Liking and loving are not the same.
From liking to loving is a process from stars to moon.
When a man likes you, you are a concrete image in his eyes.
He will describe you with words gentle, lovely, sunny, cheerful.
Of course, he will describe you this way, and he can also use these words to describe others.
But love is different, and the person who loves you will see a different side of you.
Sometimes it is not very serious, likes to be intuitively handsome, and prefers to conform to the crowd rather than think.
He will dislike you, but he doesn't want to change you and make you what he once expected.
You understand his vulnerability and he accepts your preciousness.
Other people in his life can be replaced by people with the same qualities, but you have integrated into his emotions, within him.
Here's how a man changes from "like you" to "in love with you."
From making you change to being willing to change for you
Likes are more superficial than love, not deeper.
When there is a problem with your relationship, he is thinking of making you change;
Instead of making changes for you yourself.
Because his liking for you is far from enough for him to change his habits for you.
So, he will make all sorts of demands on you.
He will even make changes for him in the name of love.
If you don't change, you don't love him.
But if a man is in love with you, then he must be willing to make changes for you.
You are spicy, no spicy and not happy, but he is just the opposite, he can't eat spicy at all.
However, in order to accommodate you, he will try to eat spicy.
Gradually, he became more and more able to eat spicy, even more spicy than you.
He is not doing this to please you, but is willing to sacrifice for love.
Because in his heart, you deserve it, and for your love, you deserve it even more.
From not proactive to proactive
Teacher Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once said something like this:
"If one person really loves another person, there will be many worries in the heart.
Afraid that the other party is hungry, afraid of the other party's cold, afraid that the other party is unhappy, worried that she will be in trouble.
In his heart, as long as the other party is good, so he will always think of her in his heart. ”
Deeply.
Like is passive, love is active.
Like is to indulge, love is sincere and frank.
People who like you, he will play tricks with you, often hang your appetite, let you take the initiative to come to him.
But once he falls in love with you, he becomes particularly proactive.
You used to care about him, and now he cares about you frequently.
You can also notice changes in your mood that he didn't notice before.
He will be happy with you when you are happy,
Comfort you when you're sad and give your shoulders and arms to you.
At the end of the day, men are very smart, and they used to not notice but just didn't care;
Now he will think of you in his heart and care about you because he is in love with you.
You're in the future plans
Liu Jialing once said this:
"Men never mature, they just get old."
Actually, I think men become mature after they really fall in love with a woman.
Before he fell in love with you, he never seriously thought about your future;
Just enjoy the beauty of the moment.
Because he doesn't know if he'll always like you.
But when he falls in love with you, everything will be different.
He will want to have a good future with you, and naturally he will plan you into his own future.
He no longer lived a day by day, a muddy day.
Instead, start to work with a plan and a purpose.
He will fight hard to give you a happy home.
Indeed, for men, liking is playing and pleasure, while love is seriousness and responsibility.
If you love someone, you will want to have a future with him, and you want to give her full happiness and security.