreasonable demands and does not listen to advice, parents can choose to pretend to ignore them, turn their backs on the child, pretend to have a good time, and make a louder sound to attract the child's attention.
In addition, you can choose to replace the dangerous activities proposed by the child with other appropriate activities, such as inviting the child to play games to divert the child's attention.
Finally, reduce the negation of the child and give more options
On the one hand, when you frequently say "no" and "no" will stimulate the child's rebellious emotions; On the other hand, children around the age of 2 have no concept of danger, curiosity and willingness to explore the world.
So, if the parents say no frequently, the child will feel irritable.
When the child stops the dangerous movement, we can let them play with the toy.
For the more stubborn children, we can say", "Do you choose to read or play with toys?" "Make sure to stop the child's behavior while giving them other demands and choices, giving them a certain amount of freedom."
How to avoid your child from making unreasonable trouble in advance?
Do not refuse every request of the child, meet the requirements of reasonable and feasible in time, and say "wait and see" for the requirements that are feasible but limited by external reasons, and do not provoke the child's emotions. As far as possible, let the child be in a calm state, avoid excessive fatigue or excitement, in this case, their emotions are easy to lose control, should be in accordance with the child's normal schedule, eat and play and sleep on time. If your child is not particularly comfortable with their parents' arrangements, consider canceling the original activity plan. When children encounter difficulties, parents should give them help, or key tips, to ease the child's nervous emotions.
Love is the best love that parents can give their children. Not considering whether the child's needs are reasonably met will only make the child become a "bear" child and affect their healthy growth.