01
It is time to start visiting relatives in the New Year, and it is time for young people to rise in blood pressure.
On January 22, when a girl in Xinyang, Henan Province, returned home, she saw her room miserable.
Not to mention the garbage and snacks on the floor, lipstick was taken apart and painted on the ground, broken foundation and powder were seen in the eyes, pain was in the heart, and the remains of big-name cosmetics were everywhere, and there was almost nothing intact.
The girl herself was not at home and could not look at her belongings, it was only her mother at home, she was cooking, so she did not watch the two boys run into trouble.
But a well-bred child will not mess around without the owner's consent.
The girl photographed the scene in the room with a relative, who said he had seriously criticized the boys.
But did not take the initiative to file compensation, the mother also advised the girl to forget the New Year.
Huang Lei once said that Chinese there are eight major forgivenesses: all come, it is not easy, they are all friends, or children, people are gone, the big New Year's Day, give a face, for your own good.
I can even imagine what words the mother uses to deal with the girl: "They are still children, they don't understand things, everyone is not easy, give a face, just like this, the big New Year's Day is counted." 」 ”
The people who say these words are often not victims, they may want to be peacemakers and enjoy the pleasure of mediation, or they may be perpetrators, so that the victims do not ask for compensation from themselves.
Behind the eight forgiveness is a kind of moral kidnapping, in a vain attempt to swallow all the grievances of the victim in order to seek superficial peace with each other.
As for how sad and sad the victims are, no one cares.
If you insist on getting justice for yourself, you don't understand things.
The result of the incident was also uncomfortable, and the girl thought she was unlucky and blamed herself for not locking the door.
But as long as you put something in the house for a day, it risks being broken.
02
If the price of cosmetics is considered unlucky and can swallow bitter fruit, then the collection of handmade can be said to be sky-high.
A Japanese netizen once posted on a forum that he is a veteran anime master.
Usually there is no hobby, like anime, so most of the money is spent on the purchase of handicrafts, for him, this is faith and sustenance, nothing is more important than these handicrafts.
Netizens have specially arranged a room for their own hand office, and usually they are more cautious about locking the door for fear of being destroyed by others.
But the accident still happened, when netizens went to grandma's funeral, the children of the cousin and cousin-in-law broke through the door and smashed the handle to the ground.
Then there is the cousin and brother-in-law's slime performance: children don't understand things, you are so old don't worry about children...
Netizens searched the Internet for the price of these handicrafts, and found that their losses were as high as 4 million yen, and the most important thing was that these handicrafts pinned his emotions, and these emotions were priceless and could not be measured by money.
The cousin looked at him with a skeptical face, thinking that he was extorting money, but it was useless, and finally paid all the compensation.
The money is back, and his youth and memories can never be found again.
The two families broke up, and the cause of everything was simply because the parents did not look after the children.
Behind every bear child, there is a high probability that there will be a bear parent.
03
After a bear child breaks into trouble, we often see parents or other relatives stand up to protect the child.
There is no rebuke, no education, no correction of mistakes, just blind connivance, all things are the fault of others, and their own children will always be good little angels.
If the child does not establish the correct three views in early childhood, when he grows up, society will make him realize his mistakes at a more serious cost.
The French educator Rousseau said: "Do you know what methods you can use to make your children unhappy?" This method is to be obedient to him. ”
Breaking other people's things is only a final result, and before that, countless mistakes have been made but turned a blind eye: breaking into the room without the consent of the owner, taking things randomly, throwing snacks everywhere after eating, destroying the ground blanket, as long as you are happy, no matter what others think...
The parents of bear children are not unaware that such behavior is wrong, but it is always themselves who take advantage of them, so they feel that it does not matter.
Only when they need to pay for their children's behavior will they come back to teaching their children.
But not everything has the opportunity to compensate and change.
A child's performance is often the truest portrayal of parents.
When parents are polite and polite, children will also behave appropriately and do things in a measured manner.
When a bear child is in trouble, parents are likely to shirk their responsibilities for the first time.
The child is a blank piece of paper, the parents are the first person to hold the paintbrush, the child is also a mirror, what the parents are like, the children are what they look like.
As a person who has been hurt by a bear child, I don't want you to let him go because you are afraid of trouble, likewise, if you are the parent of a bear child, I also want to advise you, pay for the child's 200,000 compensation today, and what should I do after the larger amount?