While there is no completely replicable template for raising successful children, there is something for the parents of these "successful children" to learn from us ordinary parents.
After all, there's a famous saying: To raise an awesome child, you first have to be an awesome parent.
What kind of parents are amazing parents? Gold? Or an IQ explosion?
Earlier, Business Insider published an article in Time magazine saying that it had summarized nine common characteristics of successful parents through a large number of research data provided by famous schools such as Harvard and Stanford.
Are you curious? Let's see if you are also a potentially good parent?
01 Willing to use children to do housework from an early age
According to a Harvard University survey, the employment rate of children who love housework and children who do not love housework is 15:1 in adulthood.
Parents of successful children can realize that having children do housework can improve their practical and learning abilities, and cultivate their children's sense of responsibility and obligation.
Children who do housework can better understand their own things and do themselves.
From an early age, they have the awareness and ability to solve problems independently.
02 Emphasis is placed on developing children's social skills
According to a study that followed more than 700 kindergarten children aged 2 to 5 across the United States, early childhood social skills will affect their achievements 20 years later.
These parents often invite other children to play at home or have their children actively participate in extracurricular activities.
Children who communicate and cooperate regularly with others are better at solving problems, are bold, thoughtful, helpful, and are more likely to succeed when they grow up.
03 Provide a pleasant family atmosphere for the children
It is said that love between husband and wife is the best education for children.
Many successful children grow up in families where their parents love each other.
Their parents also know how much they love each other and how much love their children have in their hearts.
At the same time, a survey showed that children from harmonious single-parent families developed better than children from nervous two-parent families.
In fact, it also shows that even if the parents are not together, if they can often get along with the child, communicate and play together, build intimate feelings with the child, let the child know that they are still loved and recognized, this will not affect the future development of the child's life.
04 Close parenting for the first three years
Neuroscientists emphasize that children with healthy personalities and smart brains are safe enough, and the most important thing to build a sense of security is in the first three years of a child's life.
If children get an intimate education during these three years, they will not only achieve good grades, but also have better relationships and academic performance by age 30.
Parents of successful children will seize the best opportunity to build parent-child attachment.
Of course, intimate parenting does not require 24-hour companionship, but quality accompaniment for a fixed period of time.
05 If you don't surround your child all the time, you can maintain emotional stability
The so-called "emotional contagion" basically refers to the transfer of bad emotions from one person to another.
When parents show anxiety, irritability, anxiety, depression, and anger in front of their children, their children are also negatively affected.
Parents of "successful children" don't always surround their children, especially after the age of 3, but they can also bring more sunshine and happiness to their children.
Even if they are depressed, they can find a more suitable way out.
06 The mother also participates in social work
Research from Harvard Business School shows that if a mother has a job outside the home, it will greatly benefit her children's development, especially if there are boys in the family.
When they grew up, they spent an average of 7.5 hours a week caring for their children and 25 minutes doing housework.
"Working mothers are one way to develop a gender perspective."
07 Affirm the value of children's efforts
Studies have shown that children who are often praised as smart prefer to do easy things because they can always be praised; children who are often praised for their efforts prefer to challenge difficulties because they enjoy praise from others after success.
The former will think that "naturally smart, do not need to work hard", once defeated will deny themselves; the latter is more and more courageous on the road of life.
Parents of "successful children" will say to their children, "You answered all these questions correctly, you worked very hard," "The performance worked, you worked very hard." They will let the child know that everything is his acquired effort, not his innate wisdom.
| Proverbs 22:6|
To raise a child, to make him walk the path of the profession, even when he is old, he will not deviate.