Scientific parenting trivia
The child is sent by Heaven to test his parents,
There will be a lot of surprises and happiness in parenting,
But there are also many helplessness and challenges,
It is important to learn scientific parenting.
01
Crouch down and talk to the child
Whether in yourself, relatives, friends' homes or in public, when you want to say something to your child, try to crouch down, put yourself at the same height as your child, hold your child's little hand with your hand, look at him with kind eyes, and then say what you ask of your child with a pleasant face. Have you found that when you speak to your child in this way, the child listens to you the same way, and is happier to carry out your "instructions" and complete it faster and better? The same or even better effect is achieved, the difference is only the way you speak, while the child is happier and carries out the same "command" to you. That's because you squatted down and you spoke to him in a kind tone.
02
Protect your child's self-esteem
Teaching children in front of the living and outsiders is the most likely to hurt children's self-esteem. In fact, the child's ability to understand is quite strong, when you don't want him to do something, just shake your head gently, or quietly stare at the child, he will understand, there is no need to say it out loud.
03
Respect your child's sense of independence
As a child grows older, so does his sense of autonomy. When you feed him he says "I eat myself", when you help him dress, he says "I wear it myself", maybe he will get full of food, maybe he will dress in a mess, but we don't want to discourage your interest, but trust him, encourage him, give him the opportunity to learn, otherwise the child will never "grow up".
04
Communicate with each other a lot
Don't just want to know your child's various thoughts, but also tell your child what you think, for example, what work dad does when he goes to work, what mom usually likes to eat, mom and dad are happy about what the baby is doing, and so on. Open your heart to the child, the child will treat you the same, the problem of communication is solved, and the parents and children have a tacit understanding with each other, which is beneficial to the growth of the child.
05
Can't think of education
Educating children must be persistent, and educating children must not ignore the details. A friend in england saw a grandmother with her little grandson on the bus, the little boy stepped on it first, only to be called down by the grandmother, the grandmother wanted to go first, and said to the little boy: "Ladies first!" "Gentleman's education is probably cultivated from an early age!"
Paul Clark, a famous American teacher, wrote a book "Excellence is Cultivated", which pays special attention to the details of children's education, such as not talking with food, pushing the door if there is someone behind him to open the door, and looking at people with kind eyes, etc., which are the details of children's growth. If you do not always remember the responsibility of educating children, miss the critical period of children's growth, it will be difficult to think about education later.
06
Talk can't be thought of as education
The less you communicate with your child, the less you know how to communicate with your child, the less you know how to communicate with your child, and the more you must not understand your child. What do you usually say to your child when you have the opportunity to talk to him? A child in junior high school told me that the most his parents said to him was: Eat quickly, do your homework quickly after eating, and go to bed quickly after doing your homework! As a parent, do you know the pressure and pain in your child's heart? Can you step into your child's inner world? Parents gradually fade from the child's emotional world or even absent, and conversations with children are more likely to become preaching, criticism and rebuke. When your child reaches the age of 13, you will not even have the opportunity to criticize.
07
Don't compare it to someone else's child
Every child has a huge difference, and every child has a reason to be "like this". Educating a child is best done for his "look". Mozart played the piano well at the age of five and composed music at the age of seven, and that was Mozart. For the child, a simple comparison can not solve the problem, may wish to patiently analyze with him, so that the child will neither inferiority, nor jealousy and hostility towards others.
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