As the saying goes, the most difficult relationship to deal with is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the deepest hatred is the feud of the moon. Indeed, sometimes the feud may even affect the next generation.
I saw one thing on the Internet before, during the New Year, Ah Xiang brought her children to the elders' homes to pay respects to the New Year, during which the elders gave the children money, and Ah Xiang and his peers also gave the old people New Year's blessing red envelopes.
However, just when the whole family was jubilant, Ah Xiang's children shouted, "Mother, why did you only give Tai Mao a hundred, but gave Tai Ma a thousand?" The appearance of this sentence suddenly made the whole scene quiet, and Ah Xiang was also very embarrassed.
However, the child's words made Ah Xiang even more embarrassed, because Ah Xiang said: "Is it because she used to bully her grandmother?" As soon as this sentence came out, not only did Ah Xiang feel very embarrassed, but some people around him who knew the inside story also began to be embarrassed.
So, why is it that during the New Year, Ah Xiang will give her tai mu and tai nu a completely different amount of red envelopes?
In fact, it is because Ah Xiang's mother was often bullied by her grandmother when she was confinement, so Ah Xiang's mother and grandmother had a confinement vendetta.
Some people may ask, why does the feud between Ah Xiang's mother and grandmother make Ah Xiang care so much? This may be what people say about the yuezi vendetta will be intergenerated.
The occurrence of the yuezi vendetta is inseparable from these reasons
The feud of the confinement is generally a very deep impression on the mother, this hatred is almost a kind of hatred that will be unforgettable for a lifetime, and the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is also one of the most difficult relationships to deal with, so the feud between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law has become a situation that people cannot look at directly.
Therefore, once many mothers have a feud with their mother-in-law, it is difficult to let go. That is to say, because the feud is too difficult to alleviate, these situations may occur.
Bao Mom inadvertently exposed her child to her own hatred
Most parents, in fact, do not like to pass on their negative emotions to their children, they all want to let their children grow up in a happy and happy atmosphere.
However, sometimes the mother can not completely hide her emotions, so that the child can spy a hint, gradually, the child in life is constantly exposed to the hatred of the mother, so that when these emotions are linked together, they gradually understand the hatred relationship between the mother and the grandmother.
Of course, there are also some mothers who take the initiative to release their emotional pressure to their children, often saying bad things about their mother-in-law in front of their children, so that children know the vicious relationship between mothers and grandmothers.
The child saw the abnormal relationship between the mother and the grandmother
Some mothers are more careful, hiding their feud with their mother-in-law in front of their children without a horse's foot.
However, in ordinary life, Bao Mom may not be able to communicate with her mother-in-law naturally because of the reason of confinement.
Over time, the child can naturally see that there may be some "strange behavior" between the mother and the grandmother, when the child gradually grows up, he will slowly realize the reason for the strange relationship between the mother and the mother-in-law, and will understand that the mother and the mother-in-law actually have some hatred factors, which will be like that.
Of course, there are also some mothers who feel that they are well hidden, as everyone knows, the normal mother-in-law relationship is very intimate, and the mother shows a kind of respect and concern for the parents of the elderly, but if there is a gap between the mother and the parents of the elderly, then the child can see it at a glance, so don't underestimate the strength of the child.
The child learns from the population that the mother and grandmother are not in harmony
Of course, sometimes the mother and the grandmother do not live together, and the usual intersection is not much, the mother is tight-lipped, so that the child is difficult to see the hatred factor between the mother and the grandmother from the mother or daily life.
However, to know the problem of the mother and the mother-in-law's confinement feud, not only these two people know, the father will also know, the relatives close to the family will also know, and these relatives may be accidentally learned by the child when talking about the bad relationship between the mother and the grandmother.
It is precisely because of these reasons that the child will know the mother and mother-in-law's feud, and those who have not experienced it naturally cannot understand the suffering of the parties, and naturally have no right to speak.
However, the seeds of hatred should not take root in the hearts of children, otherwise they will have an impact on their growth. Therefore, we need to try to avoid the generation of monthly hatred that affects the child's life.
If the "confinement feud" has appeared, how to avoid children being affected by it?
Moms should pay attention to their performance in front of their children
Parents have a great influence on their children, so mothers should pay attention to their words and deeds in front of their children, such as when they have a grudge against their mother-in-law, they should not show it in front of their children. When the mother has any emotions or is unhappy, she can find the father to talk to, and do not release in front of the child.
Husbands and other family members should pay attention not to "chew the root of the tongue"
For the fact that there is a feud between the mother and the mother-in-law, many people in the family may know. However, this kind of thing that is not conducive to the relaxation of family relations should be avoided as much as possible between family members.
Because this kind of behavior does not have any benefit for the alleviation of the confinement feud between the mother and the mother-in-law, and even the two may aggravate the hatred because of everyone's "tongue chewing" behavior, more importantly, the family's "chewing tongue root" is likely to make the child have an empathetic reaction and get the "inheritance" of the confinement vendetta.
In fact, the root cause of the feud between the next generation is because the feud is difficult to let go of in the hearts of bao mom and mother-in-law. Objectively speaking, as a family, there should be no such far-reaching and long-term hatred, so bao mama, as a young person, should take the initiative to remove misunderstandings, ease the relationship with her mother-in-law, and create a beautiful family environment.
epilogue
The hatred between the mother and the mother-in-law during the confinement period is actually mostly caused by misunderstandings, when the misunderstanding is solved, there is no hatred, and the child does not have any generational feuds, you say no?
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