In fact, before the three-child policy came out, many people took this road. It is only after the release of the third child that more and more people join this ride, but behind this, there is a phenomenon that needs to be pondered.
01 The family is too poor to open the pot, or hard to give birth to three children
Xiao Zhou married her husband five years ago and gave birth to two daughters in four years, but her husband just wanted a son, so he planned to have three children. If the family conditions are better, then there is nothing wrong with having three children, but the original family conditions are not good, coupled with the failure of the husband's investment in the first two years, now the family's food expenses have to rely on borrowing, and also owe a bunch of debts.
The husband and wife's parenting of the two daughters is also insisting on saving the province, the eldest daughter is more than three years old, and the girls of the same age have gone to kindergarten, but because the couple cannot afford the tuition, they simply do not let the children go to the kindergarten. At the same time, I also found a good self-comfort reason for myself, saying that now children can't learn anything in kindergarten, they all play in kindergarten, and the same is true at home.
When the family is too poor to open the pot, they still plan to have three children? Xiao Zhou also asked her husband this, but her husband was still very sure that he would give birth, and in her husband's view, having one more child was a matter of adding a pair of chopsticks. In the end, the two did succeed in giving birth to three children and a little boy as desired, but the couple's life became more difficult.
Because Xiao Zhou must take care of the children at home, the husband is alone to make money outside, and the money earned every month is only enough for the daily expenses of the family, and after the birth of the third child, the pressure has obviously become greater, and the child's milk powder, diapers, etc. are not a small expense. At this time, Xiao Zhou's husband realized that the original poor conditions in the family, if you want to have three children, you really have to think twice.
02 The "main force" of the three children is mainly divided into two camps, and the trend is becoming more and more obvious
In fact, in our side, there are many situations like Xiao Zhou's husband, and in the main force of the three-child army, one of the camps is also this type of person, the family economic conditions are not good, it may be difficult to even bear the second child, but for various reasons, stubborn to have three children, is such a practice really desirable?
Some people with poor family living conditions, they feel that "saving money is not as good as saving people", as long as they have more children, there will always be a chance, or hold the psychology that they must give birth to boys, so they choose to have three children, but they have not thought that under economic pressure, there are too many other uncontrollable factors, after the birth of three children, perhaps for the family, and for children, there are not many benefits.
It is said that children raise more, not as good as the fine, if you are not willing to spend time with and educate children, even if the children are born more, it is useless, but will bring more pressure to themselves.
To take a very simple example, if parents do not educate their children well, then when the children grow up, develop the habit of nibbling on the old, and multiple children are like this, then it is a devastating blow to the family.
Of course, it does not mean that people with poor family conditions cannot have three or two children, but to ensure that they can educate their children well, and can spend almost the same time on each child, to ensure that every child can be cared for, otherwise it is very unfavorable to the child.
In addition, there is a large camp in the main force of the three-child team, which belongs to the elderly category, and most of the camps in this part are elderly or ultra-elderly women, because they have been affected by policies and other factors in the past, resulting in regrets, and after they enter the advanced stage, they find that the three-child policy has been released, so they hope that they can catch this ride.
And these trends are becoming more and more obvious, in the main force of three children, young people obviously occupy a minority, and good family conditions will rarely consider having three children, because they want to concentrate their resources on raising one or two children.
It should be known that the birth of three children at an advanced age has a greater risk for women, and the fetus will experience more obstacles in the process of growth and development, and even have a greater possibility of developmental deformities and other conditions. Therefore, this is also why doctors emphasize that as far as possible to give birth to three children before entering the advanced age stage, otherwise the probability of mothers leaving fertility sequelae is also higher.
The two camps of the main force of the three children make people feel anxious after watching it, of course, it may also be that their lives are also very happy. In the end, whether to have three children, in the final analysis, is a personal choice, but I hope that everyone can fully consider before making a choice, otherwise they will encounter various problems in the future and may regret it, but it will be too late.
I also hope that parents who have given birth to three children can spend more time on their children, children are the future, if they do not take good care of their children, just to raise children and run in life, even if the money is earned, there is no point.